Why can’t I seem to meet a man who will love me?

[Anonymous]

No matter how loving I am I just don’t seem to meet any man who wants to love me. I’m not ugly I’ve definitely met lots of people who told me I was pretty or beautiful even men. I have a personality, lots of interests, hobbies, goals, but it’s like no matter how pretty or interesting or sweet I try to be it’s never enough to get a man to take me seriously, show much interest, or want to love me.

I get so jealous seeing women being treated tenderly because sometimes it feels no man will ever love me romantically that tenderly. If I had a boyfriend I’d give him the world and shower him with love, when I meet guys I always wonder if he could be that guy and I imagine showering him with that love and affection but they never seem to be the type to reciprocate. When I date guys half aren’t really the loving type at all and the rare 1 or 2 that have reciprocated always seem to never work out. Guys never want to give love it feels like but I see them do it for other women so many it’s just not towards me.

[ProbablyClueless]

Are you the type of girl who goes after guys she feels like she can fix, or like she can win their love over?

I'm saying this as a guy who grew up in an emotionally unstable, abusive and neglectful household; when someone is habitually attracted to emotionally unavailable people, it's because they have had healthy and present love modeled for them in life.

[Asker]

I go after whatever I can talk to really.

[Staximus]

Just don't accept bad or substandard treatment. Make it clear from the beginning that you are looking for serious and not there to play stupid games.

[Asker]

I don’t but because I don’t I get no treatment. No men even speak to me when I’m out plus I have any mutuals friends who are men. It’s like ruling out the ones who treat me poorly which is already a very low number leave me with none. Is it me, what am I missing?

[DishLady]

You’re super young… just wait a little longer and as you mature a little you’ll probably find someone…

[Danny_dan92]

Patience