How to flirt with an introverted girl?

[Anonymous]

I'm 14... she's 16... she's going to college soon while im at 2nd year high school, anyways what matters is, i dont know if she has interest in me or not, I think she likes me, but when I talk to her, I feel like she doesn't , but I'm not really sure since this is the first time I've met such a girl, she told me she doesn't like approaching others first because they might think she's "feeling close" so I'm always the one who approaches her. She doesn't reply to my messages much since she's busy studying, and I know that it's the right thing to do, but I'm seriously confused, do i have a chance on her or not, I'm kinda introverted myself too but I'm trying to change, so can anyone help me on this case?
Do you guys think I have a chance or not? What should I do to make her like me too?
I've had lots of girlfriends before but none of them was like her, and I think I'm really inlove with this girl. I don't wanna let her go no matter what but I don't think she feels the same way.. what do you think I should do? I feel like I'm being too clingy... any tips on that?

Thanks guys really appreciate your help :)

[Anonymous]

I read your question, and I just HAD to answer it. I didn't really read all the details though cause I'm tired and that looks like a lot.

WARNING: All advice from me comes from personal experiences. Results may vary.

To flirt with an introverted female is can be either extremely difficult or easy depending on how well developed your social skills are. The important thing about flirting with introverted females is understanding body language and social cues.

Step 1: Initiate a conversation with the female. Even if she is attracted to you, she probably won't approach you first. So man up and talk to her.

Step 2: Be polite. Don't bring a bunch of your friends over with you. Just go alone. Compliment her and be friendly. Let her know you're interested.

Step 3: If she looks uncomfortable, stay calm.

Step 4: Make your move! Just her out already. If Frodo can get the ring to Mordor, you can ask this girl out. If she says no, don't get upset. Keep calm, stay polite, be friendly, and just end the conversation and walk away. She may be attracted to you and is afraid to say it.

[notgoodwithnames]

if she talks about personal life with you then it is a good sign...
i never discuss important things with people who are not close to me.
also you should be a good listener and listen to her. and everything she says even if she says it in a casual way is valuble. for example i wouldn't talk about maths if i am not interested in it, so if she mentions something always think it is important to her.
people like us are a bit complicated.
one more advice. don't be too bubbly, be normal and chill. don't also tell her what to do or ask her too many questions like, where were you? what were you doing alone?
if she wants to tell you she would so don't ask her personal questions.

[Anonymous]

In my opinion, you may have a chance but you may not. recently a younger guy (i'm a senior and he is a junior) tried the whole flirting/talking "thing" with me and i had a hard time reciprocating or feeling any emotion at all towards him because it was eating away at me in the back of my mind that if this ever became a relationship that it wouldn't work out because ultimately i am leaving for college and do not want to try the long distant thing with someone who is still in high school. I need new things and no attachments. She may be wary of the same thing. But you guys are young and have time. Give it a shot

[emerald77]

I think your best bet is to simply tell her how you feel, and ask her if she feels the same way. If she's introverted, then she won't tell you that she likes you even if she does, so you will have to be the one to confess to her. Good luck! I hope everything works out with you guys =]

[KissTheGirl]

I'm sorry but it seems like she is not into you. If you are always the one who approaches or sending her a massage then I'm 80-90% sure she is not into you. You should check back your massages if you are the only one who asking questions about her ("How are you", "What are you doing" etc..) that I'm pretty sure she don't interested in you cos she would ask you and make the conversation flow. Studying is just an excuse, if a girl like someone she definitely would have the time to answer you no matter what she is doing. However if you really want to know if she likes you, ask her out to go and just walk in the park somewhere while speaking, and then ask her if she can imagine the two of you as a couple.

Oh and a tip, If you meet a girl you like get her Facebook or phone number immediately, chat with her about 1-2 hour and ask her to date you. That way you will know as fast as possible if she likes you back but if not you avoid to have a crush. You need to be fast :) good luck.

[amarahorrorstory]

She might sometimes think you're teasing her. I used to be very introverted and I still can be at times but I thought guys were making fun of me, well just trying to pick on me more, not to be mean, just for fun. You might just want to ask her why we doesn't really say anything to you. If she gives you a rude response than you dodged a bullet. You might want to find a younger girl who might be more fun to be around.

