I am an introvert how to approach a girl?

[Anonymous]

I really want to be a friend with a girl but i am extrem level introvert who not even like to talk much. I never had interaction with female except sister and mother. I really feel shy, awkward and numb when there is a girl around me. What i do how i start to cure this illness.

[SueShe]

You are the only one that can help that situation.

In order to have friends or a girlfriend, you must be proactive and find friends. They will not just pop up in your life without you being involved in the relation. Best is to join a club, take a hobby where you can meet people with similar interests.

If you are good at one specific occupation, then see if you can find a club or place where others meet that share that passion. The rest will just fall automatically into place. Sharing the same interests with a person is always a good start to get to know that person better because you have common grounds.

But you have to work on yourself first. That would include shyness and social anxiety if those are part of your problem.

You can train your approach, your attitude and expression in front of a mirror for example. Think of what message you want to bring across and rehearse it until you are satisfied. The next step is the most difficult one and that is the one where you have to put in practice what you learned and rehearsed.

But without you wanting and acting upon it, nothing will ever happen. You have to get out of your comfort zone for it to happen. The most important is not to be afraid to fail. If you are rejected, get back onto your feet and try again.

If you are dissatisfied with the way you look, then simple steps may have a positive impact on you. Try first to change your hairstyle and clothing. They may be one of the reasons why you feel insecure. Learn to smile because people are also judged on how they appear to others. If you frown all the time and never smile, you will be tagged as a person that is difficult to befriend or be with. Good luck.

[Nikki1989]

You still have to approach just like anyone else. Being an introvert doesn't get you off the hook.