Fighting with my situationship because he called and my call got disconnected by mistake and he thinks I did it intentionally?

[Anonymous]

So yesterday someone said something really shitty to me and this guy was also there. He texted me and was really supportive. After a while I told him to rest and left the chat and put my phone in my bag. The previous incident had really bothered me and I needed a little calm. I came back to my phone after 1 hour and saw that he had texted me back insisting the late replies was because he was at work (he thought I left the chat cause he was replying a little late). I assured him that it wasn’t the case and that I had just kept my phone aside. He still seemed annoyed. Later after an hour I checked my call list and saw that he had called 2 hours back right when I had kept my phone in the bag. For some reason my phone didn’t notify me. I called back but he didn’t pick up. I called after 2 hours again and he called back saying that I had cut the call. I begged and I apologised and I swore I hadn’t and that I hadn’t even seen the notif. He seemed alright then but after that he hasn’t texted back since. I texted him again at 1:30 am telling him I really hadn’t seen his call but he hasn’t replied yet. I had a really bad day yesterday and now I am focusing on his anger rather than my own trauma. What to do? HELP!!!

[Anonymous]

I think it was just a misunderstanding and overreaction from both ends. He probably misunderstood what happened with the call and got pissed for some reason, a bit childish but okay. Then you also overreacted by over explaining yourself and apologizing over something that clearly was an honest mistake. I can relate tho, I’m also similar to you in a way and I also tend to worry about their feelings too much lol (people pleasers unite 🥲).

The best thing to do is to drop a short and straight forward message explaining what happened (you didn’t see his call, etc etc) then leave it at that. Give him space to process whatever he’s feeling no matter how childish his feelings may be but just let him be. Good luck!

[Asker]

I did. We called and he seemed fine. Then I sent him a text again at midnight and after that he didn’t even reply to that message. No idea what’s happening here. And now I am dissecting every word of that text thinking maybe THAT offended him somehow. I did end the message saying “I hope you believe me and if you don’t there is nothing I can do. Goodnight.”

And yes, being a people pleaser is tough 😭😭😭😭

[Opinion Owner]

Girl I feel you! I also overthink everything… I hope you guys can work through this though, open communication is definitely key

[DishLady]

Don’t beg… he needs to get over himself. It’s just a disconnect. Happens ALL the time.

[teamvic]

I'll tell you what to do. Cut the mu fucka off

y'all not even dating and there seems to be childish behavior already

[Asker]

Exactly what my bff said 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[teamvic]

Welp there you go. she's a wise one

[Danny_dan92]

Send him a text saying it was an accident.




If he stays mad, he’s an unreasonable pussy

[Asker]

I sent him paragraphs! I agree he was supportive and all but the call cut due to network issues or god probably hated me at that moment but he thinks I cut it on intention and now he wouldn’t believe me ! Tf

[Danny_dan92]

I guess time to find new dick.

[PeachyPie93]

Are you sure he is even mad? Maybe he is just busy? You aren't his girlfriend, so is it that serious? lol

[Asker]

I know. But we are good friends and we have been talking for months. He always texts back, even if he is busy he would text back “busy”. It’s 12pm now and that is very very unusual behaviour from his side

[PeachyPie93]

But would someone really be mad over a missed call and some missed texts, I feel you are over reacting and apologizing for nothing. Settle down and give him some space. If he likes you he will get back to you.

[Asker]

He is kind of an avoidant? Him panicking and calling is new for him. I kinda feel like he realised what he had done, showed that he cared too much and is now taking a step back by showing me he doesn’t care

[PeachyPie93]

Yeah so leave it, its not that big a deal. Do not keep texting him. He will get back to you in time.

[Asker]

Yup. Doing that!! Thank you for sitting with me and talking about it!

[PeachyPie93]

No problem :)

[femalenpc]

If he was panicking you wouldn't be a side thing

[StudyingAuthor]

Yeah, that's not okay, tell him to give you space, if he doesn't... GHOST HIM!

[Asker]

Exactly ! Right? He was all sweet and supportive and when I disappeared he panicked and texted a lot and then called but that call got cut due to network issues, not me! But he hasn’t replied to any of my messages. I am angry but I can’t seem to forget his supportive side as well

[StudyingAuthor]

Yeah, that's not okay, no matter how he used to be, that's not okay.

[EmmaMary]

REPORTED...DUPLICATE.

[Asker]

What? It’s my own story. Wtf

[Bebo_23]

If he’s panicking on you accidentally cutting his call and him not believing he might be attached to you and if he’s just a situation-ship he shouldn’t get mad. Y’all ain’t dating he’s childish. If he don’t trust you oh well NEXT lol

[Asker]

Oh these conversations are helping me so much lol. I have been feeling guilty as hell since yesterday for not being there when he called and for the call being accidentally cut 🤣

[Bebo_23]

Girl don’t feel guilty. That man is tryna make you feel bad and don’t let that work on you! It wasn’t your fault so there’s no need to feel guilty over something you didn’t do in purpose! He’s weird for that lol

[Asker]

I know!! I mean wtf. He even got me to text at 1:30 am apologising and swearing I didn’t see his call. And then when he didn’t reply I thought maybe I was too harsh on that text message. God , the way they mess with our heads

[Bebo_23]

Drop his ass. He seems like a gaslighting manipulator jerk ! You deserve better than this !

[femalenpc]

Nothing going on here is real. The disagreement, the whatevership, the first name, nothing. Only your beliefs are real.