Why is it so hard to meet people irl after college?

[Anonymous]

Especially if you're an introvert.

[Anonymous]

I tell people this all the time, meet everyone you want in college because once you get out all those people are going to be gone and you'll only have the same 20 people at work who you see every single day. I'm lucky to be in an industry where there are thousands of people around all the time, but most people don't have that, and it's very hard to meet anyone when you only have a few in your life anymore. Make the most of those college years.

[Asker]

True. All the people I met in college are either dead or too far away to see everyday. I only have one lifetime friend I see everyday and that's because we're roommates. I wish I had met more people in college.

[Avcfhcic]

I feel like people are in a routine and going out to meet new people isn't part of that. You go out to see friends you haven't seen in weeks, rather than go out to meet possible partners.
Where as in college you seen people all the time and could afford to spend time meeting new people.
It kinda sucks because most of my friends are with a partner and I'm alone and don't know what to do

[Asker]

Same here. I just had a break up with a guy I met in college and I thought he was the one. It sucks to be back to square one because it's so fucking hard to meet new people at my age.

[Avcfhcic]

Well take the confidence that you've had an experience with someone!
Give yourself time to recover from the breakup, then get back out there and see how things go!

[Asker]

That's the thing. There's no where to get back out there to. Dating apps are a joke these days and meeting people in person is also just as bad.

[Avcfhcic]

What are your hobbies?

The way I look at it, if you don't try, you won't succeed. Dating apps suck for me because my looks don't compete with guys, but men have been attracted to you so it's something!

[Asker]

Writing and gaming are my hobbies

[Avcfhcic]

A lot of guys are gamers! What games do you play?
You could also look at some social groups with creative writing or something, just as a way of meeting people with similar interests

[Asker]

GTA V and the thing about that game is its a bunch of youngsters on there. Hardly anyone around my age. And I guess I could see if there are some social groups with creative writing. I think I would have to go out of state for it though because my state sucks.

[Avcfhcic]

Yeah true. Lobbies are full of 12 year olds screaming. But being a gamer is good! I wish I could find a girl into gaming.
Well see what's in your area, even try new things to give yourself more chances, you could find a man or a new hobby!

[Asker]

I hardly doubt it but I will try.

[Avcfhcic]

If you don't try, you don't succeed!
I know how you feel only worse because I've not had any experience. You have, that proves you are attractive to men. Are you in your thirties?

[Asker]

Yes I am.

[Avcfhcic]

Go out to bars where there are more likely older people (as in not teenagers), you never know what might happen. Pub quiz, karaoke, live music. Who knows!

[Asker]

I'm not a bar person. My ex was but I'm not. I only ever went because of him.

[Avcfhcic]

I understand, I'm also like that. But unfortunately there's no one in our bedrooms to meet while gaming.
Sometimes we have to do things we don't like to try get to better places!

[Asker]

True. Maybe I'll go out one day. The bars in my city are college oriented though so it's hard to find one that's for people my age.

[Avcfhcic]

Look for nights with no events on that would attract students, that's when the older population

[Avcfhcic]

Go out and you could get lucky!

[Asker]

Ok I'll try I guess.

[Avcfhcic]

It's all we can do!
Work on yourself to be the person you want to be, and if it's right someone will come into your life!

[Joshydavid25]

Because people become very reserved about meeting new people especially in most settings outside of certain settings.. And then especially if you're an introvert, because small talk can. be really awkward and usually it can be a challenge to wanna strike up a conversation with some random person..

[Asker]

That's true it certainly can be.

[Joshydavid25]

Most definitely, as an introvert I know too well.. Thanks for MHO by the way!! 😁..

[Asker]

You're welcome!

[ashish804]

they tend to pre occupied