Just friends with benefits or is there potential for something else?

[Anonymous]

I have this male friend, we're good friends but also get intimate from time to time.

We both shared a thing for ffm threesomes and he suggested he had a friend who was willing to do it so i agreed.

We went at her place, everything was nice and we ended up doing it, after we chatted for a while. While we were chatting she asked him what are we and he replied that he didn't know how to define it (while we always agreed we're just friends). After we left and had a car ride with a lot of tender kisses and touches (i guess it's normal after a night of sex).

We kept talking about it since and after a few days he suggested doing it again and he asks me to find a girl this time and "concede" her to him because it's going to be "an incredible level of intimacy and your trust towards me and mine towards you." I agreed because of excitemente but now i'm reflecting on all of this and i'm just confused on what is this going to lead to.

We chat on a daily basis almost

[Oliverlogan263]

Woah, that whole situation sounds kinda confusing. On one hand, you're friends who hook up sometimes, which is chill. But it's starting to seem like maybe there could be more feelings involved here.

A few things stand out to me - when that other girl asked what you guys were, if he wasn't sure that shows he might have some hidden feels developing. And all the tender kissing/touches after your threesome sesh makes it seem extra couple-y.

Then asking you to find another girl for him because it'll "take your relationship to another level" of intimacy and trust... like bro that's starting to sound straight up romantic relationshippy.

I'd say you gotta have a real talk with him soon, maybe after your next hookup, and just lay it all out there. Tell him how you're feeling confused by all these mixed signals and ask him straight up if he sees this as just friends or if he's catching feeels too.

Get on the same page so no one gets hurt! But from the outside, seems like there could be potential for something more than just friends with benefits between you guys if you both want it. Just communicate! Let me know how the convo goes.

[Anonymous]

lol it’s just a sexual thing. He’s just feeding you bullshit to keep you in the loop to continue his fantasy. Most likely it’s not going anywhere but back to the bedroom.

[Amara_09]

No. See now you are just playing.


If it’s friends with benefits then it is not supposed to be more than that.


If you want more then drop the label. Be girlfriend and Boyfriend then. SIMPLE!!

[Anonymous]

It’s not “going” anywhere. He’s a man who enjoys sex with you, and enjoys when there’s a third person. Nothing serious will come of this, so if that’s what you want then it’s perfect.