Should I cut him off for hinting at a one night stand?

Question

I'm a 30f, and I recently went out with my 50m crush. We have known each other for about three years now.

As we were having a conversation, he hinted that he’s only interested in a one-night stand because anything more might lead to attachment.

He’s married and has always been very respectful toward me.

What do I do? How do I handle this situation? Should I cut him off? Does he really respect me if he is hinting at this?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Why the FUCK are you dating someone whose married. I don’t give a shit how respectful he comes off I’m sure he was the same way to his poor wife too at one point. If you don’t think at some point down the road he wouldn’t cheat on you, then you’re sadly mistaking my friend.

There are literally so many men out there in this world and you’re choosing to sleep with someone whose married? You don’t seem to have good morals or self control. You should have cut this individual off when he wanted anything romantic and/or sexual while being married.

Does he respect you? Probably NOT… He is probably trying to get into your pants. He obviously (like yourself) doesn’t have good morals or self control. But he definitely knows how to talk to people to get his way. If you’re stupid enough to be with him then you deserve all the hell that comes with it.

Now I don’t know how he was hinting at a one night stand but even that can cause attachment. You know this and you know you should have dealt with your feelings the minute you decided to have a “crush” on him.

I don’t understand why you don’t have any self control. Why you can’t say “self this man is married you shouldn’t have a crush on him and you especially shouldn’t act on it”.

Even if you have not had sex yet you’re emotionally cheating with him. You’re gonna get yourself into a really nasty situation (even if you think you’re sneaky) if his wife finds out he’s running around with you. People have been sued, I don’t know his relation to you but it can cause massive problems inside your friend circles and gossip that can absolutely ruin your reputation and the respect anyone has for you. Including your own family. If he’s a coworker oh….. oh….. don’t even get me started.

Then when you do have sex. There are risks such as STD’s (he’s a man whore you’re probably not the only girl he’s been with) and then what happens when you’re knocked up. By a married man… Now what are you going to do?

You need Jesus. You need to repent and turn from your sins before it’s too late. You sit here asking the question as if it’s normal as if you decided long ago that this is just okay.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Honestly I don’t know why you’d be mad if he didn’t respect you even if he wanted a one night stand. You don’t even respect his marriage, neither does he. First of all you going out w him knowing he’s married should have never happened to begin w. You going out w him alone tells him you’re ok w all of this. I read your comment, saying you’d never go after him in a million years. Ok so what were you hoping to accomplish? You know damn well this would lead to something. Don’t act stupid. You could act stupid, say no it wouldn’t so that leads me to think oh so you’re just using him for a free meal the way he’s trying to use you for sex. I don’t even see how you could post a question like this. Both of you are wrong. Stop acting like the victim in all this. I don’t get how you think he would respect you when he can’t respect his wife. Eventually he’d do the same to you. Stop being a home wrecker.

_Maya_ · Accepted Answer

So you are going to facilitate a married guy to have an affair? Do you not find this wrong? Of course he isn't looking for anything else other than sex. HE IS MARRIED. Like I can't even figure out how you don't comprehend that. First off you shouldn't get involved with a married guy. It is just wrong on so many levels and you know it. If you don't know it you aren't mature enough to be in a relationship. I don't care what your age is. How would you like it if someone stole your man? That's what you are doing to someone's marriage. Of course he is to blame equally but you could be the smarter person and say no because you are married. Yet I doubt you have that sort of class to do something like that.

itsannalee · Accepted Answer

Respect yourself, respect other women, so people will respect you.

I don’t get why u still ask “should i cut him off”.
While deep in your heart u already knew the answer.

Be a good woman, don’t date someone else’s husband. He doesn’t like u, he doesn’t like his husband. All he cares about is himself. Donmt waste ur time. U are not teen.

Avicenna · Answer

Yeah, especially since he's married and wants to cheat

Purpleronnie · Answer

Hang on … he is your crush? And you’re mad at him for making a pass at you because he is married. If he truly was hinting at you and him having a one nite stand yeah I guess he is a bit of a asshole but why are you hanging around with a 50 yr old married man who your crushing on if you didn’t want or expect something to happen? I don’t understand

idonotlikeyou · Answer

He knows what he wants. And what he wants is completely different from what you want. The guy cheats on his wife but makes sure that no emotional bonds are formed. To him, you're just one of many bodies that satisfy his lust, nothing important.

PeachyPie93 · Answer

You went on a date with a married man and you are asking us if you should cut him off because he suggested a ONS? You are 30 years old, grow up and stop playing innocent. You should not be hanging out alone or going out places with him while he is married.

midnightmoon05 · Answer

You are showing off a sense of need/despersation… he can sense it.
so what do you think is the right thing to do? You can also ask his wife. Does she know you two went out?
if you are married … would you be okay for your husband to go out with someone?

I do hope you will answer these questions.

Sharkstealth · Answer

What would you think if the guy was single? Right now I have many women throwing themselves at me. Some are getting with every guy and some haven't had a man for a while. I would rather keep a regular thing with as many of the women as possible. Some are just blowing lots of guys.

Daniela1982 · Answer

I think that's a no-brainer, unless you are into adultery. Why are you going out with a married man anyway? No morals I would assume.

Anonymous · Answer

Why are you messing with a married man? Nothing else matters. You have no idea what you're opening yourself up to because they have a covenant. You are inviting evil into your life without even realising it! We perish for lack of knowledge!

He wants a one night stand because he has no respect for you and he is married already. You need to stop this and reconnect back to our Heavenly Father. Repent and seek forgiveness would be my suggestion...

missindiana93 · Answer

He's married. Leave him alone. Probably just has a terrible sex life.

StudyingAuthor · Answer

He's married... and you have a crush on him?

_SillyShoes_ · Answer

He is married? If anything but stop talking to him is an option for you, I don't know what to tell you.

RedInnocent69 · Answer

He likes you. You like him. He’s indifferent to his marriage. It’s a fair question to ask. “Cut him off” seems, draconian, but he won’t leave his wife and you’ll never be happy, so you probably shouldn’t.

Kelley1 · Answer

You have hit the wall and more than a decade past your prime. What other choice do you have?

ProbablyClueless · Answer

In that context, you should absolutely cut him off.

Jmmmfi4 · Answer

UMM START BY FINDING A GUY WHO isn't MARRIED... IDIOT

Anonymous · Answer

You're worried because you can't get a long-term commitment from a married man?

DrPepper12 · Answer

Don't be a homewrecker. Dont ruin your current relationship with him.

stratford · Answer

It will lead to heart break, so cut it off now before it gets messy.

Massageman · Answer

He's married. C'mon. You don't see that as a red flag?

Dongie · Answer

So you're a home wrecker. His guilt doesn't excuse yours.

onedarkcloud · Answer

He does not respect his marriage WHY WOULD HE RESPECT YOU

Anonymous · Answer

He is married? What a scumbag. Yes, cut him off.

Subslutwife · Answer

You should take him to the bathroom and give him the best bj you've ever given him 😁

WindAtMyBack · Answer

He's married. How is this even a question?

SugarSugarplum · Answer

This place is turning into reddit.

dudegreat91 · Answer

Nice he seems like a player

smurfwrangler · Answer

why are you going out with a married man

Surely · Answer

How would you feel if you were his wife?

LiamJHayden · Answer

Yes, cut him off.

Wise4myage · Answer

Common sense says, get rid of that dude.

noohair · Answer

Can you tell me what your plan is with him?

Anonymous · Answer

Cut him off from what?

LazerBean · Answer

Obviously yes

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