So met this guy and we both noted an immediate attraction and familiarity. Now I’m the type most guys try to wife up. And he’s a guy most girls see as the meal ticket and would play the long game in hopes of having him. I don’t play that game, bc I don’t need a meal ticket. And he noted that I was a unicorn, something he never dealt with. With that said, he is my first and last friends with benefits fun. There was something off about him. so when he proposed a friends with benefits situation I was completely game. We would have long conversation for hours at his place drinking wine or tea and then ultimately have sex. After sex, we shower together and we go on our separate ways. Despite Wayne being a “catch” on paper , building wealth, and exhibiting great potential as husband and father, he has no clue what he truly wants in love/dating. Having learned his dating past where despite his prideful claims of what he wants from a partner, he always waste his years on girls who are the complete opposite. Mind you, when we talk, there are always moments where he would look at me and say things like “I mean who’s to say we won’t eventually end up together. You exhibit everything I’m looking for and vice versa” “you’re beautiful, wholesome, and intelligent” “wife material” and throw breadcrumbs like that. Last week, I came across him in public. I walked towards him, smiled, and waved. He happily smiled, but then immediately tensed up and got nervous. In that split second I realized he’s on a date, noticing the girl by the tables. Before I could fully stop and say “what’s up!” He’s like “I’ll message/talk to you later”. So I kept walking and continued my phone call with my friend and laughed. Doubt that girl is a “gf” yet since she’s different from the girl on another date (first bump in) where he didn’t even acknowledge me lol. for someone who is so confident in life he cowered real fast like he was nervous. I don’t get it. Why make it awkward? We’re friends for 1yr now. 😂
Saw friends with benefits on a date with a girl. He smiled and then panicked?
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Well you’re not just friends, you are hookup partners and your conversations a veered far from one I’d ever have with a platonic friend. With that in mind, running into you public was awkward for him. He probably didn’t know what you’d do, if anything, and honestly it just looks fake on his behalf. There’s no good reason to make all those comments with you about possibly progressing one day, then hop on his phone entertaining other women.
100% agree. But that’s the thing, I’ve always let him know in any opportunity given that though we could be something great…. the current us will NEVER become anything more than casual as long as this casual arrangement continues, which I was completely happy with. So not sure why he still panicked. Made it pretty clear on my end. 🤣
Yeah, that’s why I say he didn’t know what you’d do, which I don’t believe is fear of “losing” anything with you, but how you would respond to the other woman. He knows already that you two are friends with benefits, but that may not be the arrangement he’s trying to create with the woman he was on a date with. He may see potential outside of sex, and worried that you’d come up and say something to him or her, blowing his cover lol.
Lol 😂 just find it amusing…also a bit laughable really 😂. I told him I will be his wingman before LAMO.
Well i doubt any guy that's talking all this serious stuff with one person and then gets caught on another date by that person, the guy would assume it ruins things but tbh I don't know, this is confusing
He has nothing to panic about, so that is weird.