Are friends with benefits relationships only for the under 30's?

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Crimsyjo · Accepted Answer

I never had or wanted a friends with benefits thing until after my 30's. For a female.

We (females) are thinking of relationships with the possibility of marriage and kids in our 20's. (I think. Not all women of course)

Men.. younger men in their 20's are fearful of commitment and idea of potentially sex with only one woman for rest of their lives. But they are very horny and sexual so they would rather play the field. (Again of course not all men).

That is why women like me can be cougars 😄. We don't want the marriage and kids (been there done that) but are highly sexual. So friends with benefits works super well between our age gap.

And the younger women who are looking for "providers" and not guys who want to mess around want to go for an older man! So guys in their 30's get pick of girls in their 20's.

Guys in there 40's and above hope for a girl in her 20's 😄

And women like me.. well. After being with hot young guys find it hard to be attracted to suitable older guys who generally let themselves go!

What a mess!

And yes I was generalising a lot here based on my personal perceptions and experiences!

PeachyPie93 · Accepted Answer

Friends with benefits is usually a bad thing especially for woman, unless that woman is a slut and just likes sex. But there is no age restriction lmao. My older sisters good friend who is 40 ended up having a situationship with our older cousin and he is like in his early 50's.

ProbablyClueless · Accepted Answer

No, but they probably should be. I don't know anyone who ever really wanted a friend with benefits. It was always more something they tolerated to have a little human connection.

People who actually looked for that all disappeared from my life in the later half of my 20s.

AviatorTom · Accepted Answer

Are you kidding? Most FWBs are senior citizens, who enjoy the freedom to do whoever they want, no strings attached.

kylee2437 · Answer

Only you have a say on what goes on with your own sex life

Avicenna · Answer

Nope, some women in their 50s are quite willing to have them. I admit it surprised me at first, but not anymore.

thegreenyogi · Answer

I don't think so. We are all different and that includes what we need at different stages of our life which means that even after 30 a person may still need a friend with benefits because not ready for anything else. I think it's a preconception that certain things are limited to a younger stage in life.

Darkchild25 · Answer

Absolutely not. It depends on so many aspects. Everyone at some point is wanting at a different type of relationship.
Some might not be ready for the commitment but want the sex another people might not have the time for a relationship but still want sex. Some people might just want multiple sex partners or get bored easily.
All of which can happen to people of all ages who are sexually minded or sexually active.

Anonymous · Answer

if you must do friends with benefits, then yeah, it's more common and "acceptable" to have that in your 20's when you're still experimenting etc. if you're past 30 and still doing that, hell if you're past 27 and still doing that, then... i find that odd.

Schnikies · Answer

Nope, I think people aren’t good at being honest about what they actually want tho. That can lead to unfulfilled expectations. And people can change their mind and want more or less of a relationship over time.

HappyWoman34 · Answer

I must admit that I feel a bit old for casual hookups, but if I were not wanting a partner, I’d probably go for something ongoing and casual with one man.

DishLady · Answer

No… Unfortunately, friends with benefits has existed since the dawn of time… they just called it philandering and moved on….

Fireguy17 · Answer

Nope. Just about any age group likes to get busy and us older people have more free time to have fun.

mandyfire98 · Answer

Nope not at all. I know a couple of guys over thirty who are in them.

DarkLegacy · Answer

No it is for anyone who wants to do it. But if you a guy it is better to do it with women who are under 30. Obviously friends with benefits is more for women under 30 and men at any age because there is the wall for women.

Anonymous · Answer

Nope. I'm 40 and I love having a few friends with benefits!

dustybiker2 · Answer

I'd say it is more popular with the opposite end of the age spectrum. People who have given up on trying for relationships. Or so it appears.

BCRanger10 · Answer

I don't think  anyone  should have "friends with benefits" at all.

Anonymous · Answer

No they’re for everyone. But women are looked down upon if they do that past 30. They’re expected to be mothers with kids.

NathanDavis · Answer

do you explode or something... lol? if you do it at 31

Petermorgan43 · Answer

No. I think Older people can too, it’s just less common.

handsomelad70 · Answer

Usually, but we older lasses and lads can also avail ourselves of this situation.

AdolfWasRight1488 · Answer

Probabmore for over 30's if you aren't married before 30 is there any other kind of relationship?

Pterodon · Answer

Not necessarily I just ended things with mine

HighValue · Answer

friends with benefits is only for immoral low quality people regardless of their age.

Anonymous · Answer

For me personally yes. I’ve found “my one” and he’s basically my best friend and lover all in one lol

paledreams · Answer

Yes just like everything is only for the 18 's to the max 30 or absolute max age 31.

Vegasrunner · Answer

I would assume it's more commpn for those over 30.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes and no. I don't think there really much point dating after 40, almost definitely after 50. 30's there still might be some hope.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Obviously not if you ask around.

Gabriella2005 · Answer

I’m with a friends with benefits she 48.

RahuIInd009 · Answer

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Kelly6 · Answer

@cubapirate It can be any age

provokeesmokee · Answer

Absolutely not, lmao.

Tim2nice · Answer

No. They’re for all ages

Jennz6 · Answer

Depends on if you’re monogamous

Hotboy_booblover · Answer

No till one is sexually active

jahaims · Answer

It's for immature people

Emmytexrex · Answer

No I am not sure

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