So I’ve known this guy coworker for little over a year?

[Emily12344]

He kinda came off little flirtatious and bit friendly towards me from the beginning, I kept pushing him away or try not to along with it, but he was very nice as In supportive at work so I guess I didn’t really think and when he approached nicely to get him biscuit I ended up doing it, I never asked him personally for any favors as you can say, as the time progressed we was cool you knew he always greeted me said hi small chats etc, than little by little he would ask me if I can get him orange juice or chips with drink I did I went out of my way got him chips and drink on lunch break and brought it to him, the thing is what upset me was that he didn’t give me money back so I had to remind him few times until finally but I read he just got me drink to pay off the chips and the drink, anyways I didn’t understand what his intentions is or was you know I’m here to work and this guy supposedly trying to befriend me at work, so we got into little argument or misunderstanding didn’t talk for a while and than got back talking again, than I switched teams so I can see him less bc it was just little too much sometimes I switched and he start asking this girl to do favors bc one day I noticed she brought him biscuit than few days later he brings her coffee, he did ask me if I wanted but I think he tried to play it off to give her bc few days later he brought her coffee again, not sure if it’s bc I stopped doing him favors and he found this other chick but I got little mad bc i remember all those times I went out of my way to do favors for him he could have just brought me coffee or something in return for once and I confronted him bc I went the same day to make me coffee and anyways I’m not talking to him again but I just don’t understand his intentions am I overthinking this All?

[Summeroflove]

Well let me tell you if there is romantic interest the balls in your court if you were pushing him away then honestly he may have just seen you as a friend. If you’re seeing him less then there is other women who are probably into him.

If another woman does not outright make a move on him (which can happen) there are going to be other women who are into him who will be showing him attention.

It was nice to do that and all. Bur talk to him directly and express your feelings. If you’re rejected which I assume he has interest. Then you have closure and two you’re not wasting your time on something that will never happen

[Oliverlogan263]

Yo, that's a pretty complicated situation you've got there with your coworker. It sounds like he was definitely trying to get a little too friendly and personal with you, especially by asking you to constantly do favors for him.

The way he was always trying to get you to get him stuff, but never really returning the favor, is a red flag. It seems like he was just trying to use you and get free stuff, without really caring about building a genuine friendship or connection.

And the fact that he started shifting those favors over to the other girl once you stopped doing them for him is even more shady. It seems like he was just looking for someone to take advantage of, and didn't really care who it was.

I can see why you'd be feeling frustrated and upset by all of this. Getting put in that position at work, where a coworker is trying to take advantage of you, is never a good feeling. You have every right to feel annoyed by his behavior.

At the end of the day, it really doesn't seem like this guy had any sincere intentions beyond trying to get free stuff from you and the other girl. He was probably just trying to play the two of you against each other to get what he wanted.

I wouldn't overthink it too much. It sounds like you've got a good handle on the situation and you're doing the right thing by putting some distance between you two. Focus on your work and surround yourself with coworkers who actually respect you. This guy's not worth the drama.

Just keep being the better person here. Don't stoop to his level or try to retaliate. Just take the high road and move on. You've got this, girl!

[Emily12344]

Yea but the fact that he kinda returned the favor for the girl and brought her coffee even tho I guess he asked her to pay back shows he at least returned the favor for her unlike me but tbh I never asked him for a favor I don't know how the two of them situation is , but either I think it’s not fair he returned her favor unlike me, I still think he uses her for favors right bc she has brought him a biscuit

[Emily12344]

Rightt and then all this time after that he has guts to ask me if I have candy or Any snack knowing I never ask him, and speaking of coffee situation I guess he felt some kinda way bc he tried playing it off after I saw him hanging the coffee to her saying do you want some coffee and than referring to my friend

[Nikki1989]

Never mess with coworkers.

[Emily12344]

What does it sound like he wants?

[Emily12344]

Why say mess I haven’t messed?