Relationship Anxiety?

Question

Is it normal for people to get over the top anxious when in a relationship? For example, if I don't get a message response within two hours I immediately assume the person has lost interest. It's to the point where I ask the guys I date to let me know when they'll be busy so I don't get scared if they don't respond. I'm constantly afraid that people will lose interest in me and won't tell me. It gets in my head until the guy actually loses interest because of me being too scared. There have been a couple times I've actually been on the verge of a panic attack which I know is totally not normal. This usually becomes too much for me and I break up with them because of it. I haven't ever had a long term relationship because of this, and I'm starting to worry that dating isn't for me.

ohsheeT · Accepted Answer

First of all you need to become more independent you need to believe in yourself you need to find yourself and love yourself because when you do this you have the world by the balls... When you love yourself and you know exactly who you are and you believe in yourself that's all you need because if you can do that every guy in the world will believe in you too..

I'm sorry that I'm going to say this but it's very true you're going to go through 10 ..20 relationships before you find that one guy.. . That you both fall in love and then you might lose him too because in a relationship it's not actually 50/50 but let's say it is you love that person you do your part you give you love you cherish you hold you make it the best thing possible.. ... But you have to remember there's him he has to do his part too anything can happen one day out of the blue he might want to cheat and he goes out and he cheats on you it has nothing to do with you it's just who he is as a person that's why I say you have to love yourself and find yourself and you have to be strong you have to know when you're with a guy there's nothing in this world that says that you guys have to be together or stay together he can change his mind at any time same with you nobody likes that nobody likes going through that but it happens we all have experienced that and it truly does suck but look forget the anxiety attacks and all that stuff because you can't make somebody love you when you're with a guy you can't make him love you and if you have to that means it's fake and you don't want that you don't want to be in a fake relationship so whatever happens you have to accept it right now whatever happens happens you have to tell yourself you're going to do your best your part to keep it going and you pray that he does the same for you that's what it's all about right there but you can't control anybody they have to want to do it on their own just like you they have to be committed just like you and you can't make anybody do that so don't let the small things make you stressed out it will change your life it will make things worse down the road believe in yourself 100% and say you know what if this doesn't work out there's going to be another guy because there's 500 billion other guys in this world that would love to date you I bet only if you believe in yourself and love yourself because when you do that guys look into your eyes and they can feel that coming from you they can feel that you have it all together when you can do that with yourself don't stress it's not worth it it's really not worth it it'll all get better as soon as you start loving yourself and know that you can get any guy you want when you want to because that is the truth and you know that too especially if you believe in yourself

LiamJHayden · Accepted Answer

The members of the couple need to communicate with each other openly and honestly. Disclaimer below:

andy530 · Answer

This is not “normal” and is likely due to an insecure attachment style you’ve developed throughout your life

noohair · Answer

To me, texting is like an email. I have very low expectations. The problem is that everyone has a different perspective on how long an answer should take.