Friends with benefits got a girlfriend even though he said he didn't want a relationship?

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I had a friends with benefits situation for about a year with one of my closest guy friends. Throughout our time together, he specifically said that he "wasn't emotionally available for a relationship" (basically made it very clear that he would never want to be more than just friends with benefits). I also didn't want anything more at the time which is why I agreed to friends with benefits. However, he broke off the friends with benefits situation a year later and immediately started dating. And it's been two months since we stopped and he already has a girlfriend. I am happy for him but how can he suddenly be "emotionally available" for someone? What does that even mean? I can't help feeling that I was only worth sleeping with and nothing more. I'm also really hurt because our friendship really crumbled after the friends with benefits situation and now I've sorta lost a friend and feel like I was worth nothing.
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1 mo
I should also mention that his behavior was very weird when we were friends with benefits. He'd say things like he was being romantic with me, he'd come over "only for cuddles", he'd try to kiss me and put his arm around me in public even though i was always specific about not wanting to do anything in public, he'd get mad when I'd talk about my past crushes and tried to kiss me so I'd stop
1 mo
... these behaviors felt relationship-y but I always took his word for the fact he didn't want anything more, but I guess now I feel a little used for more than what friends with benefits is supposed to be.
Friends with benefits got a girlfriend even though he said he didn't want a relationship?
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