[SoulGirl]

100% agree

[Felicityplls774]

First, play hard to get because if she knows you like her she's gonna think she has you on the hook. When you start playing hard to get back at her.. She's gonna think the opposite way and start to want you. Don't be too clingy and just stay cool about everything. Everything takes time, and yes you do have a chance with her. Anything is possible. If she really isn't interested she won't give you any kind of attention. Small things count too.. Such as looking... And/or talking as friends. Be observant. If you need any help after this go to YouTube.

[Pfife_diggy]

As an introverted girl, if we are nice to you or even smile, there may be something there. I'm deadly shy of cute friends, especially my crush. However, don't be deterred by shyness. If you THINK she likes you, it's worth smiling, joking around, and getting close (ie talking often). She'll probably be a little shy at first, but flirting is nice if it's casual and not overly physical. A hand on a hand during a joke or lightly brushing into her without moving away (when subtle) is nice.

[rightnexttohim]

you do have a chance. im an introvert. if i like guy i wouldn't also approach him first. bec. if i do then he didn't i'll feel rejected.

just BE YOURSELF. MAKE HER COMFORTABLE WITH YOUR PRESCENCE. YOU'LL GET HER HEART SOMEDAY

[Anonymous]

Well I don't know if she's into younger guys, if you look 15-17 maybe

But for me I like older guys because they can easily do all the flirting and it'll take me a while to get use to it but the main point is to not give up

A shy girl might not flirt back but that doesn't mean she doesn't like you

Start with compliments then light teasing or innuendos

[ClaraFTW]

Ask her out!!! And don't be worried about your age. I used to be closed-minded about dating younger guys until I fell in love with a guy three years younger than me.

[Starsite]

Not sure why a 16 yr old girl would date a 14 yr old boy. Honestly I don't think you should pursue her.

[Caro29]

Girls aren't always as straightforward when it comes to guys. They're afraid of getting hurt. Try waiting a few days to text her next. If you seem easy and always there you're not exciting. If you usually text her first and you wish a few days she'll start wondering why you're not texting her or what happened and she might make the first move. Girls like to go after things they don't like what's easy and available to them. Hope I helped i just went by my experiences with guys. Good luck!

[sonia1013201]

Age 14 n many girlfriends before this! Tell her boldly I luv u. Ya I also want to date boy of age 14-16 n marry him n want to become mother of his child. But I m in relationships so it's not easy

[Char_kitty]

the start of this sounded like a Taylor swift song 😂

[learningme]

It so did. I was literally singing it to the melody of You Belong With Me.

Like, "Cause she wears short skirts, I wear tshirts" "Cause I am 14, and she's 16,"

[Kels_ay]

Just ask her about it. The worst she can do is say no, and then there's tons of others girls you can go for. The important thing is that you speak to her.

[donna17]

i have a crush who is 2 years older than me and i dont really know if he likes me too but we always chat, almost everyday and we always agree to each other.. i didn't meet him yet but, yeah! i like him

[Anonymous]

You are in her rear view mirror, bud
but could be summer friends, around her college obligations
Begin with a wink and begging for a coffee/soda date after school.

[EllaC]

I doubt she likes someone so younger at that age. I know I never did.

[Dayyyuuummmmmbae]

You have three options... you can pull her aside one day and ask her in person if she likes you, text her one night and tell her you have to talk to her about something really important, or you can let her go!

[MzTee]

She probably likes you as a friend nothing more. I think you already know this, Just let it go before you get hurt.

[Rocky96]

You are good at observations of guys Ms

[andix89]

I say try to talk with her - just on day to day things.
Once you build a friendship with her, then you could easily tell her that you like her and would like to go out sometime.

[Anonymous]

Only if you look much older I mean I was into this guy when I was 17 and he was 15 but he looked 19 no kidding I regret it though

[MissMarvelous]

Why do you regret it?

[Opinion Owner]

I was thinking about college and guy to move on with... well he was a freshman that didn't care- I do remember him being incredibly attractive but I don't want only that. Maybe when he was in college I would most def consider it

[Lilina]

tell her that y ou like her

[Anonymous]

I think she's just being nice.