What is something on a first date that the other person said that was immediately a Red flag 🚩?

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AviatorTom · Accepted Answer

I've told this story before.

After my divorce, I dated several women via an online dating site. After texting with a woman, we agreed to meet at a Chinese restaurant for dinner. I got there early, and she was at least 30 minutes late. She walked in wearing a skimpy pink pair of shorts and halter top that barely covered her very overweight body, not at all what I expected from her online profile. The first thing she said to me was, "It is so fucking hot, my pussy is so wet." I didn't stay for dinner.

One could argue what the biggest red flag was: what she said, her outfit, or that she didn't look at all like the picture in her profile, which must have been taken 20 years ago.

LifeHitMeandRan · Accepted Answer

Several come to mind:

1. Had a woman tell me she hates cats with a passion. I have a cat and I love her so much.

2. Had a woman tell me she doesn't date men if the woman was the one who ended the relationship because it means something is wrong with me. This is just laughable considering the MINOR things women will jump ship over in today's dating scene.

3. Had a woman admit she burned her ex's car because she THOUGHT he was cheating and later learned he did not cheat.

The list goes on.

adriana_wife · Accepted Answer

I remember this one time on a first date when everything seemed fine until they started talking about their ex, and not just in passing. It was like the whole conversation kept circling back to their past relationship, how things ended, how bad it was, and how much their ex hurt them. It instantly felt like they weren’t over it at all, and it made me uncomfortable. I mean, if someone is still that hung up on their past, how are they even ready for something new? It was a major red flag for me, like they were just using the date as therapy or something. I was out of there mentally before the check even arrived.

SweetJoyGirl · Accepted Answer

“What if God told me you are my wife?” 😭😭😭

OlderAndWiser · Answer

current roommate is ex boyfriend.

RebelinSteel · Answer

I was at the pub with a girl I was having a date with, she had this cringe look come over her face, I asked what was up and she pointed to two guys holdings hands and chatting. She then had a ‘it’s against God, it’s immoral, should burn in hell etc’ reply, not a full on rant but close to it. I had zero knowledge on her being a full on religious homophobic idiot. Lovely girl but just goes to show you never know what’s inside a pretty box.

Coden7 · Answer

Not a first date. But I was texting this woman who was a little older than me. I asked her what her day was like a couple of times and she admitted she sits at home and does nothing every day.
No video games
No books
No gym
Lives in the city and doesn’t go out

Nothing lol

Friendlybro79 · Answer

Literally racial slurs. Got up and left in the middle of coffee. She didn't understand and text me what went wrong and when I told her she responded with fuck you. Dodged a bullet there. I'm amazed how terrible some people are but I'm also amazed by how nice people are too. Life and people can be weird. I right?

Sirenboobzilla · Answer

"Are you trying to gain weight or something?" One date took me to this Ramen place in Brooklyn. I love Ramen. This place offered a huge bowl for $20 and I was gonna have at it! He saw it and made that comment. Date didn't end there, but I made it clear there wouldn't be another one.

Maybe_Maybe_not · Answer

Technically, I have experienced only one first date (without red flags), because I have been dating either during school time, so a connection is formed naturally. Or later through communities, where a connection is forming naturally as well. So, first dates are alien to me somehow 🤷‍♀️

BadApple69 · Answer

It’s a good day for a date.. my herpes aren’t flailing up much today!  CHECK PLEASE!!

Wallythewalrus2 · Answer

She said she would like to gouge my 👀 out of my skull and have them instead of her eyes. I was kinda turned on at first but the more I thought of it, I was kinda alarmed by it.

Kaneki05 · Answer

I don't know about them but they are always awkward after I mention I like their breathing I am just thinking it's a compliment but I get the impression this is not what your supposed to say...

Metalbarbie · Answer

Hmm criticism of mine or other people appearance. judgmental attitudes, feeling entitled. One thing to look for is how they treat the server, it can tell a lot about their personality

Agape93 · Answer

One of the things he said was I'd have to cut off contact with my friends unless he approved of em

Still-alive · Answer

Well it wasn't what they said but they would constantly be late. and i don't mean like a couple minutes, i mean a half hour or more. just screams 'i don't respect your time' to me.

Tarifa · Answer

When her attention is drawn by other guys walking into the bar/restaurant. If I give her my full attention and want to get to know her, I'd be expecting the same.

Ironco · Answer

I had just met this lady and she was planning out the rest of our life's together. I'm talking marriage, kids, home, my new job, vehicle's, and on and on. Right down to where we'll be buried. This was all within the first 45 minutes of meeting.

Sunnysunny123 · Answer

He was very touchy and he asked which star sign i am (i don't believe in this) then when i told him he proceeded to tell me what kind of person i am (according to the sign).

tas_16x · Answer

that the girl he dates can't work and belongs in the house.

Wiredone · Answer

When I was in my late teens I took a girl to dinner. After we finished dinner she said " I'll be right back I have to go smoke a joint". I paid the bill and was not there when she came back.

Surely · Answer

I just met the man of my dreams. But, I will still go out with you tonight.  She married this guy!

petitedollbabee · Answer

Barely 5 minutes into the date and he said he wanted to try figging with me. Said it out of nowhere too, we weren’t on the topic of sex. Super gross.

Date_a_Snob · Answer

A date began talking down about people who have to work for a living. I hadn't realized she came from a very wealthy family.

CubaPirate · Answer

Well she looked nothing like I remembered from my drunken night before when we arranged it lol

MikeTheBartender · Answer

I have a vasectomy so the most common for me... "I want to have children one day" 😲

Meropatrick · Answer

My date told me"I have a small business and all my clients complain about me scamming them" I ran for the hills

Japangirly · Answer

when they check their phone every second or look like they aren’t interested in what you’re saying

Nikki1989 · Answer

Any hints of a controlling nature, misogyny, or racism.

justabuddy · Answer

One I should have caught was when I went to pay for the bill my ex growled under her breath.

TDDMS · Answer

On two different dates, the woman asked me how much money I make.

Anonymous · Answer

Politics came up and she said she was a Trump supporter. I left money for the check and walked out after telling her I can't date someone who is brain dead.

admles · Answer

That I would have to convert to catholicism if I want to keep seeing her

LunarEclipse433 · Answer

I don’t enjoy sex or I don’t swallow

Anonymous · Answer

He looked at me and asked me if I was 6ft tall and I’m 5’6

Babygirl_S · Answer

“Are you a virgin?”

Vzxzs · Answer

Quite a few things, when she keeps talking about her ex’s, too ambitious about her career. ‘I have a tattoo.’ Tends to be things that are masculine or classless that turns me off in women.

JustRollTheDice · Answer

Saying they don't like dogs.

DevikaButts95 · Answer

I don't eat pussy.

Mark987 · Answer

ONly talk about themselves

dougeats · Answer

I have my baby this weekend

Charliefretz329 · Answer

Breathing human traits.

EnjoytheDay777 · Answer

Just asked my size (over dinner).

bananathunder · Answer

I'm married...

CaliGirl1995 · Answer

How they treat the wait staff.

MrGSpotHer · Answer

Well I don't really do this kind of mating ritual

LazerMan · Answer

If she has setanic beliefs

famen · Answer

Talking about their exes.

Slim57 · Answer

She just had a baby a week ago lol

Radiate143 · Answer

I love you.

Anonymous · Answer

When she told me her ex was black.

Crazzyyworld · Answer

Sex.

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