Is it ok for my girl friend not to tell me who is messaging her on telegram?

[Anonymous]

[_Maya_]

Sorry but you are really over the age of 45? You seem awfully insecure. Do you keep a log and present it to your girlfriend of every text, email and phone call you make. Just let that one sink in. It is obvious that you don't do that because only someone mentally unstable would. So if you don't have to give her every single detail of every single interaction you have with every single person on every single day... I'm getting tired just typing this... then don't expect her to. You have some trust issues and I suggest you fix that because your relationship is not going to survive if you can't trust her to talk to other people without ulterior motives.

[Asker]

I understand your postion. However, why is she using the telegram app instead of just texting? Or instagram, FB messenger? Telegram as far as I know is like Whatts app. The messages are highly secure and auto erase. Why does she need that? Thanks for responding

[_Maya_]

But what does it matter what app she is using? Should she not be entitled to her privacy. Why do you want to know so badly what she is talking about. I think this goes back to my original opinion and point. There are some massive insecurities here.

[Asker]

It matters because of what I said earlier. Why not use a "normal" app. What's with the secrecy? Wouldn't it be easier just to say "I'm talking with BlaBla Bla" and be done with it?

[DishLady]

Sounds like you just don’t trust her.

[Asker]

Why use that app?

[Asker]

Maybe I don't 100% trust her, but if there is nothing to hide why not just tell the truth? By not telling me it makes things look like she's up to something. Am I wrong? If this was the other way around I would just tell her because I have nothing to hide.

[Anonymous]

No it's not. Leave her alone about it, she's looking to move on from you so have your fun with her while it lasts and prepare yourself for when it ends and in the meantime if yiu find a better chick all the better.

[Asker]

Thank for the responce. I'm not sure I'm with you in "have your fun with her while it lasts ".

[Opinion Owner]

I'm saying she's looking to cheat. It's hard to accept. My advice is to continue to have sex with her, get ready to move on and be sure that when it's over you aren't say paying for a car in her name, or leave stuff in her place that you need, or have paid for tickets in her name. Women are absolutely ruthless and uncaring at the end of a relationship, even when they end it or were doing the cheating they feel entitled to what's yours. Also watch out for false allegations

[Asker]

Thanks for the responce. It appears you have some prior history with something like this.

[Opinion Owner]

She not your girl, it's just your turn.

[Anonymous]

She should tell you

[Asker]

I agree. If there's nothing to hide, than just tell the truth.

[jahaims]

If she hides it she is cheating.

[Asker]

I happened to see on her screen that someone was messaging her early in the morning. When I asked her about it she got angry and would tell me who. She says she should be able to talk to who ever she wants. I'm not telling her who to talk to I just want to know who and why someone is messenging her on that app. So now what? What do I say to her? Thanks for the responce

[jahaims]

Either trust her or dump her but that is an obviously red flag

[Asker]

Thats easy to say, but difficult to do either

[In_Trance]

what does it matter?

[Asker]

I didn't know she has this app. So why is she messaging early in the morning before she says good morning to me? Who is she talking too? Why won't she answer? Thats why it matters

[In_Trance]

See my first response