How would you react if your SO told you he has had a crush on someone, while dating you?

[nik0102]

i told my ex that i had a crush on someone, and it caused problems that lasted for years

[Nirmroth]

Did the same stupid mistake when I started dating my ex with 18. Told her I fancy a girl in my class.

I had to hear about this for at least 2 years.

Just shut up the next time.

[nik0102]

I was hearing the same for 2 years too, until we had a break and she had sex with a lot of guys. What happened with you?

[Nirmroth]

Been toghether for 8 years until we drifted apart and broke up.

[RedInnocent69]

Crushes come and go. We often joke about them.

[nik0102]

We should. She took it way too personally

[Peridot25]

I would set him free and let him go be with her. It’s obvious you wanted your crush instead of your ex.

[nik0102]

how is it obvious?

[Peridot25]

When having a crush, you would find any excuse to talk to them or be around them. Your ex saw this as a problem and she knew what the outcome was going to be.

[Peridot25]

You can deny everything you want to but having a crush while in a relationship is dangerous. It will 100% guarantee lead to cheating.

[nik0102]

@Peridot25 when it happened, we were having some issues. i just started liking someone else. that lasted for 2 months, and i didn't cheat. then i came overit and stoped having the crush. by that point, because she was suspective something was going on, and i didn't ant to lie, i told her

[Peridot25]

“We were having issues” “She was suspective” And you wonder why she had an issue?

[Peridot25]

Sure you didn’t cheat, but that didn’t stop her from getting upset, did it? She thought the worst and who can blame her?

[Peridot25]

Let’s be honest. You would have reacted the same way if it was reversed.

[nik0102]

i dont blame her for feeling upset. i would react the same way. i wanted to be transparent with her because i respect her and trully love her and want to overcome every issue we have, but as a team

[OlderAndWiser]

Duh! Why would you do that?

[nik0102]

to be completely honest and transparent with her

[OlderAndWiser]

There would not have been anything dishonest about keeping that to yourself. Didn't you know how much it would hurt her and cause her to doubt your feelings? A girl's response to that bit of honesty is rather predictable.

[Juxtapose]

You should really keep some thoughts to yourself. You don't have to tell your lover absolutely everything you think.

[jahaims]

Dump em