Why is it so hard to find a boyfriend nowadays?

[imyourhost]

Why is it so hard to find a boyfriend nowadays?

[MrOracle]

The biggest new issue is that people, especially teens, live far too much of their lives online/on their phones instead of with other teens in their local area. It does you no good to "get in a relationship" with someone distant who you rarely or never get to spend real time with, which is what usually happens when you try to "date" online.

Increase your "out of the house" social time - get involved in more activities that your friends do, even if you have to have several different circles of friends. Spend more time with others in person, and get involved - let people see you being fun and happy. And if there's a guy you like, don't be afraid to flirt a little..

[cute_snowflake]

Well what if I tried that and failed?

[MrOracle]

Don't give up so easily. And maybe be willing to give guys a chance even if they aren't quite as attractive (looks or personality) as you would prefer - a lot of guys really just need some female attention/help to build their confidence.

[cute_snowflake]

Haha actually it's other way around. I get turned down most of the time haha.

[KimKardashiansFeet]

Whats so bad with long distance or online relationships?

[MrOracle]

The point of a relationship is to spend time together. You can't do that without physically being nearby. Most people have to learn that lesson the hard way, though.

[KimKardashiansFeet]

But you dont have to physically spend time together to spend time together. Me and my long distance boyfriend spend time together through playing video games and watching movies together. I dont see why you have to be together physically.

[MrOracle]

As I said, most people have to learn the hard way...

[KimKardashiansFeet]

Yes I know, but I want to understand why not spending time physically is bad. If there is no reason why its bad then maybe its not as bad as you think

[MrOracle]

Very simply, it's not likely to last. Someone will get lonely or bored or busy, and because they get very little of substance from a LD relationship, they will not be able to maintain the effort to continue to make it a priority. And the other person feels hurt.

And that assumes that no one ends up cheating, though that is also common.

[Logorithim]

It can't be that hard. What's hard is finding someone compatible, but that is a lot less complicated at your age.

[imyourhost]

what do you mean? it's not about my age

[Massageman]

Perhaps Logorithim means that as we get older, we tend to get more set in our ways and, therefore, less able to change to accommodate someone else in our life?

[morimeme1]

It's not hard, unless you are looking for a decent one, those are rare species in our generation. Plus you are young, boys your age (and girls too) are very dumb and immature, the smart ones focus on their studies, the dumb ones just want to fuck. That's why I waited until I was 18 and looked for an older guy.

[imyourhost]

I'm focused on my studies too.

[morimeme1]

So? How does that change anything I said?

[btbc92]

Either you have unrealistic expectations and standards or you don't set the bar high enough, AND you go after guys in the wrong places. You start with your male friends that are single and see if there is compatibility. STOP TRYING TO DATE STRANGE MEN. That's a start.

[LogicBomber]

Do you believe:
1. You are a victim of men?
2. That there is a "patriarchy"?
3. 1 in 4 women will be raped?
4. "The future is female"?
5. Wage gap is a real thing?
6. General feminist ideological bullshit?

Do you:
1. Use emotional manipulation to get your way
2. Lie about what you are ok with when you meet a guy in the hope you will "change him later"
3. Ask shit test questions. (Questions that either answer will lead to him being in shit)
4. Act like an entitled brat child.
5. Expect "equality" as long as you only get the good stuff and not have to give up shit.

Are you:
1. Overweight and think "fat is beautiful"
2. Aggressive and loud and generally act like a dude
3. Have a slutty past

If you answered yes to ANY of these questions...
That is why you find it hard to get a boyfriend.

[Graciegirl61]

Purely because some guys/woman can't hold up a good relationship. By that I mean there are more things in the world that can simply break them up by ones actions.

Ends up in others being untrustworthy or they just aren't 'ideal' however you see ideal as.

[Graciegirl61]

Plus more people can't trust their selves nowadays, or they're insecure about one thing at least. It puts a stop on most activities.

[jason222]

@Graciegirl61 good assessment! how many boyfriend u had?

[Graciegirl61]

Like 3, I'm young, I'm not too big in that department. 😂

[jason222]

@Graciegirl61 u seem to know what ur talking about tho! do u like having a bf? u single rn?

[Graciegirl61]

I get engaged in topics like this hah, but I'm over having a boyfriend for a while as I'd rather just stay single until I get to the age where I really start bothering hahah.

[jason222]

@Graciegirl61 what age do u think that will be lol? can i pm u?

[Graciegirl61]

You can PM me, I'll be happy to chat aslong as it's in bounds of appropriateness and really I dont know, I'll have to see.

[jason222]

@Graciegirl61 thanks! can u follow back bc i can't pm u or u can pm first

[DevilsAdvocator]

What makes you think that you deserve one? What makes you so special, so entitled to a relationship? Have you done anything to earn it- would you? Or do you still expect guys to do all the work in establishing any relationships, for none of the potential rewards and double the potential jeopardy?

[THenny]

It's hard because you're trying to find one. The best relationship I've ever had was completely organic from the very beginning. I never forced anything. In fact, I wasn't even interested in her.

