Can being a side chick be or become emotionally or mentally draining?

[Anonymous]

Like you can’t call or text when you want. He can only call or text you. You always have to come second. You never can or will be able to actually enjoy that person. You’re always gonna be sharing.

[mamysandycandy]

I would advice you to not be a side chick. That would be what people will only remember and judge you for. You will ba called a homewrecker.

You won't even be happy. And you and that man will never have anything serious cause he won't leave his wife/girlfriend since he doesn't dare too. You are just a toy to him.

Unless you don't care and you get benefit of being a side chick even though you are not emotionally happy😅

[Copy_Cat]

I would recommend not being a side chick because that’s most likely what you’ll always be… like you said you’ll forever share him.

[Danny_dan92]

Why anyone would be ok with being that regardless is concerning

[andy530]

Yeah it can be especially if boundaries are not respected

[Asker]

Yea I can imagine. Like at first you might be cool with it but you’re human so eventually him saying things like “Can’t talk right now. I’m with her.” “I’m going in the house I have to get off the phone.” And going days without hearing from him will drain you. You see funny memes and you get ideas of things you two can do togeehr and you can’t even mention it to him because you don’t know if the coast is clear 😭. Many won’t admit but I’ve willingly been a sidechick and it was all fun until it wasn’t. I had to cut him off. He wasn’t married though. He just was a guy who has a girlfriend and decided to to tell me later on down the line.

[andy530]

Yeah it’s definitely not for everyone. Especially if you’re hoping it turns into more or you want more out of the arrangement.

[CubaPirate]

Probably yeah