Is being a side chick ever a good idea?

[Anonymous]

There’s this guy at work who likes me but he’s in a serious relationship with his girlfriend who also works the same shift as us and at the same place. So one day I was heading to the back to go get something and he wanted to kiss me even though his girlfriend was working with us that day also be she was doing something on the other side of the building. Then there’s this one time I was was working on something in the back and he was behind me leaning against a table and out of the corner of my eye I caught him checking me out and his girlfriend was either working on something at the front of the building or working on something on the other side of the building.

[Finchie40]

If you like the fact of being used and a convenience and don’t want a serious relationship then do what you wish , but it more than likely is going to backfire especially the fact that you all work together makes it crazier if his girlfriend finds out , so be prepared to deal with a lot of drama and probably jeopardizing your job if shit hits the fan. The fucked up thing is that poor girl doesn’t realize she is in a relationship with a piece of shit cheater and how do you work with her and look her in the face knowing you are screwing her boyfriend? People do crazy shit to others , why this world is so fucked up. Honestly you should stop sleeping with him and tell him it’s over , the fact he is In a relationship should be your reason not to sleep with him anymore , How would you feel if you were In a relationship and your partner was screwing other girls on the side? I don’t think you would be to happy about it and be devastated , find a guy that is single that doesn’t want a serious relationship just sex , there are plenty of them out there

[Floppy2112]

The more you are a side chick, the more you will stay a side chick. But some of you women would rather be the side chick of a guy you cannot ultimately have, over a guy you can have but doesn't meet your instagram expectations.
Social media is a fake world. It's pretend, but with twist. It generates real emotions and that's what makes it dangerous.
You really think you can have that guy in L. A. when you live in Newark, so you won't even look at the guys in Newark, because social media made you believe the story it tells. But that story isn't real, none of it is. It's all pretend and people only let you see what they want you to see. So it's a massively skewed version of reality that way too many people fall for at the peril of actual reality.
So if you want to be a side chick, because you think that guy is so great, go ahead. Just know that if you are, nobody will take you seriously and vet you for marriage later on. Once a toy, always a toy.

[DeltaCharlieEcho]

Oh hypergamy thy name is envy.

[Jesibel]

Never and I mean never is it a good idea. You'll do nothing but get hurt and constantly be knee deep in drama. Never allow yourself to be a second choice or option. If someone is worthy of you and truly gives a damn about you then you will be there one and only choice. Respect and love yourself enough not to allow yourself to be treated less then by nobody. You got to hold you and your standards and what you allow to be done to you at high standards cuz if you don't you can't expect anybody else to. But that's just my opinion.

[Cynicaldreamer]

No. Why don't you think highly enough of yourself to think you deserve a guy that only wants you?

You know if he's trying to mess with you, he's probably flirting with other women too. I feel so bad for his girlfriend! She's oblivious to that cheating scum.

A side chick means you're not good enough to be his main woman- do you want or deserve to be his "backup" or "seconds?" NO.

Leave that scum alone.

[OlderAndWiser]

If you enjoy being jealous, frustrated, and having low self-esteem, side-chick is definitely the way to go!

[hahahmm]

Yes.. IF you were a secret CIA type agent looking to get military secrets from a guy, you might have to pretend to be his whore to do it. But you would get a medal and a promotion when your mission is completed.

You're not that person. There's no good reason for you to mess with this guy. It could even cost you your life if him or his girlfriend are the types to kill side pieces. It happens & you'll never know in advance if this couple are that type. You could also lose your job. May not seem like a big deal now but as you get older jobs become more important. Best idea is to build good habits now so you do the right thing later.

Don't even flirt with this guy. Also DO NOT say anything judgmental to him like, "you have a girlfriend" because now that you've played (a little) with him he could take that as a threat that you will tell his girlfriend. Just ignore him and don't make friends with his girlfriend either.

[Ninjazzed]

Nope, because he will drop you eventually. Most of the time he’s using you and/or lying to you.

Don’t fall for the crock of shit, move on. Know your worth and save yourself for someone who values you more than just for a piece of ass.

In these situations, he’ll always fall back on the wife to avoid the fallout of divorce. Either he wants to stay with his wife due to financial reasons or he’s fucking you both at the same time while just wanting something new to mess with, it would be the side chick in this case.

