Should you go into a first date looking for red flags?

[Anonymous]

[Summeroflove]

Anyone should especially if you don’t know the person well, you’re with somebody you barely know I would expect someone else to do the same for but, but also look out for the green flags as well as even yellow flags. Yellow flags are a thing too where it’s not so much of a red flag but it’s questionable though could be innocent enough.

You have to be careful in relationships not to get hurt and/or hurt somebody else people need to know when to break it off.

[AviatorTom]

Heck no. That's a very negative view of life... and dating. If that's what you look for on a first date, maybe you shouldn't be dating.

Don't look for red flags. If there are any, they will just appear.

[ShellyB]

I think you should go into the first date trying to get to know them. I don’t think looking for only negative is a good idea but if there are “red flags” then yes you should see them and consider them. JMO!

[LaurenM1997]

No you shouldn’t you should go and enjoy yourself and stop looking for the wrongs in a relationship

[ohsheeT]

You going to your first date to have a good time to get to know somebody if there's going to be red flags they're going to jump right out in front of you

[SunnyGirly]

sounds like setting your self up for failure but I do it too lol

[MisterWack]

You never go actively looking for red flags, they should stand out on their own. If you need a checklist or something then you have issues….

[Erin2003]

If you do, perhaps YOU are the red flag. Stay positive……it’s a first date!

[Ukrainianbuddafly]

Never look for red flags, but be mindful if they present.

[serious_miss419]

Probably because when most of us where young in Elementary school, in P. E we ran and played Capture The Flag. It was a red flag hanging off someone you had to yoink the flag! ✌️

[Oncewildtwiceburned]

Yes. Boats don’t ignore buoys otherwise they might run aground wreck and sink

[LiamJHayden]

Be aware, but if one looks for something negative, that person is likely to find it whether it is actually there or not.

[exitseven]

You don;t look for them but do not ignore them either.

[Nikki1989]

Going into a first date with a negative mindset like that won't do you any favours.

[TadCurious]

Excellent point. 👍

[Anonymous]

I don't see why. They're called "red flags" and not "camouflage flags" for a reason. They ain't hard to find. You don't need to be on the lookout

[Anonymous]

Not looking, just not ignoring. If you're looking for them then you probably shouldn't even be dating. Because you're just adding to the toxicity that already exists in the dating world.

[MyBrainsInsaneReign]

If you look for red flags, you're always going to find them.

Don't look for red flags, just be aware of them when they're staring you in the face.

[Anonymous]

I hate all this red flag stuff, everyone spends all their time looking for "red flags" instead of living their lives.

[noohair]

If you expect things to be bad, they will be bad no matter what happens.

[In_Trance]

I think you just ruined the experience for yourself by doing that

[monaAVa]

Of course, I'll be careful to watch for micro-expressions and find out what's going on in the details.

[RubyFrench]

no but you should definitely pay attention

[Alwayreckles93]

Yes absolutely to many creeps now a days.

[bowenw]

I think looking for all the flags.

[MrGSpotHer]

Well you might be waiting a while I don't see many

[KittygosMeoWW]

Yes and no

[Maybeyoutoo]

No, of course not.

[EnjoytheDay777]

They're late.

[Jmmmfi4]

LOL.. WTF