Why is dating so hard?

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Found a guy I sort of connected with but he's not really showing interest in me. Should I just give up on dating because so far I've only found guys who either were married with kids, creepy, or lives too far away from me?

I know my search is limited due to my age but I was hoping that I could find someone my age that has never been married nor has any kids that has similar personality as me.

Maybe I should give up...

Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

Relationships suck especially these days , most people have become selfish and don’t give the same way they want to receive , they only really care about themselves and what is best for themselves , I feel social media destroyed the foundation of a relationship. By filling peoples’ heads with so much shit. People sadly don’t really respect each other anymore , respect pretty much went out the window. The only way a relationship can survive today is if both partners’ choose each other and remove selfishness for each other , if they can’t do that for each other , the relationship won’t last. It’s usually good in the beginning but as time goes , one partner starts to get bored or thinks grass is greener on the other side , My ex started prioritizing her girlfriend over me , and no longer wanted to be close to me or be intimate or affectionate with me , all of a sudden I was just a convenience to her , so I kicked her to the curb where she belongs. I am pretty much over relationships all together , every girl I gave my heart to has shit on it eventually , because they were selfish lying whores that wanted their cake and wanted to eat it to , expecting me to give to them but they didn’t have to give back to me in return. So for me to get into a relationship again , it’s going to take a long ass time for me to even trust a girl these days. I prefer FWB’s with some strings attached , cuz I don’t want to have sex with a girl that is screwing other guys’ ’ as well, to me that is dirty and degrading. My ex started choosing her friend over me, and I think they are gay for each other , by the way they prioritize each other and plan trips together automatically excluding me , I never did that to any of my partners’ , my friends come second to her. So I no longer tolerate selfish girls’ that only care about what they think is best for themselves. I am not a fucking convenience, once I am treated like one , she becomes my convenience as well. To me the relationship is over , plenty of other girls’ out there that want a man that chooses her the same way she chooses him. When my ex went away with her so called girlfriend , I ended up fucking her other friend and told My ex it’s over between us , I met someone else that actually wants to experience things together. So have fun dying it out with your girlfriend or whatever the fuck you are doing. I hate that I had to turn into an asshole but I am tired of having my heart shit on by selfish girls’ so I will become selfish myself

ɹǝʇʇɐɥpɐW · Accepted Answer

There's someone out there for you. Multiple someones. You won't find them at home, though. You've got to get out and meet people. In person. I'm in kind of the same boat. In my 30s, trying to find someone without a family who lives nearby and I connect with. It's hard. But at least you're not alone. :p

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

When things keep not working out, take it as a sign that maybe it isn’t your time to date. Since you said you found this guy, I’m guessing that you’re doing online dating. Sometimes it works, I’ve even gone to a tinder wedding, but those cases are far and few between. Know when to pull out rather than worrying about things like age and biological clocks. Women are fertile into their 40s, so it’s not the end of the world being 30-something and single.

HawkPerception · Answer

Dating is extremely hard nowadays because expectations are ridiculously high and social media has divided us all. Although we can communicate with others with a couple touches of our fingertips, the interactions aren't nearly as deep and we're so desensitized to people in society that it all feels empty. People really need to lower their expectations a bit and be more realistic. It's good to have some standards, but not expect Prince Charming or a model girl with the perfect personality.

ProbablyClueless · Answer

Without knowing anything about your situation, I'll say that most of the times someone consistently experiences the same problems with the people they date, it's because they're doing something to contribute to that outcome.

In your case, it seems like the problem is that you gravitate towards emotionally unavailable men. That's generally a sign of an avoidant attachment style, which you could resolve by identifying why you struggle to connect with others. There might be some benefit to taking time to figure out why that is... maybe something from childhood?

It's so cliche, but people really do recreate their parents' relationships in their own lives.

ManInChains · Answer

Everyone else is giving up. I have. My friends are.

legalboxers · Answer

dating sucks

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