How to meet someone so I don’t get so antsy I have to go back to one of my exes?

[Anonymous]

I’ve been single for a year now. I’ve only gone on one date since my last break up. I don’t do dating apps but I have been trying to meet people while I’m out to no avail. I have 2 exes who are pretty awful people. There’s no reason for me to got back to either of them at all aside from temporary comfort so I don’t feel so lonely. I’m not even sure if I was super desperate I’d be able to force myself to go back to either but I’m starting to get scared I might because I’m so tired of having no one. I just want a little taste of romance even if it crashes and burns. It’s not a matter of hobbies or insecurity I just want a partner or a new person, meet, get to know, to talk with and pour love into. How can I meet someone quickly so I don’t go back to my exes?

[DishLady]

So you just have to go swinging from guy to guy like a monkey on a vine? Come on, kid. Have some dignity.

Take the time to figure YOURSELF out rather than clinging to the D.

Think of it this way... Your exes are something that you know are bad for you... You can't have them... It's like having too many greasy fries... you need to take care of yourself and purge your system afterwards with lots of water and exercise. With the exes, you need to stand on your own two feet and purge them from your system...

[TommyMountainFigure]

The best way to meet someone is by not trying too hard to meet someone. Instead, work hard on making yourself the person you really like to see when you look in the mirror, (not in a literal sense,) because If you like who you see looking back at you, it is a safe bet others will too!

[Asker]

The thing is I like myself. I feel like the fact that I can’t seem to meet anyone is what’s making me so eager to meet someone. It feels like I work to better myself and better myself yet still no one’s in sight. I understand your point though and I’ll keep it in mind. Thank you!

[TommyMountainFigure]

You're welcome.. You realise then, the only thing you're doing wrong is looking in the wrong places to find someone.

[sawno]

Go the a place the kind of guy you'd like visits and strike up a conversation.

[Asker]

I’m a more alternative woman. I think I’m pretty attractive but I dress unconventionally I get really afraid to approach men because it’s very easy for me not to be their type. I know guys don’t think it’s true but when you’re a “weird” girl men can be pretty cruel.

[sawno]

How about places where your type hangs out though?

[jahaims]

Go to therapy