Why am I always a side chick?

[Anonymous]

No serious question like every time I meet a guy & we start talking I like him & everything but they always say they don't want people to no about us or I find out later they have a girlfriend 😒 I hate being lied to or being used but my question is why am I always a guys side chick why don't they ever want a real relationship with me? & why do they always want to keep me a secret as if there hiding something 🤔 Is it something I'm doing or the vibe I'm giving off that makes guys think they can just play with my feelings and use me? Or that I'm not relationship material? Like seriously I'm literally meeting the same guys in different bodies what do I do? What does this mean?

[Marvelousadventures]

because you allow yourself to be. people only treat you that way if you let them. if you don't like the way he treats you, don't let him be in your life. Have respect for yourself and he will have more respect for you. raise your standards any a good man will rise to meet those standards. if he doesn't think you are worth it, he isn't worth it.

[xokittyxo]

First of all they want to keep you a secret because they are hiding something that's clear as day... I'm sorry this is happening to you but you need to be smarter and know when you're being manipulated... Some men can be pigs and they are good at playing games... Be smart and keep your guard up don't let the men fool you

[Asker]

Ur absolutely right

[AnaWryneck]

If you're willing to be with someone who "Doesn't want people to know about you" then that's why there's a big difference between secrecy and privacy people should know you're together they don't need to know your every step

[Asker]

Why do u think they don't want people to no about us tho?

[AnaWryneck]

Doesn't matter if someone doesn't want people to know you're together that's not the person for you I'm not saying scream it to the roof tops post photos every 10 seconds when me and my husband started dating we didn't mention anything until his asshole friend said "You're always together is that your boyfriend now" and I said yes then his dumb ass looks at him and says "Really?" So he says "That's what she said right?" It wasn't stop the presses this is my human but there was never a point where he said "Don't tell anyone"

[Asker]

I understand, but my thing is it happens all to often

[AnaWryneck]

Then it's the guys you're going for signs are pretty much easy to spot where do you meet how do they approach you what do you speak about what do you even have in common

[Asker]

I meet them in school and we don't even get to speak about shit we may have in common cuz they start touching & feeling up on me smh

[AnaWryneck]

Okay then that's your fault you don't respect yourself so they don't respect you you're literally saying you do not communicate and they start touching up on you now think about this there's you and then there's a girl just as pretty the guy introduces himself to both they respond he placed an arm over you you continue with the conversation where as the other girls removes his arm and tells him "She doesn't like being touched by strangers" he tells you he's trying to get to know you he tells her he's not a stranger he's trying to get to know her you give your number she says you get to know me by talking not by touching he's either going to Kill the situation right then and there or actually try to get to know her but you he knows he can get at

[Asker]

Wow great point I never looked at it like that

[Mariannadc]

Maybe you act in a certain way :/ I don't really know what to say, all I can tell you is be confident and above all respect yourself because if you don't love and treat yourself like a treasure no one will

[soccerchick4eva]

seems like your meeting the wrong guys or maybe try to be straightforward and literally say your looking for a relationship or something

[Asker]

It's hard for me to express my feelings tho 😫😫😫😫😔

[soccerchick4eva]

i really just feel like your meeting the wrong guys

[Asker]

But over & over again tho? Like what gives

[soccerchick4eva]

sometimes you just have that bad luck :l I've been through so many relationships, literally and every single time its jsut horrible, it's horrible, maybe change the sort of guys you get attracted to

[soccerchick4eva]

i said its horrible twice, sorry ahhaha

[Asker]

U right about that will gladly take this advice

[AleDeEurope]

Do you offer something more than your body? Do you consider yourself girlfriend material? Do you have sex before expressing what you both want?
It seems like you don't give a "gf vibe", and since you don't tell them what you want, they just want you as a side chick.

Also, where are you meeting these guys?

[Asker]

Omggg u nailed it , it is a possibility

[Asker]

& I meet these guys at school

[coachTanthony]

Sounds like to me there are warning signs when you first start dating these guys. Maybe in the beginning you simply ignore these warning signs when you should instead be cutting the guys off and not tolerating any of this. in my opinion

[Asker]

Ur absolutely right I don't know why I let this happen to me over & over again smh

[Wolfwarner]

I find a girls laugh attractive no matter what it sounds like. Its not really the laugh that makes me happy, its what it means, it means that it was a good joke for one, and if it wasn't and you faked it, it generally means that she's into you so she's gunna act like it was. And its just a good thing like who doesn't want to laugh it means she was paying attention and that she's thinking about it. And then if the laugh its self sounds cute thats just a bonus

[Asker]

Shut the fuck up

[Signinggirl123]

Sometimes its it can be a vibe which i can't tell because i dont know u. But have u thought to see how much the guys u have liked have in common. Try dating guys that r different.

[SuccessfulHornDog]

Unfortunately that is who you are attracted to. Figure out what this means and why and then change your approach

[DapperMelody]

Eh, if you compared yourself to the gfs, what's different?

[manish_swami]

hey one day you meet your real soul mate till then wait dont trust how put you in side

[ASEXY]

You were predestined to always be a side chick.

[Asker]

Not funny

[ProfessorScrewEyes]

because you choose the wrong guys to be with

[Anonymous]

You aren't attractive enough to be the main chick.

[Asker]

I'm in fact beautiful so SMD 🙃

[Opinion Owner]

If you were true you wouldn't always be the side chick.

[dev765]

We all have our roles in life.

[TheRealDonaldTrump]

You can be my side chick

[Anonymous]

I'm on the same boat. I know the feeling.

[PriscillaGomez]

Cause you seem to gravitate towards losers :)))))