Do you want the ones that everyone wants, or do you feel that's just too much competition for you?

[Anonymous]

[12karen]

I dated guy that a lot of girls wanted after I dated him for two years bc he had a glow up and became popular in high school. And it was annoying bc it hurted him to see all of those fake person who just wants him for their ego.

And I once wanted and got the guy that everyone wanted but I didn't like him and I felt pathetic when I dated him as If it was just a game for us dating, I felt bad since it was like I'm taking advantage of him. I think dating is not a competition, it's loving, taking care of each other, respecting and sharing. Taking it as a competition, is as if it's just a game to boost our ego, it's unhealthy and could hurt others.

[PeachyPie93]

Nah the hottest of the hot I never actually want to date them, I just admire them from afar.

[HawkPerception]

I don't care to fight over women that every other guy wants. That's why when it comes to dating, I avoid girls that are active on social media. Those girls tend to need validation from people online and have inflated egos thinking there's always a better guy for them out there because they're always being complimented by everyone that sees their posts.

I'll always go for the girl that does not desire attention like that and focuses on being a loyal, feminine, and kind girl.

[paledreams]

Luckily not everyone likes my taste in women's yet some may out of temptation - aka "big tits" as a blanket thing - they might just want to do her once where as I actually want a long term love lol - makes sense? So I may walk along with my girlfriend who has X Y Z attractive looks or whatever to other guys ♂️ 👀 yet they only be looking because they want "temptress* lol 😆😂

[paledreams]

And not all guys like pale hahaha 😂🤣 I do

[Iron_Man]

I don’t play those kind of games fighting over women. The girl takes advantage of it and comes back to throw it in your face so they can get more from you and they basically threaten you well someone also said he was going to do so-and-so or so-and-so has this? It’s a game that they play I don’t want any part of it. They either want me or they don’t.

[Asker]

You assume that she's playing games. There are hot or desirable people that don't play games, but because of their looks/personality, everyone wants to be with them, and guys are always trying to hit on them no matter if they are just sitting there reading a book minding their business. Same with guys of that category.

[Iron_Man]

They do play games so they can work you for their best opportunity. I know how they are.

[Iron_Man]

I am a former athlete I compete in sports. I don’t compete in
dating woman either she likes me or she doesn’t I’m not gonna play these kind of games about get me a car how much money do you have? What have you done for me lately so she can compare everything and then make the final decision this is not the bachelorette on tv

[Asker]

You sound like you've been hurt before and are taking it out on all women. Not everyone is out to hurt you or get you or destroy your life. Remember that.

[Iron_Man]

I wasn’t hurt but I overheard a girl that I never met in person years ago on a dating service saying that this guy is rich because she made a three-way phone call to her friend before she called me and he was listening the whole time and he forgot to hang up and she was busted by me her having a 20 minute conversation about me after she was gold digger, and that sparked my train of thought to be careful and she forgot to disconnect the phone call and I overheard her saying everything

[Iron_Man]

All she kept talking about is how much money I have and that I travel and I have a huge home because she knew about my home so there you go it’s all about the cash flow for a lot of women

[just_a_potato]

I feel like I'd be anxious all the time, wondering and fearing someone will always be trying to tear us apart and take them away from me. No thanks I'm not competing with strangers in my own relationship lol

[SotiCoto]

I hold the opinion that the ones "everyone" wants are ugly and unappealing because "everyone" has shit taste. It isn't a matter of competition. I wouldn't have them even if they wanted me.

[Amandanator]

I don’t need a popular guy. Just one who pulls on my heartstrings and has a way with me.

[Paul09]

No , not really. I hate competition in that field. I don't think a stranger is good enough to fight for, if a bunch of guys are trying to get her. I'd be put in second place when another guy comes around. So I just back away.

[normalice]

There is a long distance between "want" and "pursue."

[MrDaveAPSI]

If you want to make him jealous, you're just playing games yourself. Girls say they hate games. So, why play them back?

[MrFrenchFry]

No that's a female thing. I forget what it's called but there is a word for it. It's like pre selection. That's why trends are usually female things and why women are more prone to group think

[Anonymous]

If a person asks themselves this question I don't want to date them. When she learns to date for the right reasons I'll consider her.

[Danny_dan92]

That’s typically how it works

[Nerdvana]

I want the one that is perfect for me.

[JonesT10Apr]

I have a memory of too... love to celebrate

[Anonymous]

I want no one and no one wants me, it's perfect

[Emmytexrex]

Lol I don't want any

[Anonymous]

I don't want anyone