[Explorer91]

Up to you, just know you aren’t the only side girl he is flirting with. It’s very common to want to be a side person coz of the way it feeds your ego. But when you realise. He flirts and wants sex with any woman he can.. you realise it’s not such an ego hit after all and it’s not worth it anymore.
so picture that, your not a special side person he desires, it’s just that you are one of the few people who will be with him. And any girl who is half decent who will be with him he will be with.. coz that is the reality.

[Jersey2]

There is some raw truth in what you say.

[Explorer91]

@Jersey2 yea it helps to be able to break free of dysfunction I find when you can see it for what it is, if you glamorise it and make it more appealing for your ego your more likely to make a bad choice but if the bad choice doesn’t even appeal to the ego anymore what’s the point.

[Pasiton5]

Now off you continue to keep quiet about his behavior you no different than he is, by saying doing nothing your just condoning his actions and say he leaves his girl get with you do you really I mean really think this buster is going to be committed to you only you, sit you better go tell his flame to keep her hound away from you or you can go say hi to him in jail after you file harassment charges on his wanna be a player ass, you don't tolerate this kind of behavior unless your starved for attention, it's punks like this that makes good dudes like me work that much harder for a honey to believe me when I say I'm not a cheat, so don't put up with this clown tell his ass to get lost forever punk,

[Interstate]

In the first place, LEAVE HIM BE IF HE IS INVOLVED. Secondly, if you take up with this guy, you are an OPTION, not a priority. But the fact that he wanted to kiss you, despite the fact the Girlfriend was there, says he has that much nerve to try this with her there, or it is an open-relationship. Something else to consider is there may be OTHER "side chicks". If I were you, I would tell the Girlfriend, and let her handle it from there. But also, I would report it to the shift Supervisor. That conduct on the clock is unprofessional (to say the least). It is quite clear he has no respect for Women, and he obviously thinks he is God's gift to Women. Just keep your distance, tell both the Supervisor and Girlfriend, and move on with life.

[Ronald_25]

From dating side chicks who were dating guys in relationships, there is only one benefit I can derive. If you want to have fun with a guy who is boyfriend material, then side chick is perfect, because you get to have lots of fun and sex, but don't need to enter long term relationship. There are a couple of things to keep in mind though, you must date two or more guys as casual relationship to avoid getting clinging, and you need avoid falling in love with the boyfriend. The problem arises when the side chick gets clingy and jealous, and wants to go from side chick to main girlfriend. This causes many problems. Either look for a proper boyfriend by saying you want long term relationship. Or keep all relationships casual, there is no in-between, otherwise people get hurt.

[nella965]

if he liked you, you would be his new girlfriend, not his new side chick

[Asker]

I failed to mention that he has a son with his girlfriend, so with have something to do with him wanting me to be his side chick instead of his new girlfriend?

[nella965]

go ahead and lie to yourself that any man would do something like that. If you don't believe me, try it out and you will get hurt.

[Jazquee]

Omg... they have a kid!!! Jesus lady what are you thinking don't be a life destroyer
So sad

[nella965]

@Jazquee it’s not other people’s responsibility to protect your marriage. It’s your responsibility to protect your own marriage. Nobody can ruin your marriage without your husbands permission

[Jazquee]

It's her responsibility not to be a slut

[nella965]

@Jazquee thats not her marriage. she doesn't have to care about your marriage.

[Jazquee]

Why do you keep saying "my" marriage. This isn't my post

[nella965]

@Jazquee all I'm saying is, you can't rely on other people to protect your marriage.

[Jazquee]

Still confused. U should be able to trust others not to be scandalous. I guy you know in a relationship with a kid... I Good person would tell him to get fucked

[nella965]

@Jazquee that’s kinda like saying , you should be able to trust every stranger on the street to watch your purse as you use the bathroom.
Not everyone out there is gonna give your purse back to you. You can’t rely on other people to protect your belongings.

It’s the same as saying that you expect strangers to tell you If you have dropped a hundred dollars on the street. Sure you may have dropped it and it’s the right thing for strangers to give it back to you. But not everyone is gonna give it back to you. You can’t rely on other people with your 100 dollar bill

[nella965]

@Jazquee there’s nothing confusing about any of this. It’s just that you have idealistic expectations of the world. You think that nobody cheats , nobody steals.

