Why is it hard to find a serious boyfriend?

[Brunettexoxo]

[HawkPerception]

If you're posting a picture like that of yourself on social media (clearly trying to attract attention with your ass) for everyone to see, no man is going to take that seriously. If you want a serious partner, then maybe try being conservative rather than an attention seeker. If a girl is posting on social media often, that's pretty big red flag.

[WriteOn]

Except everyone is screwed up now- shouldn't be posting half nekkid- nor have to open a message to SEE that- unasked- NOR should people have to seek attention because of unrealistic expectations set to cause both sides insecurity- leading to- a lucrative perpetual money making machine.
(Gotta breathe- gasp*)
*possibly?
Or because no one communicates anymore.

[Ironco]

@WriteOn nice answer

[RavVid]

Well girls are not offering what they used to offer whi. ch comes down to being serious girlfriends. That doesn't mean that all girls aren't offering that - you may well might - but enough aren't to change perceptions.

If girls focus on presenting themselves sexually... Oh Surprise! ... they will just be viewed as just for sex.

[MK1997]

@RavVid I don't think they would be viewed as just for sex. Some men would but many wouldn't

[RavVid]

@MK1997 Mostly we take people at their own presentation of themselves. it is easier for a start and how a person wants to be perceived does in fact say something about them.

[WriteOn]

Do you have any idea how many times intelligent attractive woman who are complete enough to not "need" a man, are disparaged and looked down on, because they just would like to share another persons company? Without requirements and expectations? Ever been put down for not- Offering everything on someone elses time-schedule?
It wicked sucks. Sometimes a person is just fun or cool- so you want them to be around. But not if they or you need to be bribed to do so. Offered just the right thing at the right time. People are human- and way too self centered now. (To me anyway, but clearly I am old-school- eh?)
:( sucks now-
Lol-
Those poor people trying to meet-every possible expectation or requirement set by the media- and entertainment - industries or anything else- (besides their own heart and morality) get my sympathies.
Anyone trying to-
Because it is futile.
;)

[RavVid]

@WriteOn I am not really following what you are saying. I think I am missing the central part of what you are saying.

[WriteOn]

It was just that women- are jerks. We flip out.
Men are jerks. They flip out.
Everyone does and for the same reasons, just diffrent things and times provoke it.

I'm old school. First dating app for me was Lycos. Lolol.

The rest I think was me- on a tangent-

:)

[RavVid]

@WriteOn Tangential is conversation. Flipping out is a thing in common between guys and gals.

[WriteOn]

:) (the tangential is my favorite kind I think. Lol)
No, I feel bad because there are a few people out there, who are just as confused with all the- who wants what when why n how now parts. Trying to be decent but we get kicked down all the time. Left hoping you find another of your kind, looking for something even just similar.
Then hope you can communicate, with the same language.
I just keep forgetting, about hidden, unspoken, expectations.

Usually when I hurt, it's because of those damn things. They aren't fair, because no one else know of them- anyway. (My expectations-)
:)

[WriteOn]

Well at least at first glance- yeah. If I get dressed up- i- feel good. Then it's confirmed by the look across the room- which tells me for next time- what not- and to do.
Good point. ;)

[Kelley1]

It is easy to find a serious boyfriend. However, since guys date down for sex but marry equals, it is difficult to find a serious boyfriend who is out of your league. If you haven't found a boyfriend, you need to lower your expectations because, at age 24, you sexual market value is rapidly dropping.

[Adogdog]

Harsh lol

[Kelley1]

@Adogdog Young women need to be told the truth, instead of feel-good lies.

[Adogdog]

I agree with you and many of your points. If you ever wanna chat feel free to message me.

[Sugar100]

It’s impossible find a serious boyfriend. I’m 27 and never had a boyfriend. Guys only want sex or friends with benefits and don’t want meet family. I’m a religous girl with a fmaily that’s all married except for me. No drugs no smoking , want marriage babies , cook clean, and no one sees that as. A Wife

[Sugar100]

And no I don’t look for guys out of my leuage. Even the ugly nerdy guys don’t want be serious and only want sex

[Kelley1]

@Sugar100 I don't believe either of your two statements.

[Crimsyjo]

I actually think she ( @Sugar100 ) is right! I've looked older, younger, ugly, and it shocks me how they are all thinking they can just get sex or FB. None seem to wanna have an actual relationship. No matter how clear you are. Suee you expect the "top league" guys to push it but damn... I've seen some sights on the apps.
I really don't know how anyone finds a good guy anymore.

