This guy coworker who I worked with little over a year quit?

He didn’t tell anyone he was leaving not even me, but we had some misunderstanding towards the end so we didn’t talk at the moment when he left but we where friends at work I guess he always said good morning we talked but I may have been a little too good for him like he would ask me fir little favours etc but this guy commented and mentioned how I care too much about others referring to him yet he don’t care about me… I think he means bc he left without telling and staying in touch

ManOnFire

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I think it's good that you care about others, never let anyone try to make you feel bad about that in a world full of selfish folks who's only focus is their own survival and well-being. But, people quit jobs all the time without telling co-workers, even ones they were friendly with for years. It's happened to me as well. Even if we both follow each other on social media, they still don't reach out. And I don't reach out to many of them anymore either.

I think that's probably just a sad reality of life. People go their own ways, and often times they don't want former co-workers moving forward with them in life. I can say for me for a fact that I don't want to move forward in life with any of my current co-workers if I were to quit or find another job. They just aren't the kinds of people I want to stay connected with like that.

If you're thinking he left because of you and whatever misunderstanding you guys had, I honestly doubt it. I think you can relax on that. The guy probably found something better or felt like the job you're on just wasn't worth it.

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Thank you no I doubt he left bc of me he had better job opportunities I believe, but I was very too good for him he was cool with me too sometimes he was a little annoying but overall a great person, but for him to tell me you care to much about others referring to him bc he called his name out but he don’t it hurt me, not sure if bc he didn’t contact me after or stay in touch or overall at work I was too good but it hurt me

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ManOnFire

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You could've been a reason he left, but I am going to predict that it was a very small reason. Quitting a job is not an easy thing to do unless you know there is a far greater opportunity out there for you, or you know you could go back to another job if the window is still open there. Most people don't just quit a job because of a co-worker/co-workers that annoyed them unless something else is lined up.

One thing though: what do you mean when you say you were "too good"?

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I guess how this gay dude said I cared to much about people referring to him

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And supposedly he didn’t feel same way about me but than how does he know and I’m
Thinking maybe bc he left without telling

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ManOnFire

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Hmmmm. Like I said, you may have been a small reason for it, but I don't think the main reason. It sounds like maybe you care about the situation a lot more than he does. I don't know what the misunderstanding was between you guys but at this point I would say don't worry about it anymore. If he ever wants to talk to you he knows where to find you.

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Yea true, but yea that came from the gay guy saying I care too much about people including that guy that quit yet he don’t feel the same, yet know the guy that quit his friend asked me if I miss him and if there is anything I would like to say he can pass it on to him I did wish him well. and he asked if I wanted his number I said no it’s okay, I explained him what happened before his friend left and I. Was like he prob don’t care he nodded that he didn’t agree with me and said he will tell him so I don't know what’s up with that gay dude

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ManOnFire

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Ohhhhhh the gay dude is the one who said you care too much about people, NOT the guy who left. I see now. Ehh you know gay guys can be catty and stir up trouble and stuff just like a female. Sometimes worse. If you care about people it's because you're empathetic, and that's a good thing. Although you should never care so much about someone to a point where they can use it against you.

You should've taken his friend's offer to give him your number. Why not keep in touch if you like him? See where things go.

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I don't know before his friend asked if I wanted the number the gay guy said he would message and let him know I wish him well but he kept saying that he didn’t read the message yet I don't know if he was telling the truth and than this guy said he can give number after I asked the gay guy ugh whatever,,, I guess I cared too much like the gay guy said and he didn’t

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ManOnFire

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My advice would be don't do anything through the gay guy or even tell him anything anymore. I can already tell the type he is as I've known people like him before as well. He probably did NOT tell the truth about the guy not reading the message. The gay guy is probably just trying to sabotage you and whatever connection you could have with the guy who left. The gay guy might even be jealous. Gay dudes can be just like a female when they're jealous that they aren't getting attention from someone, and they can see that another guy is, so they will try to cause problems for you.

Ask the other friend the guy's number who left, and reach out to him. Don't do anymore of this trying to speak through other people thing, it can get messy real quick.

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Yeaaa but the thing is I honestly never saw that behavior come from him he was always very nice to me and we was cool so I can’t see him do something behind my back tho you know it just doesn’t seem like him

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ManOnFire

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Maybe. But once he started seeing how much you cared about the guy who left, it might've made the gay guy jealous. I've seen that before. One minute you think they're your friend, the next they're trying to mess you up if they see that another guy is getting some kind of attention.

The gay guy could just be showing you who he really is now.

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Yea maybe I don't know egh forget it, maybe I did care a little more than I should have, and gay guy feels he doesn’t care at all about me but that’s cool!!

