Why is it so hard to find a boyfriend nowadays?

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MrOracle · Accepted Answer

The biggest new issue is that people, especially teens, live far too much of their lives online/on their phones instead of with other teens in their local area. It does you no good to "get in a relationship" with someone distant who you rarely or never get to spend real time with, which is what usually happens when you try to "date" online.

Increase your "out of the house" social time - get involved in more activities that your friends do, even if you have to have several different circles of friends. Spend more time with others in person, and get involved - let people see you being fun and happy. And if there's a guy you like, don't be afraid to flirt a little..

Logorithim · Accepted Answer

It can't be that hard. What's hard is finding someone compatible, but that is a lot less complicated at your age.

morimeme1 · Accepted Answer

It's not hard, unless you are looking for a decent one, those are rare species in our generation. Plus you are young, boys your age (and girls too) are very dumb and immature, the smart ones focus on their studies, the dumb ones just want to fuck. That's why I waited until I was 18 and looked for an older guy.

btbc92 · Accepted Answer

Either you have unrealistic expectations and standards or you don't set the bar high enough, AND you go after guys in the wrong places. You start with your male friends that are single and see if there is compatibility. STOP TRYING TO DATE STRANGE MEN. That's a start.

LogicBomber · Answer

Do you believe:
1. You are a victim of men?
2. That there is a "patriarchy"?
3. 1 in 4 women will be raped?
4. "The future is female"?
5. Wage gap is a real thing?
6. General feminist ideological bullshit?

Do you:
1. Use emotional manipulation to get your way
2. Lie about what you are ok with when you meet a guy in the hope you will "change him later"
3. Ask shit test questions. (Questions that either answer will lead to him being in shit)
4. Act like an entitled brat child.
5. Expect "equality" as long as you only get the good stuff and not have to give up shit.

Are you:
1. Overweight and think "fat is beautiful"
2. Aggressive and loud and generally act like a dude
3. Have a slutty past

If you answered yes to ANY of these questions...
That is why you find it hard to get a boyfriend.

Graciegirl61 · Answer

Purely because some guys/woman can't hold up a good relationship. By that I mean there are more things in the world that can simply break them up by ones actions.

Ends up in others being untrustworthy or they just aren't 'ideal' however you see ideal as.

DevilsAdvocator · Answer

What makes you think that you deserve one? What makes you so special, so entitled to a relationship? Have you done anything to earn it- would you? Or do you still expect guys to do all the work in establishing any relationships, for none of the potential rewards and double the potential jeopardy?

THenny · Answer

It's hard because you're trying to find one. The best relationship I've ever had was completely organic from the very beginning. I never forced anything. In fact, I wasn't even interested in her.

If you're trying to find a boyfriend, you're probably pursuing guys for vain reasons. Ie looks and thats just a recipe for disaster.

hahahmm · Answer

Because the things guys really value like a great personality and loyalty are RARE. If you don’t have that stuff oozing out of you by the bucket it’s not going to be easy. Not to mention how a lot of females waste time on the wrong type of guy. If you give all your time to guys who aren’t giving you what you want then you have no tome to find the right guy

AnonT0 · Answer

Technology and Social Media plays such a huge part in it. Back before all of that, people had no chance but to socialise face to face, create a bond and work up feelings/emotions that way. Now the majority of the time, it’s people getting to know each other through text and not sharing that closeness. Sad to see and experience.

DeepInConversation · Answer

Lots of reasons but I think the main reason why people have a hard time finding relationships these days are the people who only "hookup". We're in a "hookup" culture right now and that ruins it for the people who actually want to be with someone, not just have one night stands and friends with benefits situations

Twerk4Me · Answer

It's because we live in a twisted society where men are expected to make the first move on women, yet are labeled every horrible name in the book when they do (creep, rapist, pig, slime ball, harasser, etc...) in other words, FEMINISM. That's your answer! Too many guys are afraid to say anything to women without rumors being spread across the whole town.

loveslongnails · Answer

You DO realize that for every girl who says that, there's a guy saying "Why is it so hard to find a girlfriend these days?" My simplest answer is --- post puberty, hormonal growth. And... guys in your dating age range for the most part don't want to "settle down" with one girl when there are SO many attractive girls out there.

4n0nym4us · Answer

I'm right there with you but, I'm looking for a lady. There's a myriad of reasons and too many quantify. The best thing for you to do is not to get jaded, negative, and especially - don't judge yourself. Just keep moving forward.

TheOnlyJonesy36 · Answer

Lmao by saying this as a girl in public you are inviting horny old men to harass you. But I guess I don't know, on the internet any girl can find a boyfriend.

JojoSiwasBiggestFan · Answer

Have you put yourself out there? For some us, a good guy isn't always going to find us. We have to find him. When looking for a potential boyfriend, get to know him so you can figure out whether or not you and him are compatible. God luck💕

MzAsh · Answer

It’s not hard at all. It’s SO easy. I haven’t hardly been single since 7th grade. You just gotta be an interesting woman with self worth.

