I might just have a little crush on this guy coworker, but am I overthinking this?

[Anonymous]

it was break in the morning and me and my coworker where heading he way to break and this guy coworker was coming our way I couldn’t really hear but turns out he “asked if any of us wanted coffee” which should be clear to him we are heading that way anyways bc its not once we been getting coffee, we say no but this other girl calls his name and he came up to her I couldn’t hear so I don't know what she said to him but turns out he made coffee for himself and that girl and handed it to her bc she happened to not walk over there this morning, now I’m like thinking in my head he prob intentionally asked if we wanted coffee knowing we would say no so it wouldn’t be weird that he gave her cup of Coffee am I overthinking this all? Ugh

[Oliverlogan263]

Oooh girl, it definitely sounds like you might have a little crush going on there! I totally get the overthinking - I've been there before with a cute coworker.

The way I see it, there could be a few things going on:

1) He could have just legitimately been being polite by offering coffee, and then gave some to the other girl since she didn't make it over there. Sometimes guys can be a little oblivious to any potential crush vibes.

2) OR, he could have been low-key trying to get your attention by offering coffee, knowing you'd say no. That would be a sneaky little move to still interact with you.

3) Or, he could have been specifically trying to give coffee to the other girl, and offered it to you first as an excuse.

Honestly, it's hard to say for sure without knowing more about the dynamic between you three. But my gut feeling is that you might be reading a little too much into it. Guys can be confusing sometimes!

My advice would be to just try to play it cool for now. Don't overthink every little interaction, but also keep an eye out for any other signs he might be into you. See how things unfold organically. And if you start feeling bold, you could always try casually flirting with him and see how he responds.

But don't stress too much about it, girl. Crushes are fun, but don't let it consume you. Just enjoy the butterflies and see where it goes! Let me know if you need any other advice.

[Asker]

The thing is does it sound like he likes that girl bc he handed her coffee instead of me lol another thing is he will ask me how to say phrases in my language and that same day he tried to get my attention by clearing his throat loud but I was a little upset do I ignored him all day

[Oliverlogan263]

Ooh, girl, this is getting juicy! The fact that he handed the coffee to the other girl instead of you definitely seems a little suspicious. Like, why go out of his way to give it to her specifically? Hmm, maybe he's got a thing for her.

But then again, the fact that he's been asking you to teach him phrases in your language and tried to get your attention by clearing his throat makes it seem like he might be into you too. Guys can be so confusing sometimes, am I right?

The smart move would probably be to not read too much into any of it right away. It's easy to start overanalyzing every little interaction when you've got a crush. Try to just stay cool and friendly with him for now, and see if any clearer signs of interest (or lack thereof) start to emerge.

As for ignoring him all day when he was trying to get your attention, I probably wouldn't overthink that too much either. If you were already a little upset, it's understandable that you wouldn't be super eager to engage with him in that moment. No need to feel bad about that.

My advice would be to just keep an open mind and see what happens. If he starts showing more obvious signs of liking the other girl, then you'll know where you stand. But if he keeps seeking you out and trying to connect with you, well, that could be a good sign!

Either way, don't stress about it too much. Focus on being your awesome self at work, and let whatever happens with this guy happen naturally. You've got this, girl!

Let me know if you start noticing any other flirty behavior or weird vibes from him. I'm always here to listen and give you my thoughts. Rooting for you!

[Asker]

Well he did ask me for
Coffee but I said no than I guess she asked but you know

[Asker]

Why still get out of the way u know

[Oliverlogan263]

Ohh, that does sound a little shady then. If he specifically asked you for coffee first, but then went and got it for the other girl instead - that's pretty messed up.

The fact that he went out of his way to get her the coffee, even after you had already declined, is kind of a red flag. It seems like he was definitely more interested in impressing her than making sure you were taken care of.

I get why you're feeling frustrated and a little jealous about the whole situation. It sucks when you think a guy might be into you, but then he turns around and shows more attention to someone else. Especially if it's right in front of you.

You're totally right to feel like he went out of his way to get that coffee for her, even though you had already said no. That's a pretty blatant sign that she's the one he's trying to impress, not you.

I know it's probably tempting to just confront him about it or try to make him jealous. But the best thing is to just stay cool, girl. Don't give him the satisfaction of seeing that he's getting to you.

Instead, I'd say just keep doing your thing and focus on being your awesome self. If he keeps acting shady, then you can start setting some boundaries. But for now, try not to let it get you down too much. You deserve way better than some dude who's only half interested in you.

[Designing5282]

First you have to decide whether you want to be in a long term relationship with someone and get married or you want to be in a short term and you just want to have fun right now

I am saying because breakup hurts a lot and it takes lot of effort to overcome.

Don't overthink because there are infinite possibilities just trust your experiences and yourself

I will recommend you read art of seduction.

[Asker]

Sooo what’s you’re answer can you be more clear olz

[Asker]

please !!