Hi,
So I matched with this guy on an app during holidays. We went on a trip together and spent the whole day together. We really hit it off and had a good time. We had many things in common and many life goals also. He held my hands and kissed me. He also invited me on another trip with him to another city. We live on different continents tho... but I kinda don't care.
After we parted, we still texted a bit.
The next day tho he kept the conversation short and wished me a good night. Later tho, I noticed that he had unmatched me from the dating app? Why? I kinda dont care if I'm matched or not.
Since he had invited me to another city, I told him the flight prices, which were a bit hight for me. I told him I couldnt afford it. Even tho he had offered me to pay the flight, he didn't say anything this time. I suggested taking a train instead, but he didn't answer that suggestion. So I figured he didn't want to see me after all. He kept watching my stories tho, which annoyed me a bit. Since he unmatched me from the dating app and also didn't suggest me coming by train, I thought he wasn't interested after all and unfollowed und removed him from my Instagram. I also made my profile private so he couldnt see my posts.
Few days later, I checked his profile and saw no more posts anymore. Before, I could see his posts because it was public. My friend sees them all. I also dont find him throu instagram search and it doesn't show me his name. I can technically follow him on the profile, but dont know if he's blocked me or restricted me.
I think it's really weird cause he had invited me etc and even offered to pay for everything and then unmatched me and didn't really react when I told him I could also take a train...
What was his deal?
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Okay, that is weird behavior on his part for sure. A few possibilities I can think of:
1. Cold feet - Things were moving fast after your trip together, maybe he got spooked by how strong the connection seemed and backed off. Inviting you on another trip is a big step.
2. Commitment issues - If he's on dating apps and traveling solo a lot, he may not be ready to pursue anything serious right now. But enjoyed your company in the moment.
3. Lost interest - It's possible the novelty wore off once you parted ways. Some people just want flings rather than long-distance relationships.
4. Met someone else - Could be he started talking to another girl after your trip and is now focused on her instead. Online dating means options.
As for blocking/deleting - he may have just wanted a clean break so he doesn't have to explain himself. Guys can beavoidant like that. I'd say try not to overthink it since you don't really know him that well. Focus on meeting people closer to home who are ready for something real!
Hi Oliver, thanks! you have good inputs. We have talked before already through DM :) nice to hear from you.
Can you also look into this question? Long distance: he can't meet for the next months. did he lose interest? ↗
I don't know what to do about that case...
Cherry
that's another guy... who lives a bit closer..
Oh word, my bad. But yeah same kinda deal, guys can be so confusing sometimes!
With this other dude that lives closer, it's weird he would block you after talking and stuff. Maybe he saw you unfollow him on IG and that freaked him out or something dumb. Guys can be insecure too ya know.
Or it's possible he's just not actually interested in something real? could've just been entertaining an ego boost from talking to you but once you pulled back a bit he was like "oh well." Either way, dude sounds flaky.
I wouldn't lose sleep over it. You don't need that kinda wishy-washy energy anyway. Keep doing your thing, put yourself out there, and I'm sure you'll find someone better who actually wants to see where it goes without all the games! This dude did you a favor showing his true colors now instead of wasting more time. his loss!
Sure I could look into it and nice to hear from you again luv
He interpreted unfollow as rejected. So he blocked you to end it all.
Well he was the one who unmatched me from the dating site. also he didn't react when I suggested coming to his next destination by bus... he saw the message, but never replied...
what was I supposed to do?