My best friend became my crush and now he is my friends with benefits. How do I get him to like me?

[Anonymous]

we have been bestfriends for 12 years now, we stopped talking 2 years ago because I had a partner that didn't like me talking to my bestfriend because I used to have a huge crush on him when I was 14 but he rejected me back then.
Me and my bestfriend started chatting again recently and it's like we never stopped talking , we spent new years drinking together on the beach looking at the sky catching up and chatting, it felt great. now we see each other almost 6 days a week and we have so much run together tease each other an laugh.
so we became friends with benefits recently but we agreed it's only a friends with benefits thing no love or emotions involved.
so sometimes we hook up when meeting up and sometimes we just hang and talk and laugh its just so much fun with him and I'm starting to fall for him again like i did in the past but I don't think i will ever tell him because I fear heing rejected by him again.
how can I make this into a relationship? or should i just be friends with benefits and not focus on the relationship issue? I mean it already kinda feels like we are dating because of how much we hang out together but I don't know I'm afraid of hurting myself with the expectations. is there something I can do for him to see me as a potential partner? he already loves and cares about me a lot but I want him to feel that romantically not "like a sister"

[mrfoox]

Okay I'm going to be honest... I think it sounds like he isn't interested in you in that way. I suggest asking him straight out, and if he says no... Then stop sleeping with him. If you have feelings for him already, it will only hurt you more to be with him sexually and unable to have him emotionally. I know that it sucks to hear this... But I really believe that it would be the best thing for you in the long run. Go back to being friends, but if you continue sleeping with him your heart will suffer, take a step back. You deserve to be with someone who cares for you like you do them, and this guy don't seem to be that person.

[AudreyB88]

It's never going to become a relationship. If you're not happy with the friends with benefits relationship then move on, and find someone else.

[Shiver]

Well, I see two clear options.
If you have the skills and talent, don't say anything and make it naturally progress into a relationship.
If you don't, just tell him you still really like him and want to be in a real relationship with him. You can't know what the answer is if you've never asked the question.

[cicchis0]

He's banging you like a sister?
If it feels like a relationship, what makes it not a relationship? Just tell him that you feel like things have moved beyond a bit of occasional sexual relief and you really enjoy his company and want to know how he feels. What's the worst that can happen?

[Raggdoll]

Well as long as you keep fucking you are gonna want him even more
Ask him again, he might reject you again it will hurt but it will also help you in setting your mind straight
If he say yes, then you are in luck

[foxrider77]

Just keep hooking up but ask to go on a vacation like the beach to hook up more. After all the travel you’ll know if your meant to be more. Is the sex good?

[blkgold33]

Well seems like you not going be able to change his mind. He said there no love or anything involved he rejected you awhile back as well. I guess maybe ask him if he wants a relationship with you

[Clayaya]

Stop the friends with benefits you’ll only end up hurt

[jss123]

Please don't get yourself hurt. You're developing feelings for him that sex is going to just increase. He's having sex you're making love. Two different things entirely.

[slurreyboy]

I know it may be embarasing but while you're sucking his dick ask him... fucking kids these days

[manmeat]

give it time and keep doing romantic stuff he'll come round :D

[shadow72015]

Get courage and Walk up to him and say it out else you will be in agony when he goes flirting with another

[rockrewls]

Just keep going and see where it leads? Maybe he will change his mind and fall for you.

[khurrambarkat]

What type of benefits

[Asker]

we have sex

[khurrambarkat]

So in this case you love him for real or you just want him