[Mwolf]

They are harder to come by, but you have to go in with searching with the right attitude and realistic expectations not 1,000. Sometimes the average Joe or the quiet guy who works diligently keeping to himself is the one. Don't know until you try.🤷🏻‍♀️

[Summeroflove]

It’s hard when someone sleeps with people, parties all the time, and does stuff like that. The serious men are finding women who are also serious. Not women who had their fun and now wanna marry someone stable.

That maybe isn’t the case for you. Genuinely focus on yourself and rebuilding the connection with God. When it’s the right time someone will come into your life. But if you go back to the old lifestyle and old people forget it.

[dustybiker2]

If you have a type you look for "The loudest / shiniest / party boy who loves to look at himself in the mirror and buys (not builds himself) fancy cars". They will never take things seriously unless life deals them a very big personal growth lesson. Usually tragedy.
Date different types of men.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

I understand exactly what you're doing here.
Discriminating cars again. Tssss.

[dustybiker2]

@Maybe_Maybe_not someone has keep them lined up.

[HelpfulWoman]

*Has a profile photo where the focus is on her ass*

*also her* omg why doesn't anyone take me seriously.

[Anonymous]

Just leaving these here cause this is likely your answer.

[MicahRaine]

Amen 🙌👏🤙

[Mwolf]

I'm not a guy, but 💯. Someday the ass will grow saggy and old and be wrinkled like a dried prune, he'll leave you then.

[Opinion Owner]

Yup exactly.

[MicahRaine]

@Mwolf you get it.

[Ms_Facesitter]

I have to agree with Hawk. That picture choice is not the right one if you want to attract a good partner. A sex partner sure.

Another mistake I see people make is giving up the search and not making the first move.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

It's not hard, open the door of a bank office, every guys there look so damn serious.

[Brunettexoxo]

😹😹😹😹😹

[EmmaMary]

Congratulations on winning a Troll of the day award.

[Hanrej]

Because you have your own standards on what constitutes "serious". Just like any boy would have their own picture of how a relationship should look like. From their perspective you're just as non-serious as you think they are.

[Fireguy17]

because you are young, and a lot of guys in that age group are still pretty immature.
Guys are about 3 years behind females in the maturity level.

[WriteOn]

That's the problem.
"It's hard"
Probably too distracting. ;)

[Billlewis]

Probably because you're simply too good for any of the guys you've met thus far.

[lightbulb27]

I see girls finding serious boyfriends. find some girls that are, and ask them.

[Anonymous]

@maybe_maybe_not Yes go into a bank office or any place like it to find a serious man. The problem is, they will also be boring men, you will not have a life full of adventure with them.

[a-r-c-h-a-n-g-e-j]

It's a once-in-a-lifetime choice! Of course boys (just like girls, don't think it's easier on this side) think about it REALLY hard.

Well, some don't. They go in without thinking and back out soon after. That's where chaos ensues.

[ProbablyClueless]

Our society rewards and glorifies self centeredness and instant gratification.

[ChicoFromThe305]

Because people seem to either want easy sex, lack communication or have commitment issues.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

@Brunettexoxo plus, @ChicoFromThe305 is not available because he's too busy thinking about the evolutionist reasoning supporting the existence of butt cheek. Yes, I understand that painting him like this doesn't make him as serious as I thought.

Damn.

Maybe I shouldn't open a dating agency, after all. 🤔

[ChicoFromThe305]

This is the strangest cockblock I've ever seen in my life 😂

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

Well, you inspired it LOL

[MicahRaine]

@Maybe_Maybe_not lmfao 🤣

[Staximus]

Be a serious woman if you want a serious boyfriend. Have your shit together and don't do stupid shit.

[LiamJHayden]

Maybe the selfies you post draw a different type of guy.

[Ironco]

Don't look so hard, that's when the right guy will show up

[Anonymous]

Because most people go after the same people. So the guys you are dating have too many options and don't need to be serious.

[Divae]

Why is it hard to find a serious girlfriend

[Cheerfull009]

There are many nice guys , like me , can be good partner

[Anonymous]

Why is it hard to find a serious girlfriend to you?

[midnightmoon05]

What kind of guys have you been attracting?

[_Senorita_]

Toxicity is everywhere 🤢

[elizamichale1]

Well nothing serious comes easy

[Iron_Man]

Try church or Christian Mingles

[MicahRaine]

Not her lol

[MasterKS]

They are rare spices! LOL!

[Ladsin2]

Your picture.

[In_Trance]

You already know why

[Rockey_the_bicker]

How much serious?