Do you guys think I upset him?

[Anonymous]

I have been dating this guy for a few months. We aren’t officially together but we enjoy each others company. We have crossed a few boundaries intimately, we have confessed our feelings for one another and we have gone on dates. We talk as if we have known each other forever and we literally met in April. We can talk about anything from things that happened in our past, what’s going on in the present sun we have even been a little vulnerable with one another. We just click. Our sense of humor is even the same or should I say similar. Today, the conversation of how serious we would take this came up and we both had agreed that we were cool with just enjoying the moments and whatever happens happens. If we were to grow apart or if either of us decided we needed to focus on another part of our lives and felt like we would be a distraction to each other in that time of our life, we would be cool with that too. Whose to say we won’t find our way back to one another. Then I mentioned how everything doesn’t have to be so serious as far as imagining a future of marriage and kids. That’s when he asked me if I ever thought about a future like that with him in it and my answer was no because I haven’t. I see him in my future but not in that sense. I feel like it’s too soon to even be able to picture a future like that with him just yet. He laughed it off when I asked if he saw a future with me in that way and then said he was just messing with me but soon after he got quiet and told me that he would talk to me later. He usually always calls back, this time he didn’t. I don’t think that bothered him as much as I can assume it did but this is a odd thing for him to do.

[Oliverlogan263]

Hmm that is kinda weird for him to get all quiet after that and not call back like usual. A few thoughts on what might have happened:

- Even though he said he was just messing with you about seeing a future together, I think deep down he had started to catch real feelings if he brought it up. And when you said no so soon, it may have stung a bit.

- Guys don't always like to show vulnerability so he could have gotten a little embarrassed he let that slip out and then wanted to play it cool by laughing it off. But was still thinking about it.

- It's also possible he's scared of getting really hurt if he let himself fully catch feelings but wasn't sure you were there yet. So now he's pulling back a little.

I wouldn't say you necessarily upset him, since you were both just being honest. But those kind of deeper convos can bring up emotions for people. Give him some space for now - he may just need to process things. If he comes around and opens up again, be sympathetic but also reassure him you really enjoy your time together even if the future is unclear. Hope it all works out!

[teamvic]

Oh yeah he in his feelings

You see, you know how girls will sometimes ask a question and get upset if the guy doesn't say the right answer, for them. Even though there's no, "right" answer?🤔

Same thing here, he asked and wanted to hear you say yes that you see a future with him

Even though what you said had no I'll intent behind it, to him it meant that you guys may be nothing more than friends. The dude likes yo ass and wanted to hear you say you want a future with him

He'll get over it. It's his fault for asking if he wasn't prepared for the answer

You answer just hurt his feelings a little bit. You'll be alright

[DishLady]

Yeah of course…

[Danny_dan92]

Yes. You did