Started seeing my supervisor and now he is pulling away?

[Anonymous]

me and my supervisor started seeing each other however we have kept it a secret as our work has a big no dating policy. We have decided to wait until the end of the month to start seeing each other more seriously as I will be leaving our workplace, however we still flirt and sometimes I sleep over at his house, we were acting as if we were dating without the labels we both agreed to be exclusive and not talk to anyone else. However recently we had a conversation on how he has been pulling away a bit and he told me he is nervous about our workplace finding out and after I leave things will be different. Since that conversation we have not been talking and we have not worked together. He has been flirting way less than usual and does not ask me to come over anymore, however I am not sure what brought on this weird behaviour from him.

[Anonymous]

Since you guys already agreed to be exclusive with each other, I think he probably is just worried about your relationship affecting his job. Although you are leaving the workplace after this month, he still has to look out for his career and position, especially since there's still a while before the month ends. When this no longer remains an issue, he will probably be more attentive and flirty with you as he won't have anything to worry about.

However maybe you should try talking to him again to gauge his emotions, and try suggesting that you guys can still meet after work in your own privacy. I hope it works out!

[Anonymous]

He’s more than likely telling you the truth. I know I’d be concerned. Especially as a manager. Usually takes someone while to make it to management, so to put all your hard work, sacrifices in the line like that for something that isn’t guaranteed is a big deal.

[Wise4myage]

That's a smart move on his part.