You’re the type to believe that if you dropped 1000 on the street , all the strangers are gonna return you the money.

Trust me , if most people found 1000 on the street , they won’t give it back to you

[Jazquee]

Wow... your really pushing your case lol
I give up 🤷

[HumbleMike]

If you like constant drama and potential heart break in your life, then sure, you can give it a try lol


No seriously, don’t do it, it doesn’t even sound like you’re not even that into this asshole. You can do so much better than him, you have to love yourself too.

[Anonymous]

Telling you from my experience. He's a piece of shit. It's worse than being single. You're going to be a downgrade. He'll chose the main chick and you'll feel used. If he choses, you're going to be in a constant anxiety because he can cheat on you as well. Once a cheater, always a cheater.

[anniisa97]

This girls also a piece of shit herself. She's still considering getting involved with a man thats taken. Are there no other men available or something?

[K-I-S-S]

Exactly, pretty much sounds like two scum found each other.

[pleasestopthis]

@K-I-S-S Harsh but very true

[JustAnj]

Just go up to the girlfriend and ask if her and her man have an open relationship and if she says yes then tell her you would like to get involved with her man if not then have balls and tell her that her man needs to stop harassing your ass then. 🤷

He will leave you alone after that if they are not open or you could just kick him in the nutter next time for making you out to be a hoe.

[ChrisMaster69]

It’s a case of what you are thinking about doing now, in 6 months another girl will do with him and you will be the cast off.

it’s really meh messing with couples, he sounds a right piece of work ready to cheat.

If anything go for it and tell his girlfriend.

as she really needs to know who she is dating.

it gets messy quickly

[ZackBan]

So 4 billion men out there and so many of them decent people with no girlfriends and you decide to fall for the one who has.

I can't blaim you many of us have done the same, but it doesn't change the fact that you're looking to drink from someone else's cup and that's not gonna end well for you. Just find someone else don't give him the time of day.

Or if you feel adventurous charm his girlfriend in return

[DellBell]

No please no! I got cheated on and now I'm mentally destroyed and can't even trust my current partner because I'm scared that he will betray me like my ex did and I get badly triggered. This poor woman you have to tell her! Please think of her and her mental wellbeing. This guy has no respect for women and it clearly shows.

[raw_is_war99]

Please don’t do it. People have to respect other people being taken. Something really ugly could come from this where you guys including yourself could lose your job. I don’t know if there are cameras around, if there is things are being recorded. I hate guys who act like this because nothing is good enough for them. If you value guys who are loyal and faithful, don’t mess with this dude. I feel bad for the girl in this because she probably doesn’t know all the rat boy shit he’s doing.

[Smoke-n-Growls]

Never a good idea.

Are you a side dish or a main dish?

If he really does like you, he'd give you his full attention like you deserve.

But instead, he thinks you're a convenient distraction he believes he can hide from his real girlfriend.

Why let yourself be disrespected like that?

[PeacefulRainDrop]

No id stay clear of that a disaster waiting to happen your better off with them.. work your job he asks for a kiss tell him he has a girlfriend for that and to fuck off he's not worth your time.. if you were his girl hed try and get someone else unless sharing your man and being shared is appealing to you... each to their own

[PeacefulRainDrop]

Yeah no.. no one has that money to throw away..

[Alwayreckles93]

Honey he doesn't like you he wants you as a sex object which is two different things if he really liked you he would live his current girlfriend for you that isn't really the case here just so you know. I'm not trying to be rude just saying from what you are telling me. Please have self respect for yourself!

[Hulk30]

there's alotta layers to that specific cake basically in monagamous situations it's wrong to be a side and based on female nature bein a side for em dont work like it does for males based on the fact that males do things based on logic and codes females do things based on emotions also it's too easy for females to catch feelins and if the side chick looks better than the main most likely they're gonna wanna replace the main as well also it's very likely if males will cheat with ya they'll cheat on ya as well

[DarkWinterNights]

Terrible idea in general. Even worse if you all work together. It’s an HR nightmare. If he decides to leave his girl for you, he’ll just end up leaving you for his next side girl.