Is it okay to chase more than one woman?

[Anonymous]

I tried chasing this one woman but she didn't even notice me, now I feel I wanna chase her friend.

[thatshydork]

I mean I guess so? Just as long as you’re not exclusive and don’t mind them also going after others including your friends.

Generally though, if you’re talking to a woman and her friends know, then they won’t want to start something with you. In fact, it would generally be seen as a red flag and the girl might think that you’re only going after her because you couldn’t get her friend. Same goes for if you’re attempting to get with one friend and fail and then attempt to get with another friend.

[Asker]

I don’t mind them also going after others including my friends. I was apparently in luck, her friend likes me.

[Purpleronnie]

If chasing also means dating then no I could never be ok with doing that but I guess as long as the women know your actively seeking attention from multiple women then sure. Must make them feel REALLY special though 😂
If chasing means pursuing a date with multiple women then that’s slightly better or easier to understand but still to me has this connotation as desperate or just wanting a place to stick your dick as opposed to wanting to get to know a woman because you have. Genuine interest in them as well as being attracted to them.


I guess I dunno , you do you , as long as you’re up front and honest then it doesn’t matter. Me personally … that’s just not who i am or ever could be

[BeenThereLovedIt]

Go with the law of averages. Doesn't matter if you are trying to respect some girl or dating code by not going after the friend... what matters is the simple fact that if you ask 1 girl out, you have a low margin of acceptance (any guy would), maybe 10%, or maybe even 20% if you have attractive features like money and shiny objects.

If you ask out 50 women, there's going to be at least a few "yes!" responses, regardless of your appeal. So go with those numbers and then date several of them and actually whittle them down by dropping the shittier personalities and viola- a decent girlfriend may emerge.

[AviatorTom]

When single, it's preferred to date several women, the best way to learn about women, and your own likes and dislikes, so that you can decide which woman is the one you should really chase.

[Nikki1989]

Everyone should date many and date often.

NEVER settle for the first one that comes along unless you're 110% positive they are the right choice... which is highly unlikely.

[WodensGedriht]

This is terrible advise for women because women's desirability drops the more men they share a bed with.
How about just hold back in sex until you're sure he's the right guy? That was pretty much the moral standard of traditionalism, which women (and men) have largely rejected.

[Angelo75]

Well just make sure that it's clear that you're no longer interested in chasing the first one, and THEN go for the second woman.

Otherwise they could get the impression that you're a player by chasing multiple women. And then it REALLy becomes difficult to get through that.

[red324]

Well I've only done online dating, but if you think they aren't juggling a bunch of guys and going on multiple dates with different dudes, you're delusional. Girls do it, I don't see why guys can't either. Women have too many options these days now unfortunately. I've always had the opinion that if two people would put more effort into one another we would have more success in dating.

[Caroline91]

A couple of years ago, my brother married the friend... He started off interested in one, got shut down, then went after the friend. The first girl was maid of honor at their wedding!

[WodensGedriht]

Did that cause any issues?

[Caroline91]

@WodensGedriht None at all. They have all acted like real adults ought to. lol

[WodensGedriht]

That seems rare. Most adults act like children these days.

[Caroline91]

@WodensGedriht Not in my family. We have lots of fun, but we do some serious adulting... lol

[lightbulb27]

is ok to date more than one, but with appropriate boundaries. failure to have boundaries, means you are taking on challenges you may not be skilled enough to handle... if you are asking this question.

[HelpfulWoman]

lmao. you get they're both just going to laugh at you for acting like a dumbass right?

[Asker]

I wouldn't think so, the other friend apparently likes me.

[HelpfulWoman]

suuuuuuuuuuuuuuure

[Apple1996]

Nah only if things are completely done with the first girl

[BetaBucks]

I think it's "okay" to do in early dating. I personally didn't do it because I believe in trying to build one relationship at a time.

[Vegasrunner]

Never chase women it's a waste of your time. You're better off building up the value in yourself, having them chase you and then choosing the ones you want. Also I would Ditch the dating if friends strategy of I were you.

[WodensGedriht]

Women don't really chase men. They like to be chased. However, they won't respect you if you chase them too hard. Women like to play games with you.
Can't we go back to the tradition of marrying the women of tribes we pillage? From what Romance stories tell us, women like to be kidnapped by vampires and werewolves. Ancient warriors were often outcast men, often criminals or lacking inheritance, wore predator (like wolves) skins to tap into their primitive survival mechanisms and show others they're a threat (literally wearing a predator skin). They were men who had to prove their worth to the world around them, and bands of these men were responsible for founding new kingdoms (like Rome for instance, with the sons of the wolf Romulus and Remus).
This is actually where myths of werewolves and vampires originated from in pre-Christian times. If modern men had an equivalent I think women would dig it, but we're simply too "civilized" now.