If you're trying to find a boyfriend, you're probably pursuing guys for vain reasons. Ie looks and thats just a recipe for disaster.

[imyourhost]

hmm u can be right

[hahahmm]

Because the things guys really value like a great personality and loyalty are RARE. If you don’t have that stuff oozing out of you by the bucket it’s not going to be easy. Not to mention how a lot of females waste time on the wrong type of guy. If you give all your time to guys who aren’t giving you what you want then you have no tome to find the right guy

[AnonT0]

Technology and Social Media plays such a huge part in it. Back before all of that, people had no chance but to socialise face to face, create a bond and work up feelings/emotions that way. Now the majority of the time, it’s people getting to know each other through text and not sharing that closeness. Sad to see and experience.

[DeepInConversation]

Lots of reasons but I think the main reason why people have a hard time finding relationships these days are the people who only "hookup". We're in a "hookup" culture right now and that ruins it for the people who actually want to be with someone, not just have one night stands and friends with benefits situations

[Twerk4Me]

It's because we live in a twisted society where men are expected to make the first move on women, yet are labeled every horrible name in the book when they do (creep, rapist, pig, slime ball, harasser, etc...) in other words, FEMINISM. That's your answer! Too many guys are afraid to say anything to women without rumors being spread across the whole town.

[yoursexyneighbor]

True damn words. Not afraid more like annoyed. Who wants to deal with all that noise

[loveslongnails]

You DO realize that for every girl who says that, there's a guy saying "Why is it so hard to find a girlfriend these days?" My simplest answer is --- post puberty, hormonal growth. And... guys in your dating age range for the most part don't want to "settle down" with one girl when there are SO many attractive girls out there.

[4n0nym4us]

I'm right there with you but, I'm looking for a lady. There's a myriad of reasons and too many quantify. The best thing for you to do is not to get jaded, negative, and especially - don't judge yourself. Just keep moving forward.

[imyourhost]

men play hard to get and they like it when I chase after them

[4n0nym4us]

To chase and be chased is all part of the fun. Keep that groove going. ;)

[imyourhost]

I want them to chase after me:(

[4n0nym4us]

I hear you. Maybe you have to change your game a bit?

Since I don't know what you do, I'm just punting here.

Perhaps you're doing too much? Show some interest but don't chase them as much. If you're doing all of the chasing then guys can just sit back and enjoy the show.

[TheOnlyJonesy36]

Lmao by saying this as a girl in public you are inviting horny old men to harass you. But I guess I don't know, on the internet any girl can find a boyfriend.

[imyourhost]

you look very innocent

[TheOnlyJonesy36]

Do I? Oh well. Pm me? 😂😂

[imyourhost]

you are too young for me ;)

[TheOnlyJonesy36]

I'm literally turning 17 in a week

[imyourhost]

you look german by the way, are you german

[JojoSiwasBiggestFan]

Have you put yourself out there? For some us, a good guy isn't always going to find us. We have to find him. When looking for a potential boyfriend, get to know him so you can figure out whether or not you and him are compatible. God luck💕

[MzAsh]

It’s not hard at all. It’s SO easy. I haven’t hardly been single since 7th grade. You just gotta be an interesting woman with self worth.

[imyourhost]

it's easy for you. not me.

[MzAsh]

Why do you say that?

[jason222]

@imyourhost are u looking for a boyfriend rn? what kinda guys u into?

[LuvAsh]

Because most guys want to be with a specific tyoe of girl that look like what the media considers beautiful. And most girls don't naturally look like what the media portrays but thats the unrealistic desire of a lot of guys🤷🏾

[Thomas911]

Like girls don't do that with guys they see in movies

[LuvAsh]

Not really😂 it's not rlly given that much attention either🤷🏾 guys aren't forced to look a certain way most of the time. I've been some of the craziest lookong dudes have gfs.

[CandacePerry]

In college the boys are still very immature too. Same some older guys in College. I it more hard to a find a good guy then is a bad boy.

[Potatocream]

well maybe with most people being online instead of going outside its not the same anymore but aslong as you go out and do new things you will find someone :) I've always been interested in someone when I went on vacations etc

[imyourhost]

you are very horny aren't you? message me baby

[Sweatyotterr]

A lot of women think they are a catch but they ain’t what women think men want and want men actually want are very different

[imyourhost]

hmm what men want

[Homegirly]

Maybe you just have to make the move and try to find a nice guy instead of these so called "bad boys"

[J3nny]

It’s not very difficult. But at our age it’s just hard finding good ones.

[buttcrackjoe]

Because we’re all quasi demiqueer pan sexual she/hes gender fluid a sexual sensitive soy boys who live at our moms place

[imyourhost]

please leave your mom's house and let me be your mommy

[buttcrackjoe]

Lol 😂 you ain't old enuf to be my mommy

[imyourhost]

your sugar mommy* I'm 18 by the way

[buttcrackjoe]

Lol now we’re talkin haahahahah