Why is it so hard to find a good man that loves me?

[lovelygirl1234]

My boyfriend broke up with me, seems like all he was after was sex. I'm a good woman I take care of all the men who I date and try to change for them to feel like I want to settle down and not party anymore.

It's always the same yeah I know I'm extremely sexual but I'm very faithful and loving.
I just want a cute guy who brings me flowers every now and then and tells me I'm his one an only woman. Is it too much to ask?

[partydelights]

It's a sad fact of life that marriage is no longer viewed as sacred and divorce is planned even before the wedding day.

The root cause is girls gave sex to guys before marriage.

So for guys who are promiacuous in nature, hop from girls to girls without commiting because it's easy to get laid nowadays.

Try to imagine life 50 years ago, where women never open their legs until the wedding night...

Guys won't get sex unless they went to whores. So they woo, court and won hearts of the girl they love. Yes love, the one and only. And they they plan for their wedding and get married, have sex, build a family and live happily ever after.

That was before women became promiscuous. So stop giving guys sex. In that way you will win hearts, not dicks.

[melnc]

Yes, you have the right to be a relationship full of respect and love. but most relationships have become a temporary matter, so don't rush. that breakup is all about you not about him. It gives you scope for personal growth and makes you a lot stronger as an individual. however, never repeat the same mistakes again. I think what happened is just a conspiracy of the universe to lead you to your soulmate. so, have faith.

[lovelygirl1234]

I hope so

[melnc]

Thanks for the MHO

[nofunkgiven]

It's not too much to ask for. But just changing yourself for them and expecting them to change themselves for u is not enough.
Instead of chasing men who are only after sex u need to be smart and don't give yourself to anyone until you're sure he's got pure intentions. And that's rare nowadays so u need to have patience

[lovelygirl1234]

I'm not expecting anyone to change I change myself and open up to guys who become my boyfriend and the just get let down. If they wanna just hook up why not just say it, I honestly love to hook up but when someone says "I want to be your boyfriend" it should be serious you know

[nofunkgiven]

I know u don't expect them to change but u also don't seem to look for any red flags or wait until you make sure their words are backed up by actions.. And that's where u need to be smart in order to not be let down.

Obv a fuckboy won't just say he wants to hook up if they know u r looking for a serious relationship. So u need to not give them what they want, u need to wait and get to know them better and take things slow.

[lovelygirl1234]

But I'm always open and say "hey if you're looking to just hook up don't lie to me I'm fine with that just don't give me false hopes"

[Josh49]

If you keep changing yourself for everyone then what will be your identity, I don't mean be rude, I too was same like you changed for the one you love, but at the end you'll only be hurt.

Make changes only to those things which really needs to be changed.

[rickytim]

Sorry that happen to you yes you will find someone.. I'm waiting to find a great woman since my wife passed away 5 years ago hang in there you find a great man

[lovelygirl1234]

I'm sorry

[rickytim]

Thank you if you need to talk I'm here you can text me

[rickytim]

You can follow me if you what

[TallAnon]

Honestly, I'm looking for the same, I just want to cuddle once in a while, watch some movies and make her smile with typical couple things. You just need to find the right guy and take the time to get to know people 😊

[cancan73]

How can all of gag be full of suitable men but in the real world all men are cunts

[lovelygirl1234]

I don't ask for much just a cute decent looking guy that loves me for me 😞

[cancan73]

That’s what we all ask for 😞

[Logorithim]

Are you sure that there is no other issue here? There are lots of ways People can be incompatible.

[lovelygirl1234]

I'm not sure I try very hard to be feminine and affectionate while also giving them space

[Logorithim]

I'm bothered by this bit About changing for them. That is hard to do, and usually it causes Problems.

[lovelygirl1234]

Well I'm a party girl and I wanna show then I can be a proper lady too

[Logorithim]

They may think you're pretending to be someone you're not, and that is usually a big turn-off.

[lovelygirl1234]

But I'm not I just change to show them I respect them

[viginian]

Don't look for guys at parties maybe?

[lovelygirl1234]

I didn't we met at a family members house then we got long distance cause of his job then he comes back and cheats on me

[avalonbob]

Do you like real old guys who have an account with 1-800-FLOWERS?

[lovelygirl1234]

No...

[avalonbob]

DARN

[QueenofCups]

I know what u mean.

[lovelygirl1234]

Uuuu yes

[FlyingKite]

All you women chase around wrong guys because they make your girlhood tremble, friendzoning the good guys because they are boring then cry because this happens.
When will the thoughtless children become women?
what you are feeling are fireworks, excitement but its not love.
The men who have better qualities for lovers will have worse qualities for husbands.
You want a permanent relationship with the excitement of a temporary romance. Good luck.
It doesn't exist, swimming with sharks is exciting, yes, but a shark will not love you.
If you want something permanent you might have to accept someone, I dont know, more boring. The exciting guys do not want 1 female in their lives, seriously.
in these times they can get a new girl pretty soon and believe me when I say women get bored for men pretty quickly.

[lovelygirl1234]

@FlyingKite that's stupid you so called nice guys have good traits yes but most of you are unattractive and we'll worst part about it is that you critize us women for going for cute guys yet you won't go for a fat girl get over yourself. If you can't attract girls dress better and hit the gym and work on hyegiene

[QueenofCups]

@FlyingKite romance is important

I gave my love a cherry
That had no stone
I gave my love a chicken
That had no bone
I gave my love a baby
With no cryin
And told my love a story
That had no end

[lovelygirl1234]

I know. I have friends with wonderful relationships both guys and gals. I just wish I could have someone just sweep me of my feet and tell me I'm very special and make me feel butterflies and take me on adventurous dates from time to time. Like me without make up and take care of me when sick.

Of course I would wanna do that to him too

[FlyingKite]

lovelygirl1234 ITs exactly what I said, the good looking guys have sex with many women because they can, because they are plenty women like you they can have 1 night stands with.
They will not settle down with you, delude yourself how much you want. unfortunately the world is not all snuggles and cuddles. if you want something make a sacrafice.
if you want to be treated like an object but have someone to feast your eyes upon go for it.
if you want someone to settle down with look for the ones who want to settle down.
plenty of you girls watch these movies where a guy who says he will not love a girl falls in love with her and marries her. life is not a movie. grow up.

[lovelygirl1234]

@FlyingKite go away dude my pussy doesn't belong to you just cause you're"nice"

[FlyingKite]

Im with someone, she'd kill me.

[lovelygirl1234]

@FlyingKite great enjoy

[FlyingKite]

dont go for nice guys, cause they play victims and pretend to be hurt to be with someone.
Go for the natural guys because if someone is kissing the ground you walk on, well its weird lets be honest. I wish you luck in finding him, im just saying dont look for the one in a night club.

[lovelygirl1234]

@FlyingKite that's all I'm saying I just want a decent looking guy who I find somewhat attractive and that he and I can create a life together that's all I want

[FlyingKite]

I wish you happiness.

[jessture]

The key is you want to settle. That's boring

[Nahid1707]

I think you should move on and be patient.

[Decentguy]

Bad things always happens to good people

[lovelygirl1234]

I'll admit I'm not that good

[Decentguy]

every good person says that about themselves

[lovelygirl1234]

I've done my fair share of crappy stuff

[Decentguy]

Everyone has, nobody is perfect, so that doesn't mean you are not a good person