LuvAsh · Answer

Because most guys want to be with a specific tyoe of girl that look like what the media considers beautiful. And most girls don't naturally look like what the media portrays but thats the unrealistic desire of a lot of guys🤷🏾

CandacePerry · Answer

In college the boys are still very immature too. Same some older guys in College. I it more hard to a find a good guy then is a bad boy.

Potatocream · Answer

well maybe with most people being online instead of going outside its not the same anymore but aslong as you go out and do new things you will find someone :) I've always been interested in someone when I went on vacations etc

Sweatyotterr · Answer

A lot of women think they are a catch but they ain’t what women think men want and want men actually want are very different

Homegirly · Answer

Maybe you just have to make the move and try to find a nice guy instead of these so called "bad boys"

J3nny · Answer

It’s not very difficult. But at our age it’s just hard finding good ones.

buttcrackjoe · Answer

Because we’re all quasi demiqueer pan sexual she/hes gender fluid a sexual sensitive soy boys who live at our moms place

ccal28 · Answer

In my personal experience, most girls want the perfect guy and set the bar so high that everyone they meet isn't good enough. Even if someone seems perfect they have this feeling like it's too good to be true and that often creates trust issues.

Tyffen · Answer

Because feminism has ruined the confidence of most men to approach women...

theswizz · Answer

your 17 how can it be hard... if you think its hard now you screwed.

SexyAshh · Answer

Lol its not🙈 Tbh its easy. Maybee need to build confidence and tell them what you want

caesarsalad77 · Answer

Same here it's hard to get a girlfriend haha I don't know just put yourself out there and be social you'll find someone

LuWe22 · Answer

Was not hard for me. You have to look at the right places like parks, Cafés or Restaurants, concerts, amusement parks or Shows. Generally places you can find guys that have similar interests as you.

Pulimuli · Answer

I find it hard to believe that a young woman find it hard to find a boyfriend 🤔 Its hard to find a girlfirend though 😂

Druvzz · Answer

To be precise it’s hard to find a good boyfriend. But if you want to settle for any kind of guy you can get that very easily

keshainlove · Answer

SOME not all, act really picky and have high standards. Remember though, you’ll find the one and never settle for less.

weirdoweirdo · Answer

I got no idea.. I'll just eat my food over there by the corner.

ROCKS128 · Answer

Coz may be you are too much involving at wrong time...

janethM · Answer

I don't find it hard i have a boyfriend now and lik3 200 other guy message me wanting to my bfs

up_64 · Answer

That picture is half the problem. Don't go looking for a boyfriend online

Romeo0071234 · Answer

You're 17 lol... I think you'll be fine. Just enjoy life and don't worry. All will work out.

bigbang101 · Answer

Because its hard to find a girlfriend... It goes both ways hahah

Nayrr · Answer

It's not hard to find one. Its hard to find a good one.

Anonymous · Answer

I ask the same thing for girls. But then I find the answer easily: Girls are into jerks.

Kdude010 · Answer

Because you're not putting yourself out there. Can't expect to find a partner if you're not doing anything about it.

intjgamer · Answer

Social media. People don't go out and meet or hangout anymore. It's become a world of vanity for young adults and teens.

Anonymous · Answer

Because there’s too many women chasing too small a group of men. There’s literally not enough to go around.

Anonymous · Answer

you women live in an imaginary world  lol so shallow lol

Anonymous · Answer

Not sure what you're talking about, all the women I know have hundreds of guys wrapped around their fingers.

Twalli · Answer

Because online dating is far more common so fewer people are on the market.

hugzy · Answer

you don't know what you looking for , your expectations are way up there or both...

ivanhunterjo · Answer

Because you aren’t putting yourself out there more x

amanfromearth · Answer

I think because of everyone looking for have sex. not for a relationship

Unit1 · Answer

What are your standards in a boyfriend?

Passinggas · Answer

Less want that nowadays.

Bismarck_96 · Answer

Cause most have turned into fuckboys

CoffeeWC · Answer

Some people find it more difficult than others.

SpunkNugget · Answer

Ok I will be your boyfriend

Reddwolf · Answer

Because you are looking in the wrong places

Mahof · Answer

Why is it so hard to find a girlfriend?

BonnieBunny · Answer

Because all the "nice girls" scared the guys away

Twenty2 · Answer

I'll be your boyfriend!!😘

Anonymous · Answer

that's simple. high expectations!

bri007 · Answer

I'm single and can cook what would you like 💋💋💋

jimmy2 · Answer

Crap i saying that about a girlfriend

hanzohasashi · Answer

you expect something too high

Anonymous · Answer

be glad you don't have to be the hunter

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