[Vegasrunner]

@WodensGedriht That's actually not true. Women will gladly chase you provided your of high enough value. Also the older a woman gets the more likely they are to chase because their options dwindle. I'm not interested in going back as there has never been a better time in history to attract women for HV men. The truth is the guys that fail fall into two categories.
Young guys 30 and under
Overall life losers
The young guys provided they do the work will fund out that as they age the leverage begins to shift towards men.

[WodensGedriht]

Well sure women chase very high status men and older women. Men are mostly looking for women who can bear lots of children.
Do you think of all men work well suddenly stop being poor?
Not how economics works. Sure the overall economy improves but then people's standards are also raised.
So there will always be this problem.
How ancient societies dealt with it is actually giving men the chance to prove their masculinity. We're no longer living in a civilization that rewards masculinity however. Every male citizen had to offer some service as a warrior.
Wealth is just one of many things you can do to get women to see you as competent. They're not just chasing money, they're chasing the an ideal. That's why women find firemen, for instance, so attractive despite the fact it's just a regular job which will never turn you into a potential millionaire.

[Vegasrunner]

@WodensGedriht I would argue that men are looking for women to have sex with and children are a byproduct of sex. There may be a language barrier, as I don't understand you "poor" question please rephrase. I'm not sure where you live however I live in America and would argue masculinity is being rewarded at a higher rate than ever. This is partly due to the fact that there less masculine men available. I work in the basketball industry where even top ameaturs are making 6 figures, you just have to be willing to work to be that dude, but unfortunately and no offense your generation is the first generation raised by soft feminized men so it stands to reason why you feel like you feel. Also don't be a sucker, this is the real world. Warriors get sent to die first while the Generals gladly reap the spoils. If you want to be a warrior I'll gladly send you put to battle, If you want to actually matter in this world as a man spend the next 6 years unlearning whatever you learned, build some wealth by property, and invest. A byproduct of this will be that women will come to you and you can just select the ones you want. You're working hard rn but not smart. Your fireman anology highlights your immaturity. Yes a woman may find a firefighter attractive, that is a much different emotion then attempting to feed a family of four on a 50K a year salary which is what happens in the real world. A women being attracted to a man and actually opening up her legs are two completely different metrics something you will learn provided you grow up. How many women have you slept with?

[DryGermanGuy]

In kindergarten it’s called playing tag. 🤔

[Pudsmucker]

Why not? Like you're not married to him. You're just dating them. The purpose of dating is to find that you are compatible. Go out and have fun.

[Unit1]

that's what boys should be taught. Boys aren't the ones getting approached by girls regularly, so they better go after multiple girls

[DrPepper12]

Yes. Why not? You MAY have blown your shot because of going for first girl but I don't know of any rules that says you can't try with her friend

[Ladsin2]

Chase them all so long as it doesn’t interrupt your career and you keep a healthy life.

[exitseven]

Yes, just be careful that they do not find out about each other.

[Anonymous]

I'd say so. In fact, I'd suggest you chase as many as you can until you find one that wants you too and you both want to be exclusive.

[Dongie]

Do so. And the reason you were approaching the other one was to get introduced to the other.

[justabuddy]

Chase... yes. Different story when we are talking about catching though.

[Anonymous]

Can you afford it to date five women at once?

[Anonymous]

It's okay to go after Girls as long as your not stalking them or doing anything illegal.

[Booklover_90]

If you’re casually dating, yes.

[Asker]

Tried for a girlfriend but she doesn't even know I was trying.

[Booklover_90]

So wait. You have a girlfriend? Why are you seeking other women?

[Asker]

No, what I meant was I tried for the last one I chased to be my girlfriend, but she didn't even notice me.

[rosemilk]

that seems kind of desperate, to be honest

[HighValue]

Won't you get tired chasing people?

[LiamJHayden]

Chase as many as you want.

[jahaims]

You are a immature simp

[In_Trance]

If you're ok with it, it's ok

[Anonymous]

Damn you're desperate.

[WodensGedriht]

I guess he should just rot in loneliness until death then? Modern women can't tell who are good men anymore cause they just take bravery for granted and see men as a bunch of coomers.

[Opinion Owner]

@WodensGedriht he's literally chasing women like a simp

[WodensGedriht]

What's simpy about it? You have to chase women otherwise you end up dying alone. You women have no idea.
I personally don't chase women and have paid a heavy price for it. I should've done all this time, but I wanted things to develop "naturally" 😂 which was very naive of me.
Simps put women on a pedestal and constantly give them validation, whilst oftentimes she's fucking a dickhead that cheats on her, in a typical twist of irony.