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I think it's good that you care about others, never let anyone try to make you feel bad about that in a world full of selfish folks who's only focus is their own survival and well-being. But, people quit jobs all the time without telling co-workers, even ones they were friendly with for years. It's happened to me as well. Even if we both follow each other on social media, they still don't reach out. And I don't reach out to many of them anymore either.
I think that's probably just a sad reality of life. People go their own ways, and often times they don't want former co-workers moving forward with them in life. I can say for me for a fact that I don't want to move forward in life with any of my current co-workers if I were to quit or find another job. They just aren't the kinds of people I want to stay connected with like that.
If you're thinking he left because of you and whatever misunderstanding you guys had, I honestly doubt it. I think you can relax on that. The guy probably found something better or felt like the job you're on just wasn't worth it.

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  Thank you no I doubt he left bc of me he had better job opportunities I believe, but I was very too good for him he was cool with me too sometimes he was a little annoying but overall a great person, but for him to tell me you care to much about others referring to him bc he called his name out but he don’t it hurt me, not sure if bc he didn’t contact me after or stay in touch or overall at work I was too good but it hurt me
  
- ManOnFire
  
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  You could've been a reason he left, but I am going to predict that it was a very small reason. Quitting a job is not an easy thing to do unless you know there is a far greater opportunity out there for you, or you know you could go back to another job if the window is still open there. Most people don't just quit a job because of a co-worker/co-workers that annoyed them unless something else is lined up.
  
  One thing though: what do you mean when you say you were "too good"?
  
- Asker
  
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  I guess how this gay dude said I cared to much about people referring to him
  
- Asker
  
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  And supposedly he didn’t feel same way about me but than how does he know and I’m
  Thinking maybe bc he left without telling
  
- ManOnFire
  
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  Hmmmm. Like I said, you may have been a small reason for it, but I don't think the main reason. It sounds like maybe you care about the situation a lot more than he does. I don't know what the misunderstanding was between you guys but at this point I would say don't worry about it anymore. If he ever wants to talk to you he knows where to find you.
  
- Asker
  
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  Yea true, but yea that came from the gay guy saying I care too much about people including that guy that quit yet he don’t feel the same, yet know the guy that quit his friend asked me if I miss him and if there is anything I would like to say he can pass it on to him I did wish him well. and he asked if I wanted his number I said no it’s okay, I explained him what happened before his friend left and I. Was like he prob don’t care he nodded that he didn’t agree with me and said he will tell him so I don't know what’s up with that gay dude
  
- ManOnFire
  
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  Ohhhhhh the gay dude is the one who said you care too much about people, NOT the guy who left. I see now. Ehh you know gay guys can be catty and stir up trouble and stuff just like a female. Sometimes worse. If you care about people it's because you're empathetic, and that's a good thing. Although you should never care so much about someone to a point where they can use it against you.
  
  You should've taken his friend's offer to give him your number. Why not keep in touch if you like him? See where things go.
  
- Asker
  
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  I don't know before his friend asked if I wanted the number the gay guy said he would message and let him know I wish him well but he kept saying that he didn’t read the message yet I don't know if he was telling the truth and than this guy said he can give number after I asked the gay guy ugh whatever,,, I guess I cared too much like the gay guy said and he didn’t
  
- ManOnFire
  
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  My advice would be don't do anything through the gay guy or even tell him anything anymore. I can already tell the type he is as I've known people like him before as well. He probably did NOT tell the truth about the guy not reading the message. The gay guy is probably just trying to sabotage you and whatever connection you could have with the guy who left. The gay guy might even be jealous. Gay dudes can be just like a female when they're jealous that they aren't getting attention from someone, and they can see that another guy is, so they will try to cause problems for you.
  
  Ask the other friend the guy's number who left, and reach out to him. Don't do anymore of this trying to speak through other people thing, it can get messy real quick.
  
- Asker
  
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  Yeaaa but the thing is I honestly never saw that behavior come from him he was always very nice to me and we was cool so I can’t see him do something behind my back tho you know it just doesn’t seem like him
  
- ManOnFire
  
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  Maybe. But once he started seeing how much you cared about the guy who left, it might've made the gay guy jealous. I've seen that before. One minute you think they're your friend, the next they're trying to mess you up if they see that another guy is getting some kind of attention.
  
  The gay guy could just be showing you who he really is now.
  
- Asker
  
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  Yea maybe I don't know egh forget it, maybe I did care a little more than I should have, and gay guy feels he doesn’t care at all about me but that’s cool!!
  
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Those misunderstandings probably had something to do with it.

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  Maybe or more but it hurt me
  
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  And why he care
  
- Wise4myage
  
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  Sorry to hear that.

This guy coworker who I worked with little over a year quit?

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