Is it even worth it? Or am I setting myself up for heartbreak?

So. It's obvious that I'm a newbie at this--the sight and dating.

Anyways, I've gotten myself in a bit of a situation-- I think I've set myself up for a huge disappointment. The scenario is this; I really like a guy, he knows exactly how I feel, and knows that I want to be with him. And on some level he does too. Yet, he doesn't want to date me.

So, he suggested "friends with benefits"--and I use the term loosely. And I've been thinking about it for a long time. And still, for me, it just doesn't add up.

He told me that it would be better this way. Like a trial run at the life without heartache. He said that I am one of his closest friends, and that he doesn't want to lose me--or what's great about us. And he said this way it wouldn't be as complicated and no one would end up getting hurt by this--vs. If we got together, dated awhile and then have it inevitably end on bad terms; and cut ties altogether. He said that in the end of all of this, if things ended, we will still have that friendship.

He also said that since we already trust each other, it's not that big of a deal. There is no pressure to do certain things. Like that of a regular relationship. He said that of course there would be feelings and emotions involved. If that's true, then why can't we just date? I personally think that it's a cop out--not because he's scared of commitment, but because for the first time in his life this is real. And it's scary. Thus, him keeping me at a distance.

Maybe he really doesn't care and only wants a piece of a**, who knows? If that was what he was wanting then he should look elsewhere. Because he knows that I'm not going to give in and do that.

But what I'm wondering is if I should just cut ties and move on to something better? Or, if I should stick it out, because there is potential for a relationship down the road(his actual words).

Please tell me what you think.

Is it even worth it? Or am I setting myself up for heartbreak?
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