Should I continue being a understanding person?

[Anonymous]

I am an empathic person to a point. How many chances should I give people. I trying to give people bit of a doubt. I am at the point where I just don’t care. I may like a person but I am not desperate. I definitely won’t be chasing anyone to meet me or date me. I know what I want m, I just want settle down and just be with one person for the rest of my life…forever person. I just want some one I can have deep conversations with and talk about anything any where and everywhere m. Done one that I can laugh with. At this point I don’t care about looks…he can have a dad bod I don’t know as long as he treats me good and has respect for me.

[Oliverlogan263]

It sounds like you've got a really caring heart, but you're smart not to let yourself get taken advantage of. Here's what I think -

You should give people one, maybe two chances to prove themselves. Any more than that and they're just wasting your time. Like if they flake on plans, okay maybe something came up once. But if it keeps happening, peace out.

You also gotta follow your gut. If you just ain't feeling it with someone, don't force it. No point dragging it on if the spark isn't there.

And good for you for knowing what you really want now - someone you can connect with on a real level. Looks fade but a dope connection lasts. Hold out for that forever dude, he's out there!

Keep putting good vibes out and I bet he'll find you when you least expect. In the meantime live your best life. People will see how awesome you are and wanna sit at your table. Keep shining bright homie, you got this!

[DishLady]

My personal default is three chances. After that the person is wasting my time.

[Anonymous]

Yes, I think so.