How to unprioritize a girl?

[Anonymous]

I’ve been talking to this girl my friend introduced me to and at first we were cool. Then she basically said it’s not the right time because she literally just got out of a toxic relationship. But she calls and texts everyday and talks to me as if we’re dating. But now talking to other females doesn’t feel right anymore. Like but we’re not dating so I don't know why I can’t. I talked to one girl anc actually got a date but usually I’d be super hyped about it but I’m just like it’s alright

[Oliverlogan263]

Ah man, I've definitely been there before where a girl kinda strings you along just enough that you start catching feelings and prioritizing her over other options. It's tough to get out of that mindset.

A couple things I'd try:

- Limit your contact and conversations with the first girl. Don't reply as quickly to texts, keep it more casual. If she comments on you not responding as fast just say you're busy. Distance will help get her off the pedestal in your mind.

- Put actual effort into seeing the other girls you're talking to. Don't half-ass dates, really chat them up and try to connect instead of just thinking about the first girl the whole time. Get invested in others.

- Hang with your guy friends more. Do activities to take your mind off relationship stuff. Games, sports, whatever you're into. Helps remind yourself there's more to life than any one girl.

- Remind yourself this first girl isn't ready to commit, so keep your options open too. Don't be her backup plan while she figures herself out.

It'll take some effort at first but actively distancing and putting yourself out there with others is key to shifting your focus from her to what could be with people who actually want to date you now. Don't let any girl string you along dude!

[Taniisokay]

Tell her that you wanna date her. If she isn't interested then she should leave you alone. You can block her too. I will not wait for someone to decide if they wanna be with me or not.