Why did I attract African men but when I lost weight, I got approached by them less?

[Anonymous]

Like when I was heavier, I would mostly attract black African men. I got told I was so beautiful and plump but I didn’t feel beautiful. I’m 5’10 and I used to be over 200lbs. I’m a Black American young woman. Even when I was 230lbs or 220lbs, I attracted African men and my starting weight was 235lbs but I dropped 70lbs and I noticed that I attracted them less and more black American men hit on me and other races but mostly black. I still don’t feel beautiful and I still feel big. I’m currently 165lbs and more fit. One of the guys that had a crush on me (he’s African) is disappointed because I lost a lot of weight and he flat out bluntly said that I looked better when I was heavier and I didn’t need to lose weight. He said my head looked too big for my large bones structured body. Let’s just say his crush on me ended. Like wow….

I didn’t like him that was at all but wow…

I rather be fit than over 200lbs and out of shape.

[msc545]

From a cultural standpoint, black men often are attracted to women that by other standards are somewhat overweight. Unfortunately, being overweight also means impaired health and you should not become overweight. Just in the hopes of attracting a black man. There are plenty of black men who recognize that heavy weight is a detriment to good health and find themselves attracted to women who look healthy.

[MisterWack]

Maybe with it came confidence and the confidence scared them away?

Other than that I don’t think it is as simple as weight 📉 men’s interest 📉.

Could be a lot of factors like maybe you changed a job in process / had less opportunity to be hit on / change in mood / etc. that are unrelated to the weight loss.

[avery58]

I was always skinny and had guys of diverse backgrounds hit on me but years ago when I put on some weight and was kind of chubby I noticed black men were hitting on me a lot... Now not as much since I began exercising

[hahahmm]

This is a silly question... you attracted black and non black when you were super fat. You attract black and non black now that you lost weight. Although, I would bet that the successful guys of all races would never take you seriously when you're obese but women never seem to talk about that detail.

[BonzoInBitburg]

I dated a skinny black model and she said she only dated white men because she couldn't attract black men. My black friends don't even think a women is attractive if they weigh less than them. They love the look of a well fed women

[ICanSmellTheCosmos]

The allure of thin women isn't something that most cultures sympathized with throughout history, especially in sub-Sahara Africa. Chubby women were preferred, even to the point that a gal would intentionally fatten herself.

Thousands of years of mate preference don't suddenly go out the window in a few generations.

[Berethor]

Black African men are well known chubby chasers, they don't want a thin woman.

[Asker]

That’s problem why I don’t get hit on by them anymore. Well, I rather be fit and slim than to be chubby and out of shape.

[Asker]

Probably I mean

[Berethor]

Yea, does men from other races start hitting on you? most men in the world prefer thin.

[Asker]

Some of them but most are black (mostly Black African men). I used to get hit on them a LOT.

[Berethor]

So black African men still hit on you? or they don't like that you has lost weight?

[Twalli]

There's a faction of society that likes large women. There was guy at a comedy show that had an "I love Lizzos" shirt. He explained that people like him are attracted to large women, especially large black women.

[Anonymous]

Simple answer w out reading everyone you wrote. When you lost that weight you lost that ass.

[Asker]

I still have an ass, it’s just smaller.

[Opinion Owner]

Exactly it’s smaller. Like I said you lost that ass. A lot of black men love bigger women. So when you lost the weight they lost the attraction. Not all but a lot of them.

[Asker]

Well too bad. The guy like I said that had a crush on me said that I should have stayed the way I looked because in the African culture, heavy/overweight women are beautiful and I’m unfortunately was dropped in that category. Ouch! Man that was harsh. African men are brutally honest but at least he was honest. I’m not going to gain the weight back just because he or some other guys like chubby or overweight women. It’s like weight loss is a no go for black woman. We deserve to be healthy too.

[Opinion Owner]

Being overweight isn’t good for anyone. I’m glad for you though that you looked at it from a health perspective. Plus if you’re not happy being the size you used to be then you did it for all the right reasons. Not for someone else.

[Juxtapose]

I like chubby girls too but thin women can still be hot. I guess black guys might have that preference because of tradition from Africa?

[beefcakebradybatson]

Most men of African heritage and/or birthplace are into fat broads, but THIS black man doesn't give them the frst. let alone second look.

[Anonymous]

African americans dates fat girls and fucks their bootyholes more often then bang their pussy