I have heard many times that people say love happens when you least expect it, why?

[Anonymous]

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

There’s something attractive about people who are content in life, happy with themselves, not searching for anyone to make herself/himself feel happy.

People are attracted to happiness, if you look sad or a bit desperate for not having a partner, you don’t look like someone who’s got an ability to be content in his life by himself and that subconsciously makes potential partners think you are boring, less attractive or interesting.

However, once they see you how happy with life you are, how you don’t care about dating anyone because you are so satisfied with how your life is, they want to become part of your life, to get your secret, to share a tony part of happiness with you.

I have always been a very romantic person, however, I got my first and the best relationship at the time when I couldn’t care less about love, I was living my best life, being my best version and for the first time in my life, I was so happy for being single, I was shining with the feeling of confidence and satisfaction and didn’t want to change anything. I always had men “chase” me but at that time, their number got much much higher.

[Anonymous]

You have to REALLY know yourself well first. Know what you want. Be able to weed out what you think want and what others want you to want, from what you really want. Find what makes your face light up.
Then know the other person well. Who are they on an ordinary day? Who do they want to be? What lights up their face?
When you find a good match for yourself, that is when love is found. Love doesn't just happen randomly and it doesn't just hit you suddenly out of nowhere. Although media tries hard to portray it that way.

[BeenThereLovedIt]

When you are "looking", it shows.. and it appears desperate, even if on a microscopic level, women are like dogs on a scent with that and it repels them.

When you aren't looking, when you don't care about it, you are more natural and being yourself, and with the desperation removed, confidence takes it's place. Not confidence with women, but confidence in life, you were focused on yourself and not fixated on meeting women. Women are attracted to that and will find a way to attract your attention.

[matchrestore]

When I met a girl my senior year of college, I knew I was going to be moving away to go to grad school, and wanted something casual that could maybe last for the better part of a semester. Instead, my "casual" thing turned into a very serious relationship that survived 3 years of long distance while I was in grad school, and I eventually married that girl.

[Desconhecida]

I believe good things can't be pursued since they have a mind of their own and always find us - when the time is right. The fact we are not obsessing about it makes things seem surprising. And who doesn't like good surprises?

[Bambalicious]

It’s when it comes into your life when you weren’t looking for love. This has only ever happened once for me. We actually became best friends before lovers. We started working together and had so much in common that we became best friends. We were both either dating other people or single at different times. We were like this for 5 months. Then we both became single at the same time and decided to try it out. It’s honestly the best relationship we’ve ever had because we’re still best friends. Been married 12 years now.

[Lookingforthetruth]

When men stop actively chasing/worshipping women and focus on his goals, careers and wants and needs his attractiveness in women's eyes go up. Hence he gets greater opportunity for relationship; whether its a new girl or some girl in your past.

Hence why all these guys on gag and other site that think agreeing with women on every issue, simping and being white knights tend to get no where when it comes to women.

[Jltakk]

No idea to be honest. This quote is one of many empty platitudes to make people feel good, providing false hope instead of useful advice to those that truly need it. Sounds harsh, but the real world is as well. There are zero guarantees in love let alone life.

[dustybiker]

When you are looking for someone you already have “settings”. When you stumble across someone those fly out the window exposing your true self for a moment. If it’s a match sparks fly.

[Apple1996]

This is very true. For me I found love pretty much immediately after I gave up on looking for it. Not sure why it happens that way but it just does.

[matchrestore]

I also wasn't looking for love when I met my wife. I was looking for a lover that hopefully would last at least a semester of college before I graduated and moved on... That is not how it worked out.

[HopefulGuy94]

It is a ridiculous saying and that the event almost never happens except several idiots find their partner coincidentally and generalise the whole love could be bumped into this way , that's it.

[Leshen]

In my opinion, it's because when you focus on yourself and just live your life to the fullest so you're happy by yourself. You're more likely to attract someone who likes you for you.

[Msputiton]

Because when you try to hard you force fake love.
But when you not looking for it, and it develops naturally, you find true love

[exitseven]

It really does. I was going to give up dating for a while maybe forever because I was just so sick of ll the games and lies and deceit. The very next day I met my future wife.

[DermalPunch]

Because it does. It's disruptive. You can't
believe it. You think it only happens in fairy stories.

[NathanDavis]

because it can happen when/with people you were not expecting it in the first place...

[red324]

I don't know about love, but opportunities happen. Usually I'm caught off guard though and don't make a move even though it's obvious the girl likes me. Oh well.

[Chthou95]

For women sure. For men no. Women can wait because a guy will approach them. Men can't do this. Men have to go out there and try. We have to search for it. So that saying 50/50. 50 % truth, 50% bullshit

[Ms_Facesitter]

It can happen when you look for it, it can also happen when you aren't. Life's unpredictable.

[Bubbles16]

because say your just going about your day and a really attractive person approaches you you wouldn't be expecting that

[NewbutCoolUser]

because you can't really fall in love if your worrying about falling in love all the time

[zagor]

Probably because people spend most of their lives walking around not expecting it.

[Anonymous]

That works for women only. As they can date without having any prerequisite. For men, you need stability, money, and more.

[Anonymous]

They say so only because it happened to them like that.