How can I become confident in myself?

[Anonymous]

Hey guys,
So my insecurities are really damaging to my relationship and I don't know what else I can do. My boyfriend, last night, told me that he’s getting really tired of my insecurities and it’s damaging both of our mental health. Every day and i mean every single day, i call him to talk to him about what he did wrong in the past. Why did you like these girls pictures, why did you DM her telling her she’s pretty, why did you follow her? Things in the nature and every day he says he is sorry and that he did it back then because he was stupid and had no idea what he wanted in life but he is no longer that guy and he’s changed for the better and he knows what he wants. he has reassured me that he is no longer doing any of that and he doesn’t want to ruin the relationship. He shows me his instagram likes and DMs and there is no liking girls pictures and no DMs from them. However, i still feel so insecure about myself and my relationship. Since my insecurities are taking over my head and i bring it up to him everytime we barely talk anymore and barely hangout. I understand him, if that was done to me I wouldn’t want to hangout or talk with him either. I just don’t know what i can do to make myself more confident and happy. someone, anyone please help.

[Anonymous]

I am not one to suggest this off the bat, but coming from someone who ruined a relationship due to insecurities, you should really consider being single for a while to work on yourself. You’ve spent your whole life becoming this person and gaining those insecurities, so of course it’s gonna take some real time to overcome them. You can’t do that while you’re in a relationship, you just can’t. Mainly because everything that bothers you are still such main factors between you and him. You don’t know how to move on from whatever he’s done in the past and it really isn’t fair to punish him for it every day. Face the fact that these things are still triggering and unhelpful to bettering yourself, then decide if he deserves to keep paying for the lack of work you refuse to be single and do. You’d probably come to the conclusion that he doesn’t deserve it.

[IslaTheWitch]

ask a counselor for help... such insecurities most often come from childhood experiences and are really hard to solve just by yourself...

[Asker]

i’ve been getting a lot of people saying that my insecurities are coming from childhood but I don't know where it could have came from as a child?

[IslaTheWitch]

talk to the specialist... they know how to help... we don't