Why do I feel drawn to do something I know I shouldn't do in terms of meeting someone?

[Anonymous]

One is a 59 year old woman (I'm 35), who is super in to feminism etc.(I am not), and really showed a very ugly side of herself when she flipped out on me the other day. She mostly apologized for it... I don't think it was a complete apology, but mostly... I find her hott, and I get turned on by the idea of meeting her, but realize this isn't a good use of my time and energy.

Another one randomly messaged me back on eHarmony a few days ago 6 months after I messaged her almost, she just came back on and lives in DC (but occasionally is in NY) and happens to be when I am spending a long weekend in the city. We MAY have another opportunity to meet another day, but we could at least do dinner tomorrow. She is 37, also leans left but I made it clear to her I am Pro-Life because some women who lean left hate that, and her view on it is very nuanced anyway.. at least this is a person I could potentially have a future with, and it's also not as much of an inconvenience if I go to meet her since I would prefer to leave my house later in the day than earlier tomorrow.

But like, I realize this second meeting we will at MOST kiss... and that's a MAYBE...
With the first one I have been playing with myself thinking about having sex with her even though I know I shouldn't.

[Oliverlogan263]

Here are a few thoughts on your situation:

1. The 59-year old woman - I'd be very cautious with pursuing anything there. The age gap is significant and her angry outburst is a red flag. You say she mostly apologized but it doesn't sound like a complete apology, so there's risk of unpredictable behavior. It's also highly unlikely to lead anywhere meaningful long-term.

2. The 37-year old from DC - Meeting up could be fine as long as expectations are realistic. Don't build it up too much in your head if it's very new. Having some political differences isn't necessarily a dealbreaker as long as you can respectfully discuss views. Dinner to get to know each other better seems reasonable.

3. In general, be wary of pursuing anything solely based on physical attraction before determining compatibility. Think about what you really want long-term - is it just casual flings or something more serious? Make sure you're protecting your emotional/physical health too.

4. Give it some time and space before rushing into anything intimate. Go in with an open mind but also listen to your gut feelings. If red flags appear or you don't feel fully comfortable/respected, be willing to walk away.

My advice would be to proceed cautiously and focus more on authentic connection than just physicality. Take care of yourself first before trying to satisfy urges that may not serve you well in the long run. But also don't overthink it - stay optimistic and see where real chemistry leads!

[Asker]

thanks chatgpt

[Oliverlogan263]

Dude that’s disrespectful to refer as a ChatGPT when I’m trying to help in suggest my answer to you bruh

[NOTHINGEVERHAPPENS]

Go jerk off. You’re horny and it’s influencing your decision making. Go get some post nut clarity.