Why are you single?

[12karen]

[jazzy34]

You tell me. 😂

[12karen]

Me, too lazy to date tbh 🤣

[jazzy34]

I have the opposite problem. Since I work five days a week, I’m too *busy* to date.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

What a formidable encounter, laziness and business on the same page, will they trade and reach balance, the audience is watching you 😆

[Miah04]

Choice

[Lynx122]

What do you mean? You're not gonna be with Lilly now?

[Miah04]

That was a fun post. This was a legit answer😂

[ohsheeT]

A few years back I got a phone call it was my mom she was living with my sister and she asked me to come pick her up I asked her what was wrong and she said she would explain just come pick her up I picked her up and she told me that... My nephew was abusing her and my sister and she just couldn't take it anymore she wanted me to help her find a place to live..

My mom has dementia and there was just no way I was going to let her go someplace and live on her own so I told her you're going to move in with me and that's it..;

Well I was going out with a girl off and on and I didn't think it would be right to try to start a relationship and deal with my mom at the same time and 3 years later...

I haven't seen that girl but my mom just passed away so now I'm going to start life all over again but first I have to get my stuff together and get caught up on with everything and just kind of adjust find myself for a few minutes because that just wiped me out took me by surprise for sure...

But I love relationships I love being with a girl and it's just time to start here as soon as I find somebody I guess

[OlderAndWiser]

I lived alone for several years because I don't need a woman to be my housekeeper and I didn't have a partner who I wanted to invite to share a bed for the rest of our lives. That all changed in July, 2021, when Helen and I started living together. We were married on April 27. If she had not come into my life, I would have remained single until I met the right woman.

[DishLady]

1. Bc I'm happier when life is peaceful.

2. Bc too many guys are shady/trifling sorts and I can't be bothered to sort through those to find the one "right guy".

3. If I'm meant NOT to be single, the right guy will be on my path at some point.

[AviatorTom]

I/m not single now, but I was.

I was single for several years while going to college and establishing my career. Then I started dating, got married, and was not single for 20 years until an amicable divorce. Then I was single again, and started dating, until I got married again.. 7 years and counting.

[HawkPerception]

Broke, live with mom, no drivers license.

Otherwise, I'd say I have a decent personality, stay fit, and can converse pretty well. Sadly the former aspect is more important to most women.

[Caroline91]

I don’t think it’s more important as far as emotional attachment. But from a practical aspect if she wants to live an adult life and start a family, it matters very much.

[Account]

It is comfortable, it keeps me calm and I think for one person instead of two.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

And you chose the right continent to be single, excellent strategy 😅

[Finchie40]

Because most females’ are selfish people that only really care about themselves,

[Caroline91]

Really?

[Finchie40]

I said most lol

[Caroline91]

Okay, I believe you... lol back

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

I will continue then, in the absence of Caroline91, most is a very large number, that means billions, what made you reach such a terrible conclusion about women in general?

[Finchie40]

Mainly based off of my personal experiences and things I have witness through the years with other couples and relationships. The bottomline almost every single person on this planet has selfishness in them , if you can’t remove selfishness for your partner , don’t expect them to remove it for you , a relationship takes 2 people choosing each other completely for it to work and last , not the other way around. No relationship is perfect , because no one is perfect. For a relationship to last both people have to choose each other and accept each others’ flaws , as long as those flaws aren’t jeopardizing your relationship together , like cheating or lying and backstabbing etc.. you both are on the same page as things and you both follow those boundaries the same way , if not? You are just wasting your time and theirs. Most females that I have dated that wanted a relationship with me eventually lied and changed their minds , ended up cheating on me or leaving me for someone else. I have witnessed this with other couples as well too many times to the point I feel most females’ are more selfish than guys’ are when it comes to commitment. If a girl isn’t getting her way in a relationship she will more than likely run to someone else to save her , most females’ are no wrong in her doings , I am not saying every female , but a lot of them are only after what she feels is best for her. Her way or no way. I have slept with married women and girls’ that were already in a relationship that lied to me saying she was single , when really she wasn’t. I have witness girls ‘ cheating on their husbands and boyfriends when they were out with their friends for Girls’ night , I am not saying guys’ don’t do this shit either , I just witness and experienced girls’ doing this more than guys’ do

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

I'm sorry to hear all that, really, that's a lot of jazz you've been into and observed, that sucks, definitely :/ What can I say to this, not much, I can only say that my personal experience has been way better on this topic, but I'm not saying this to invalidate your experience at all, just... to acknowledge how things can take a very different turn in one's life

