Why are you single?

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Hook up culture turned me off, STD risk, and the fact a lot of people don't want marriage...

Quigly · Accepted Answer

Marriage is not a Moral Religious institution. It's essentially Prostitution. Therefore, it's only really fine to do it for a purpose. The Purpose is to have a Child or to take care of someone in need. If You're not having a child or taking care of someone in need you are simply engaging in prostitution. It's not something many people desire to do.

If you're not getting into a Marriage for either of those two purposes you're better off not to go anywhere near the institution. Otherwise, it's just prostitution for money.

Marriage for the purpose of lifestyle and buying Real Estate is just prostitution and a waste of your life

Dating is more about living your life. It's not about sex like frequently promoted by our media. Anyone with an expectation of sex just is not someone you want to hang around. Dating for the most part is just being friends and doing things together. If you like a guy you could go farther if you want. But there isn't really any promise of monogamy behind relationships.

Zack-Bann · Accepted Answer

Because I’m unwilling to jump into a random relationship just to avoid being single

I’ve been with a few women.
You can call it hook up culture if you like
But the truth is they only wanted my body so I only gave them that in exchange for theirs

The few times I fell for a girl from deep within my soul it was in a hopeless context

Not long ago I met one such woman
And I wanted to stop myself but she began haunting my thoughts soon enough

And of course she goes and starts a loving committed relationship with a man who’s a decade older than me and makes 5 times more money which he has no issues spending on her

And here I am again, sipping my drink alone at the bar wondering about what it could have been if timing did me a favor just this once

I don’t believe in destiny.
But if there’s such a thing as a plan, at this point I hope it’s a good one.
Lord knows I’ve been paying my dues for years

Little_Bumblebee · Accepted Answer

Got severely hurt, then I was single for about 4 years. Last year I was with this guy, but we were too different and not a good match. Now I'm working through that until I'm ready to date again.

Nikki1989 · Accepted Answer

I'm not. Apart from a few weeks here and there, I have never been single for the last 24 years.  And no, none of those issues you mentioned here have ever affected me whatsoever.

Finchie40 · Answer

I am recently single because my marriage took a shit , now I am back on the market trying to play my cards right this time around , most girls’ I meet nowadays just want to hook up and have sex and nothing else

Summeroflove · Answer

That’s why I was single for a while too. Especially that even most girls…. Wanted to hook up after a few dates or less.

MrChinaski · Answer

Sooooo...

- Estimates are about 1/3 have had a one-night hookup in a 12 month period. I'm pretty sure that numbers rubbery as all get up, so to speak, but substantially less than half is a reasonable working assumption. And that's at least once in 12 months, not like twice a week. It's not the predominant culture.

- STDs aren't what they used to be. HIV is treatable and yes you will be on drugs for the rest of your life but there are PrEPs and PEPs that are fairly effective at making infection unsustainable for the virus -- like 99% effective pre, better than 80% effective post. Then there are condoms. Everything else is either curable or will take care of itself, is my rough reading.

- My impression is that most people want a long-term, loving, committed relationship. Some aren't confident on how to get there or whether they ever will. Marriage is just a piece of paper and a party... the legal difference here is incredibly narrow... e. g. you are going to need to do a bunch more paperwork if you want to sponsor an unmarried partner to migrate here, etc. I never wanted to get married, but didn't really care if I did, so we did.

I dunno. Does that all sound like a fair take?

Orion84 · Answer

After my last relationship, I just don't think it's worth taking the chance, only to find another woman like her.

My ability to trust has been completely destroyed. I wasted a lot of years, only to get hurt. I'd rather stay single; it's safer.

RavVid · Answer

Marriage has lost it's utility and only continues as a mechanism to transfer money from men to women.

With to death do us part dying, all long term relationships have likewise died. The best we can do now I think is affair style relationships for maybe 6 months to a year. Passionate fun for a circumscribe period

Legally I can't approach 2 years duration and I need to avoid women in their 30's for obvious reasons.

It doesn't suit me but it is what it is.

sawno · Answer

I am dealing with a medical condition so that severely limits my dating opportunities. On top of that I want a partner who truly fits me, so while I could have been in a relationship right now I find it unfair to the girl if I do it just for the sake of being in one, so I only start a relationship when its based on true love. Even if there's potential for good sex.

drummerdude25 · Answer

I think up until recently, there was a part of me that didn’t feel worthy. I didn’t have things figured out and in order well enough for my liking, or something…

As of late I like where I am and where I’m heading and want to share it with somebody, and I’m not getting any younger! lol

Alex-Snow · Answer

I'm still in college and have a casual friends with benefits. Neither of us wants a serious relationship at this time. We just enjoy some incredible sex with each other. I have only had one hookup the others were relationships of sorts. It was fun to get naked with someone new for a night and morning and share some fun orgasms. yes I used a condom all the time. Ur thoughts?

