Do you believe “love comes when you least expect it”?

[Anonymous]

People often say the less you look for love the easier it is to get. Do you believe that? Have you had more luck when you were looking or not looking?

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

I am wholeheartedly convinced, according to my experience only, that love often come when I least expect it. I don't expect love, amusingly I am even convinced that looking for love is a way to not find it, but this sentiment applies to me only, I won't make that a rule, just a testimony. I sleep on the distant but comforting feeling that love will strike, somewhere, I don't know where or when, but I know it will. Because, as I'm looking back, I feel it has always been like this.

[VIVANT]

No. I think when we least expect anything then, if and when it does come it’s great surprise and will feel even more meant to be bc we weren’t thinking of it. But like the saying a watched pot never bills, it does. It boils just as fast or slow as the pot that we don’t watch. It’s the feeling that is different.

in much if the world relationship are very much planned and millions and billions of people entered into them frequently.

there is a strong societal romantic notion attached to surprise of love, but this really is just an endorphin rush and does not make the relationship any more special than one we were careful to enter into.

ino it’s like saying does a job come when we least expect it. Not really, not usually and if so in that context, we are often ill prepared.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

Actually I think that the surprise love case makes things VERY special, for the reason you name in the next paragraph: ill prepared ! argh.

[VIVANT]

@Maybe_Maybe_not 😂

Well it can definitely feel that way but u think time will tell when a live is special. The meeting can feel amazing but it’s what happens during the union that matters, ultimately 😊

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

What does matter? I think everything matters haha, the meeting, the post-meeting, the aftermaths, the premeeting even ! Everything is here to be feel, lived and reflected upon, or do you want to tell me that what matters to you is the bottom line only? Warning, bait question, because I'm cheeky :D

[Mwolf]

It seems to be, at least for me. My opinion is once you are fine and (not necessarily happy, but okay) with being single, you are more confident as yourself and you work on yourself as a person and that is something people pick up on confidence, happiness, not trying to hard vibes.

[HawkPerception]

It can. My second ex I met at a baby gender reveal party in the family. Best relationship I've had to date.

But you can't just sit at home expecting it to find you. You need to go places and socialize. No one will find anyone just being a self proclaimed introvert and homebody.

[Static_In_The_Attic]

As for love it works in mysterious ways & as for love you might think have a better chance of getting hit by lightning on a submarine versus finding that special wonderful someone but just remember lightning can strike & it can strike when you least expect it.

[ProbablyClueless]

Sure... why not? I can tell you that I don't not believe it.

Finding love is a very iterative process. And you have to find this awkward balance between intention and authenticity. You need to be true to yourself (authentic), which requires a certain aloofness, but you also have to be proactive in recognizing and cultivating connections.

I would say the line should be more like "love comes when you keep an eye out, but you aren't searching for it."

[thatshydork]

I think that depends on the person. For me, if I’m not looking for love then I’m also not observant towards others actions in a way that might make me go “oh, they’re trying to flirt with me” or “oh they’re trying to get my attention”

[DancingQueen16]

Definitely because before me and my boyfriend started dating we'd been best friends for 7 years and I always thought we were way too deep in the friends' zone to ever be anything more than friends

[exitseven]

One year i had a string of bad relationships. and I decided I was going to give up on dating , maybe forever. I went out of state the next day to get away from it all. Ironically that was the day I met my future wife.

[rparks]

Yes, I do believe this. I wasn't planning on falling in love.. I didn't want to fall in love.. and then it happened. And I don't want to admit it to myself.. but yes, I do believe it.

[Caroline91]

It can. Happened twice for me. The second time, I was more mature and ready and 10 years of a loving marriage tells me it was the right choice.

[luvstoned4him]

I think they have all just came into my life when I was just focused on me and enjoying life. Anytime you go looking, you won't find it

[sawno]

For me its been holding up so far. I very rarely meet potential partners and when I do its a chance encounter.

[PeachyPie93]

I don't know I only fell in love once and I mean if I didn't look I would never get a boyfriend.. lol

[paledreams]

That or lust does - I sure do wonder though how for all feminism, women still don't ask out men or even give open hints to men that "ask me out" vibe ♀️

[WhitneySnow]

A lot of times yeah. It’s happened to me a few times.

[Juxtapose]

No. Sitting on your ass at home gets you nothing. You have to expose your personality to people.

[Crazzyyworld]

I think that there is some kind of energy surrounding us. When you settled down people notice you. And they come

[Anonymous]

Nope. I believed that for the better part of 50 years. It's just b. s. that society repeats to keep people hopeful.😆

[Anonymous]

Yes I've cum in her face while she was sleeping

[Dnice1]

Yeah that seems to be the case in some cases

[smurfwrangler]

finding anything requires effort. huge effort. if you don't try you will be single at 40

[Gauoda_]

@smurfwrangler I agree with you, you need to struggle to get what you want but when it rains, it's pours 💓❤️

[Chthou95]

No. That would mean that waiting gurantees love will come to you. Life doesn't work like that. You can wait and never find it

[grega239]

Where is it then? I've been not expecting it for almost 10 years now

[Anonymous]

Love comes often but doesn't last for long

I'm just unlucky in love

[BadApple69]

I believe love comes when you work hard to get it.

[avery58]

Sometimes, not always

[_Senorita_]

I hope let's see when it will happen to me..

[bowenw]

It has always been that way for me.

[LiamJHayden]

I never expect it, so "Yes."

[Starrrboy]

This is so true..

[rachel776]

mine did

[thegreenyogi]

Yes I believe so.

[SoJust]

yes i believe

[Gauoda_]

@sojust and what do you believe on my question which is on my profile?

[SoJust]

@Gauoda_ I write

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

I agree.

[Anonymous]

Nope