[Finchie40]

Yea I hope you never experience man , I wish I didn’t either but it’s sadly the chance we take when falling for someone. We can’t read minds and we don’t really know what someone’s true colors are or their intentions , all we can do is love the same way we want to be loved in return , we can l’t force someone to stay loyal and faithful to us , we can just treat them the same way we want to be treated in return , sadly that isn’t always the case

[Datboi65]

Yes, and here is why:

1) I'm relatively young to be in a serious, monogamous relationship. I think I would rather form a better perspective through reading books and chasing different interests over going into pointless relationships that won't lead anywhere. How do I know when I'm ready? When I start paying taxes (still a student) and when I think I'm ready to be a dad.

2) I'm currently in the formative years of my career (I have 2 more years left to graduate medical school before residency training) so I need to prioritize that.

3) My family is well-connected (my parents are quite sociable), so I don't really think I need to look that far to find someone of value, hence why I'm not in a rush. Some people consider it lazy, I consider it being smart. Always better when someone else helps you out in the vetting process, although I'm not opposed to finding someone myself either.

Ideally, I will be single for another 8 to 10 years just to get my board certification. However, it might happen sooner than that (as soon as the next 4 years) if I accidentally find someone worth it, since I'm not currently looking.

[12karen]

Hope everything will work out very fine for you
Good luck

[Datboi65]

Thank you so much! Likewise, I wish you all the best in your future endeavors :)

[12karen]

Thank you 😊

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

That reasoning strikes me as extremely calculated, too much calculated in regards to the nature of life, which is rather chaotic lol. Yes, I find it hard to believe that you cannot be hooked on a girl you didn't chose, randomly appearing, such event has never happened to you?

I know you're young, but not a teenager either, so I'm surprised by the perfect painting you depict, it seems to violate the laws of physics I just invented

[Datboi65]

@Maybe_Maybe_not Funny you said it, because I get that a lot. Yes, I know that life isn't predictable and that anything can happen. I'm aware of different possibilities, but I would prefer this route. I don't know what will happen in 2 years or even in 6 months, anything is possible, but as of now this is what I want to do.

I'm also very selective when it comes to women, so I wouldn't date a lot of my colleagues/classmates anyway, because A) it creates drama when you break up since you still share the same stage and B) I wouldn't want to marry another future physician. I don't do "cold approaches" either, because I would prefer to know something about the person as opposed to just approaching a random stranger, and I've never really been "hooked" on someone specifically since I grew out of my teenage years.

[Anonymous]

Partly choice, partly lifestyle, mostly because I don't appeal to most women.

I'm too shy, too short, too ugly, too quiet for most women.

I don't know women who would set me up (assuming they knew someone who wouldn't mind being set up).

I might meet one or two attractive women (who might be single) through mutual friends, say, at a party... once every six months to a year (that's women who I have the opportunity to talk to) which is not enough to get her digits. That's assuming things go well. Then they don't show up for another year. Chances of "running into them" are nonexistent, either because they're busy, they got into a new relationship, have a demanding job, I'm not living in the area... we don't like the same things... etc.

I moved. I'm an hour from any family. I'm an hour away from most friends in any direction. So to do stuff, it takes two or three hours of driving (in some bad areas). My brother comes to my area once a week for lunch or dinner, but he's the only one. My other siblings/friends don't bother.

Part of me is just trying to get better or make it through the day. I have some recent health issues, coupled with anxiety and depression (and the health issues don't make that stuff better).

All that being said, I probably COULD probably be in a relationship if I wanted to, but it would not be worth it to me. Like the occasional affection would not be worth putting up with women who think "guilty until proven innocent." To have someone constantly insulting me, lying, cheating, accusing me of stuff I'd never do, silent treatment over some small perceived slight, constantly creating manufactured drama, fighting with me, often being angry with me, purposely alienating or secretly threatening my friends so they stay away... I'd rather be single than have that.

[bobalife]

I guess it has been a year of single awareness for me lol.

I've just been on a journey to rediscover myself and building a new relationship with myself; protecting my peace; the choice to choose me and do me, healing, lifestyle "on the go" with being super career driven and living my best life, & trying to establish my goals and just obtained one of them recently (hooray!); be my own dream girl; relearning to love the parts of me that haven't been easy to love and forgotten to be love; and I guess I haven't met a genuine person who has changed my mind yet.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

Healing time, and healing time with enjoyment, you are privileged :D

[bobalife]

@Maybe_Maybe_not privileged to heal time with enjoyment? I am curious.
I believe we all have choices... healing & happiness is also a choice.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

then that would be a point where we might differ haha
That might be explained by a continental difference, but for a serious topic like this, I suggest we go private :)

[Fireguy17]

I'm not now, but for a long time it was by my choice.

