Not sure whether to break up with my boyfriend, advice please?

[Anonymous]

Me (22F) and my boyfriend (23M) have been seeing eachother for almost 2 years now. In the start things were great, but as times gone on I’ve noticed somethings that make me unhappy. For example, we don’t go out together and do anything. I’ve brought up ideas of things we can do together but he genuinely has no interest. And I’m young, I want to go out and do things, not inside his house all the time. Another thing is that the entire time we've been dating, without fail, his best friend has been there every day I’ve spent with him, from morning til night, we don’t have alone time together. And to top it off I’m just not physically attracted to him anymore. I like his personality, and his love for me I don’t doubt but I’m not happy with the relationship dynamic and the time we spend together is well … boring there’s no excitement or activity. I often find myself wondering if there could be someone better for me, these thoughts are followed by guilt but I can’t ignore the feeling that this isn’t my forever person

[sawno]

You are still in your dating prime so your likely to find a guy who is a better fit for you. None of it sounds like you still love him. You don't love how he looks like, you don't love how he is. That's not a good sign of something salvageable but I do have a counter question, why are you with him?

[Asker]

I met him in college when I was younger, back then he was rlly attractive and outgoing. I had a huge crush on him, and when we reconnected I felt kind of lucky that now he wanted to give me a chance. But he’s not the same person as he was back then and I see that now. He loves me a lot, he’s told me he wants to spend forever with me, I’m so scared of hurting him as I do care about him loads that I’ve been ignoring my feelings. But truth is, I don’t see a forever, I see a guy that I love and care about but not my forever person

[sawno]

Then it will be a timebomb either way since that's not sustainable. So better to look while you still have all your options open.

[AviatorTom]

A random group of people on GaG can give you advice, but the decision is all yours. If you are thinking of breaking up with him, think of this...

Would you rather be with him 2 years from now? Or with someone else?

[bowenw]

I think you've answered your own question. There doesn't seem to be much holding the relationship together, so it's probably time to move on.

[BigbNikki]

Always follow your head not your heart ❤️

[Asker]

I’m worried I’ll hurt him a he’s told me he sees us together forever, and he loves me like he’s never loved anyone before. But for me, I don’t feel the same. How should I break the news to him?

[BigbNikki]

Slowly and respectfully tell him how you feel - if he honestly respects you he will understand and honor your wishes

[slatyb]

Just end this.