Do you think popular people are attracted by unpopular people? Opposite attracts?

[Crazzyyworld]

[Datboi65]

Popularity is dumb, I prefer peace and quite. I wasn't popular back in my high school days and didn't want any of it, just focused on improving my resume and making sure I'll be a great candidate for college. I guess I'm in the mood to tell a story today.

I accidentally did become popular for a month, and it happened in the funniest way possible. I have a head scar from a childhood injury were hair doesn't grow, but can be hidden by hair that surrounds it. I got a near-bald, marine-style cut because my dad didn't want me to go to the barber every month, so cutting it shorter would take more time to grow again.

Well, I got the cut and my scar was very visible and I didn't know what to think. I bought a hoodie to hide it, and got barked on by one of the school administrators to not wear the hood over my head, so I took it off. When I tell you, the minute people saw me I basically became a school sensation instantly, getting dapped up by every guy and getting a lot of compliments, I was just too overwhelmed. I was told my scar made me look like a badass, and had some people ask if it was a hairstyle or a scar. It felt a bit nice at first, but it became too much and I didn't capitalize on it by make new friends or connections, even though I had a lot of opportunities. I could've decided then and there to be popular, but I turned it down because I prefer peace and quite. Eventually it all died down, and from there onwards I would get the occasional fist bump when I got a haircut.

I also never had a crush on any of the popular girls, yet I got a lot of attention from them when I switched my style up, and had a couple of them try to hit on me. I always found them annoying and rude. The girls I usually liked were kind and introverted. I think people that care too much about being popular have insecurities about their shyness and wish they were able to talk to more people without being awkward, but I personally never struggled with that. I can meet and talk to new people easily and have a great time, but it honestly depends on my mood and most of the time I prefer my own company over that of others.

To answer your question, yes popular people can be attracted to non-popular people because I experienced that.

[Summeroflove]

Oh this really just depends on the person. Soulmates are a personal thing I’ve noticed some people marry a person with very similar internets while other times being opposite really completes one another.

Also depends on your definition of popular and unpopular. If someone’s genuinely a bad person (with the exceptions of cases where someone started off great and turned out to be someone else) people who go after bad people aren’t the best people themselves

Bur some people have such big loving nurturing hearts. They see the gold that’s inside of someone and they bring them into their life and genuinely love them.

[TheLovelyIntrovert]

I was a goth in high school and my boyfriend was a jock. But my boyfriend pretty much got along with almost everyone. Except the extreme geeks... but I don't blame him I didn't like them either 😂

[PeachyPie93]

No popular kids usually date other popular kids. You usually date those in your own groups but I suppose if you mixed around in other groups like me you could end up with anybody or no one 🤣

[HawkPerception]

Opposites only attract in the sense of man and woman, masculine and feminine, tall and short, big and small, strong and weak, dominant and submissive, extroverted and introverted, etc.

Otherwise, the main thing that brings people together and makes them compatible is similarities. Similarities in views, interests, sense of humor, goals in life, way of thinking, sexual compatibility, etc.

[edmwarrior]

I couldn't have said it better but i'll answer just for the points

[Williskayla90]

Right lol

[imtiaz45]

The idea that "opposites attract" is often seen in relationships where contrasting personalities or traits create balance and intrigue. However, attraction between popular and unpopular people isn't solely about opposites. Popular individuals might be drawn to someone less popular for their authenticity, unique perspectives, or qualities that stand out from the social norm. Conversely, the less popular might admire the confidence and charisma of the popular. While differences can create a complementary dynamic, shared values, interests, and emotional connections often play a more significant role in lasting relationships, beyond just the appeal of opposites.

https://www.youtube.com/embed/OcHHLp1nMKA

[Purpleronnie]

The connotation of popular and unpopular doesn’t fit here so I’m going to ignore that.


“They” do say that opposites attract.. personally I’d technically disagree with that. I’d say the opposite has to complement the other more often than not , that increases comparability in my opinion. An example would be a relationship that has the thinker and the impulsive as opposites , perhaps those who seek security and the opposing risk taker. It’s not always true though there variables are on a spectrum and it’s the equilibrium that’s important

[Berethor]

Opposite attracts is a myth, most people prefer someone similar to them, but not all couples are power couple, there is many things more important than popularity.

https://neurosciencenews.com/opposites-attraction-psychology-23877/

[DrPepper12]

No it's survival of the fittest and only the fit get to the top of the food chain. I've had 20 years in high school to watch popularity, social climbers, cliques, identity groups, etc and popular stays with popular. They never date down.

[genericname85]

attractiveness and popularity don't have really anything to do with each other. social status has and looks. that's it.

[Dhdhdhgdhdjuyd]

lol there’s no such thing😂 you’ll realize sooner or later that, that type of thinking is fucking retarted and isn’t how it is. Or at least hopefully you grow out of that insecure thinking, cuz that’s nothing how it is at all

[beefcakebradybatson]

Sometimes yes, or this coal-black (and VERY handsome) older black lad wouldn't be after a MUCH-younger buxom blonde lady !!!

[MyBrainsInsaneReign]

No that would mean attractive people are attracted to unattractive people.

"Opposites attract" only works with certain kinds of opposites.

[AIexandra]

İdk I'd date with famous people no matter what , tbh

[Juxtapose]

No, popular people think they are too good to associate with unpopular people.

[Pohjolan]

Sometimes but I'd say that there are other factors in play.

[Anonymous]

I was from an upper middle class family while she was from poverty. We lasted 10 years.

[Anonymous]

Opposites often attract, but that doesn't mean they get along well all the time.

[Zoi1986]

I think they balance each other out.

[Ladsin2]

That's not how that works.

[Adogdog]

I have kinda noticed that.

[LiamJHayden]

Some.

[In_Trance]

Never