I just got tired of the drama, being used as a wallet, the games.

I enjoyed the freedom that I had, doing what I wanted, with whomever I wanted, being able to come and go as I pleased, buy what I wanted to.

I could get laid pretty much when it suited me.

I got out of a bad marriage, and a couple of relationships that soured over time, so it just wasn't worth it.

I had a lot of fun, met a lot of interesting people, traveled all the lower 48 states, Canada and Mexico on a motorcycle. I felt like a kid again.

Kind of like a second childhood, only with money and experience.

[Sonorous]

Well, I'm single because I noticed that I don't have any interest in the socially enforced dynamics or the drastic outcomes involved in dating & marriage.

Yes, I notice that I'm attracted to women. But I do not wish for anything more than the simple feeling of attraction.

[sage2021]

Because the last man I was with died suddenly before we. could get married. He used to refer to me as his wife anyway.

[12karen]

Sorry for your loss 😞

[Static_In_The_Attic]

As for me I’m single & accepting applications & when it comes to being single I’m single as of the moment simply because I choose to be. On the other side of things if I happen to meet that special wonderful someone I welcome a relationship all the way.

[art84]

I have always enjoyed being single mainly cause I have social anxiety though have met girls throughout my 20's and 30's, just friends. Never felt like getting into a relationship as it would be awkward for me. Plus the girl that I liked in my 20's ended up with another guy and had children gotten married. After that I just preferred to be single and believe it's better for myself mentally and spirituality.

[BCRanger10]

I'm not. I started dating my wife around this time in 2017 and got married in 2019.

[12karen]

Good for you

[thatshydork]

Because the guy I like is friends with my brother

[12karen]

Ah, good luck

[Lionman95]

Because I have a hard time falling in love with some. I take time developing an interest and I haven´t figured a good way to be vulnerable and present myself to a person I meet in a way that attracts a healthy partner.

[Crazzyyworld]

I am a transwoman and I need to dress up to get a boy friend. But I am scared because of haters. Some transgenders get a boy friend without transitioning. I don’t know what to do right now. I think my English play a role too. I am not good at communicating. But what the hell? I have a faith in God will make me rich and forgive all the sin and heal my body and soul. So I am happy with God.

[Surferboi_02]

I've been told by girls that they wouldn't want to date someone ad good looking as me because they know other girls will talk to me and they are s aged I would leave them for someone else. I honestly thing they have trust issues but also I'm busy.

[Ladsin2]

All the ladies interested in me are... heftier than I'm attracted to. All the women I'm attracted to aren't interested in the lifestyle I intend to live. So I frequently just have shorter relationships before I dislike them, or I piss them off enough to leave.

[Nikki1989]

Apart from a couple of months, I haven't been single for the last 23 years. If you have something worthwhile to offer, relationships just come to you.

[fuddly]

When you say worthwhile you mean guys find you sexy and that's good 👍

[Kingofkings1992]

That’s horseshit. Maybe for women. Also, your comment assumes that EVERYONE wants a relationship

[Anonymous]

I'm lonely as hell. But I learned many years ago that I can't make a woman happy. They are attracted to me, and we get into a relationship, but I'm unable to make the kind of commitment they want and it always ends badly. I don't want to cause any woman that kind of pain again. So I knew years ago I was destined to remain single.

[Sharkstealth]

Because I was born a thin male. It's ok to be a thin female or a fat male. It's not ok to be a fat woman or a thin male although men's sex drives are good enough that some fat women can still be choosers.

[VIVANT]

I know plenty of women into skinny guys. Really.

[Sharkstealth]

@VIVANT well send them my way. I'm not skinny I'm thin. I've been working out and eating healthy for 3 years now 4 days a week.

[VIVANT]

Will do 😃

[Jerre]

I was engaged to a lovely woman 25+ years ago. She was killed in an auto accident 2 weeks before our wedding. Since that time I have elected to remain single unless I meet the right woman.

[12karen]

That's tough, I'm sorry 😔

[Jerre]

@12karen Thank you for the Like and comment.

[12karen]

You're welcome 🤗

[NathanDavis]

because I have not looked to get into a relationship... I never do, actually

things just happen, lol... as of late, it hasn't happened

[sawno]

My last relationship failed due to a few reasons beyond our direct control. Haven't met anyone close since.