WonderingManII · Answer

I can't help it. I have come to the realization that I don't' have any control over it. When I was in school, I had no control over what girls I was around. When I was in Church, I had no control over what girls I was around. When I was working, I had no control over what girls I am around. When I'm out walking, I have no control over what girls I am around. When I am online, I have no control over what girls will talk to me.

aceleon · Answer

i hate responsiblity and expectations. and my current state of life doesn't provide opportunities for me to seek woman to hook up with.

OneViewpoint · Answer

I'm enjoying my freedom. Meeting women without getting formally attached has been pretty enjoyable. Not closed off to a relationship. Not in any panic or hurry. Not pissed off at women. Not looking to make any mistakes.

slatyb · Answer

A lot don't but some do. If you don't want to hook up, then don't. If you don't want to contract an STD, then insist that your partners use a condom, and get tested.

Anonymous · Answer

Because I'm picky and not very much of a pick myself.

I can't find a girl Who I'm attracted to, who is Christian, and who isn't part of the cult of modern women who want to emotionally bubble wrap their kids from the world to avoid "trauma."

Beyond that, I haven't found good work to put my English degree to use. So underemployed.

PeachyPie93 · Answer

I want real love but so many people now days are just dirty whores..  Personally I just can't be bothered trying to dig through the leftovers anymore..

dislikesmath · Answer

I got a bug from a slut, I was already a huge drunk. I'm the drunkest in my hometown in a remote place in Mexico, I have mental problems

DonaldDarko · Answer

I began to understand how the whole thing worked. It's just a job, reproduction. That's always going to be an ulterior motive to love and friendship. It's depressing but it's the truth.

daydreamergirl29 · Answer

People aren’t serious anymore and don’t care or value love.

Telekinetic-Potato · Answer

Probably because I have too much pride... Or I'm being a pussy I'm not really sure. Could be something totally different.

jshm2 · Answer

Lol, reads like you never had a chance, even if you did try.

soe11 · Answer

Absolutely yes, don't want to get in prison or being hus-band if anyone.  Love freedom no string attachment, rather I like to see my girlfriend with Tiny string bikini.

lilBigPotato · Answer

Last relationships didn't work out and not actively looking for anything right now.

Bitter_Sweet94 · Answer

I m not single,  I m happily taken in a relationship ❤️

Phoenix98 · Answer

Because I have standards something very few women I've meet seem to have.

Anonymous · Answer

I'm too picky and introverted. I won't approach anyone I'm not serosly interested in enough, but I get to shy around anyone I'm that interested in.

Sugar100 · Answer

Men don’t want a girlfriend they all want only friends with benefits so no one wants call me his girlfriend

Berethor · Answer

There is a lot of hos, while I am basically looking for a virgin, no hymen, no diamond.

loveyouoak · Answer

Because I haven't found the right man yet, and I don't think I ever will.

Joshydavid25 · Answer

I'm trying to get myself together TBH.. I also don't put myself out there much..

Dnice1 · Answer

I don't get out much, don't trust dating sites and I can't do long distance relationships

Nemesis2k7 · Answer

By choice. Way to many female narcissists out there

Anonymous · Answer

Not ready for a relationship. I have a lot of things I want to do, as a single person. I also think it is stupid to have sex with someone you don't know well.

LiamJHayden · Answer

I have absurd standards for a romantic partner.

CaptainSmartass · Answer

Don't have the balls to chat women up. Simples...

msc545 · Answer

I'm not crazy enough to subject myself to that kind of abuse.

zagor · Answer

Just haven't put myself out there for a long time. I just don't meet people anymore.

Anonymous · Answer

All those things would keep me single if I hadn’t found my amazing boyfriend

Anonymous · Answer

It's very simple actually: Girls I like - Usually don't like me back. Girls who like me - Are usually not my type.

blackeagle007 · Answer

Dating apps are in the crappers. Meeting women with not high standards is impossible

Samos-69 · Answer

too picky since i only date women with big boobs.

mizu01 · Answer

Because I don't trust anyone and I try to love myself.

Anonymous · Answer

Got hurt and betrayed to many times by women i love

queenofcardio · Answer

My standards have changed

Brady · Answer

2 reasons r freedom n bein worry free.

LiamS95 · Answer

Similar reasons for me

Daytoday79 · Answer

I don't like dating apps

Anonymous · Answer

Why would I be anything but single?

Anonymous · Answer

I'm too busy running my business and slowly dying

Mooooro · Answer

Because I don’t have a girl

Anonymous · Answer

Because I'm physically unattractive

Anonymous · Answer

mainly because I am bored of relationships

ᴍᴀʀʀɪᴇᴅɪsʟᴀᴍɪᴡᴏʀsʜɪᴘ · Answer

I'm married 😊

Chocolatetwopoint3 · Answer

because im 15

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