When men say they don’t care about a woman’s success does that mean they want an unintelligent, non goal driven woman?

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Anonymous · Accepted Answer

No not at all. No we don’t want a girl to be a slave either as someone put it. We want a girl who would like to live that life by choice, not cause she’s forced to. Men don’t look at women’s success the same way women look at a man’s success. Her success doesn’t make her look sexier or more attractive. Women look at that which I can understand from a biological POV. If she’s going to have a family w a man I understand her looking at him from a financial POV. Her feeling secure that he can provide for us if she has a baby. I get it. No one wants to struggle financially as it is. Even worse w a baby on the way. Women usually look to men for security both physically and financially. Men don’t. Men know that her mi why isn’t going to benefit him because a large majority of women don’t share their resources w men the way men do w women. Women tend to see his money as our money but her money as her money. Plus instinctually I think it’s just in men to protect, to provide. If he isn’t able to do that a big part of his being as a man is lost. He doesn’t know what to do. Men need to feel needed in this way in a majority of relationships. If he doesn’t more than likely he feels like a failure. As for having a girl who is dumb. No most men don’t want a dumb girl. I still at least want a girl who I can have a conversation w. I’ve been w my girl for 15 years, this is the life we live.

ohsheeT · Accepted Answer

No it means that they're not intelligent and they want somebody to dumber than them don't listen to a guy and stuff like that if you come whom you want to become because that's who you're going to be.

When we were born we were all getting a gift that gave this choice we get to choose who we want to be by the things we say and we do so you can come who you want to come if a guy wants to follow you let them follow if he wants to lead. . sometimes that's good sometimes it means he wants to control don't let him control you

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Yes, a lot of the men on this site prefer women stay at home to clean and be their baby factories They don't want you to have any intelligence, independence, ambition or self-respect because they can't handle anyone standing up to them. There's plenty of decent guys in the site too but the misogynistic cavemen are louder. There's a reason those types are all on here single and whiny. Don't bother taking this kind of advice from this particular site.

avery58 · Accepted Answer

Intelligence has nothing to do with being goal driven in the workforce or not.

Avicenna · Answer

That is generally not what they mean. What they mean is that it's not a requirement. This is wise because the most goal-driven women are often uninterested in serious relationships.

RavVid · Answer

Another girl who is confused by why male mate selection criteria are not the same as female mate selection criteria! They aren't. Why should they be is a good question you should ask yourself (but probably won't).

One of my mandatory criteria is that I want a girl who is interested in the world around her. Guess what? Girls with college degrees can be quite uninterested and quite doctrinaire. Far more so than girls without college degrees. It is not IQ but interest I want to see in her.

There are a lot of personal qualities I want but that is the most relevant to your question.

Watch Hoe_Math YT channel. At the bottom of things men want from from women is a small cabinet of things we don't care about. That's were your college degree goes never to see the light of day again.

Hoe_math will explain it all to you (with color diagrams).

JonCobretti · Answer

No don't draw conclusions and judge so fast

I don't know why some women gain a satisfaction by trying to make a man look like a patriarchal misogynist (Not you)

This is equivalent to "If a woman cares about a Man's success , is she a gold digger"

It's just difference in mindsets and we look for different things in our partners

Women need to make sure that the man is capable of protecting and providing for her and their children.. similarly what Men look for in a woman are "Just Different" and a woman's career or success is not a priority category for a man.. which DOES NOT mean that he's against her having a career or any ambitions

TommyMountainFigure · Answer

No, you are reading way too much into it. It means it matters more to her than it does to us. We don't care how successful she is, as long as she's happy.
Just because you don't care about something, you cannot automatically assume it means you are set against it.. Don't care means exactly that.. one way OR the other, it doesn't matter!

PreferNot2Say · Answer

You women always go for the negative. Why is that?

Men, unlike women, don't have a check list of things a woman has too be before they will consider marrying/dating them. We don't care if you're a CEO of a major corporation or a bartender. All of that superficial shit comes from women.

Next time try looking for the positive in something he says.

ChiTown33 · Answer

That's like a guy asking a woman what she finds attractive in a man. You ask a 1000 women, and you'll get a 1000 varying responses.

What I would respond to this question would be different than what another guy would respond. For one, I wouldn't word it this way. Because I DO care about her success. What I consider a success might not be what another person considers a success. Success is not necessarily measured in dollar amounts, prestige, or influence.

Staximus · Answer

Why is it so hard to understand? Men who are not bums don't look for a woman to pay their bills. We want love, sex, loyalty, and companionship. Most men like intelligent women but don't care how much money she makes, how cool her job is, what she can provide, etc.

ProbablyClueless · Answer

That is not what that means, no. It just means that a woman isn't going to become more attractive as a result of being financially successful.  Most men will find intelligence attractive in women.

Makeushiver · Answer

It's probably due to insecurity. When you are insecure you o think they are the apotheosis of humanity. The German's have a great expression for this "Schadenfreude" or happiness caused buy failure of others.

WindAtMyBack · Answer

It doesn't mean that at all. It means exactly what they say. They don't care. It's a non-factor.

strateguy632 · Answer

no, we almost always mean what we say also never ever imply stuff, only gals talk indirect.

Fireguy17 · Answer

Nope. Success in business is just not that big of priority to them. As long as she is happy with what she is doing is more important.

Lynx122 · Answer

No it just means you can't make up for your lack of value in other areas with your job.

LiamJHayden · Answer

It usually mean his standards do not require she be a business owner or professional with a six-figure income.

mayurr · Answer

No. It means that it doesn't matter what qualification she have or in which field she is working. It's not compulsory that someone want a specific qualification like artist, doctor, engineer, etc.

shortster · Answer

Career focused women tend to be more interested in making money than romance. Or at least in my experience.

dolemite58 · Answer

No it means girls who think they’re a “boss babe” are usually obnoxious and arrogant, men aren’t turned on by that.

Pohjolan · Answer

No it means that we are fine dating the pretty gal working as a cashier at McDonalds.

Anonymous · Answer

They want a women they can shackle to the stove and beat/SA whenever the mood takes them

handsomelad70 · Answer

Not necessarily, but often, yes.

OddBeMe · Answer

No why did you go to absurd opposite?

In_Trance · Answer

No that's not what they mean at all

jahaims · Answer

Nope

noohair · Answer

No it does not.

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