[LiamJHayden]

If I am honest with myself, it is because I am far, far more demanding of a romantic partner than I should be.

[jamesgoldman]

70 hour weeks and yet still being strapped for cash

[serious]

I have always been single and there are plenty of reasons for the same. Tough to explain

[Charliefretz329]

I can’t deal with drama and being used. I also can’t afford the potential risks: emotionally, physically, mentally, and financially

[OtterMan68]

Women my age are interested in finding husband #2 or #3, and I don't want to settle down and get married + hard to find a woman I'm attracted to with shared interests

[Anonymous]

Cause I trust nobody.

I don’t believe in romantic love.

I don’t want anybody to drain me emotionally.

[Unit1]

The girls don't love me

[Caroline91]

It only takes one... the right one!

[Unit1]

@Caroline91 right and i don't Even have one

[Caroline91]

@Unit1 Give it time, man... give it time... She's out there!

[Unit1]

@Caroline91 I am 29 years old and hearing "give it time" makes me roll my eyes 🙄

[Caroline91]

@Unit1 Roll 'em all you want! lol

[Caroline91]

@Unit1 by the way, I was 22 and my husband was 37 when we got married. 10 years/2babies and it’s better than ever.

[Unit1]

@Caroline91 Noted.

[clampfan101]

I have a complicated life and am unable to look offline because I’m stuck at home…

[Sugar100]

No guy wants a girlfriend that’s y I’m single

[serious]

@Sugar100

That is not true.

[Nik1hil]

if i knew, i would have already fixed it, or maybe I just love my freedom

[ProbablyClueless]

I don't give enough reinforcement and validation to women I date.

[Caroline91]

You know that is totally fixable, right?

[ProbablyClueless]

@Caroline91 I certainly do!

[Caroline91]

@ProbablyClueless Glad to hear it! Lo🤣

[ProbablyClueless]

@Caroline91 It's an interesting thing. On one side, I know that I have the ability to change it, but I'm not necessarily sure that I actually want to put in the work to do it. I'm kind of bouncing back and forth about it.

I think I'll be a lot more willing to put in the work once my life settles down some.

[Caroline91]

@ProbablyClueless Not knowing what is needing settling, I won't presume to lecture you again about anything. I'll just wish you well!

[bobby_bush_eater]

I'm planning to move abroad is currently the main reason.

Once I move I will want a relationship (date to marry) after I've settled in

[Bklynbadboy12]

I'm single because I have zero tolerance for bullshit

[Caroline91]

There are plenty of women who would really appreciate and reciprocate that!

[TallAnon]

I don't meet women or people for that matter, I work and work and work.

[legalboxers]

Im very picky and I am too old to fucking settle

[Anonymous]

Well because I can't find a man who is genuine and is willing to be with me for my good heart and kindness , most men are swallow and dickheads

[Opinion Owner]

Shallow

[ManInChains]

Because I’m happier single than I would be if I were in a relationship. Women weren’t worth seeking when all they’ll do is hurt you.

[Iron_Man]

I have an online gag girlfriend for over three years

[Berethor]

Because good women are very rare nowadays and also because I am perfect myself.

[LiamS95]

I'm single because the woman I was engsged to chested on me in my house and in my own bed.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

Choice. There are other things I like to accomplish first.

[scott04sa22]

Because im happier being single and not looking then being in a relationship

[Still-alive]

I simply choose to be because i like it... for now.

[Caroline91]

I predict your time will come. 🫢

[Anonymous]

More than one reason. But in general most women are not interested in me. And I'm not really interested in dating.

[Fuentes]

By choice whenever I try it spits back in my face.

[beefcakebradybatson]

Haven't found the right Blossom, i. e., much younger buxom blonde (or other chesty chick.)

[_tallmccartney]

Men don’t see me in a romantic way. They only see me as a potential hook up or potential friends with benefits.

[robocop666]

After covid lockdown I got used to socialising differently. Not in bars but walks in the parks.

[grega239]

Because i got rejected for the last 8 years.

Because i never learned about flirting, courting etc.

Because i accepted im not good enough and stopped talking to women.

[Anonymous]

Reminds me of a Morrissey song...


If your so very entertaining, then why're you on your own tonight. If you're so really good-looking, then why you on your own tonight?

[MicahRaine]

I'd have to ask my girlfriend

[12karen]

Lol.

[Anonymous]

Because im ugly and dont want ugly girlfriend.

[PeachyPie93]

I think because I am not healed properly.