Do You Think Most Women On Dating Sites Are Only Seeking Attention & Validation?

[Anonymous]

I'm asking because I have two girlfriends using them for that purpose. They have no intention of ever meeting anyone.

[Finchie40]

I am sure there are some of a lot that do , not all but some yes. Some people want validation , to make themselves feel better about themselves, but sadly it’s something that is out of our hands on what someone else chooses to do. I know a lot of guys’ and girls’ that seek validation , so as long as it doesn’t affect me? I will keep my mouth shut about it , I might shake my head and think they are a complete morons , but that’s their life and their choice on what they want to do. Me personally can’t stand people that constantly seek validation , to me they look like morons , but if it makes them happy , so be it. People that need validation are usually people that think they do no wrong , people that were born with a silver spoon in their hands , constantly being told they are amazing and they do no wrong. they were raised to think they were perfect and they don’t know what the word No means , because they were always told they were right. It’s actually kind of sad to watch and witness. Basically people that think their shit doesn’t stink and handed everything without really having to lift a finger , the only people we can blame is their parents ‘ or whoever raised them to be that way. So they don’t really know any better , it’s how they were raised. It doesn’t make them a bad person , just makes them someone I would have no interest in , I donMt care how beautiful a girl looks to my eyes , if her personality sucks and she acts like her shit doesn’t stink , I will want nothing to do with her , she is better off finding a guy that is just like her that was never told he was wrong as well. I only date girls’ that have great personalities, that know how to give the same way they want to receive , a girl that knows what it means to be in a relationship not a girl that is only wanting things her way thinking she is never wrong.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

It makes sense to use this strategy to boost, artificially, self-esteem through success on dating apps. Assuming any success at all lol. I actually have a male friend with an history in this, using his physical attractiveness on Tinder to boost him up after a breakup, he's meeting almost no girls. While another male friend, unaware of his lack of physical attractiveness, tries that as well, fails constantly and gets the reverse effect, a decrease in self-esteem.

What I think then is that dating sites can be used by strategical people sporting an edge in the context of these sites, while those without this edge will logically feel worse after spending some time doing online dating.

[Kelly6]

@Cathy7734 Yes mostly for attention and some are there just to tease guys to laugh.

I know because one of my friend used to do that

[ohsheeT]

This is very interesting I don't know if that is true or not I've never been to a dating site well I take that back I have started to make profiles but I never have finished any of them so I don't even know who's on the dating site

[Avicenna]

Not sure if it’s most, but it does seem to be an awful lot of them.

[normalice]

I think that's what a lot of girls tell themselves but when they happen upon a guy who bestirs their nethers they investigate. It's just that such guys are super rare because they are obviously bitter and wanting a supermodel who will act as their mommy.

[paledreams]

Out of the 100s of others who then get 0 answer or "why aren't you saying anything hello hellos lol " ouch 😳🤕 feel for those suckers

[paledreams]

I could even verify this by saying I personally overheard my ex coworkers at one job one time openly talking to themselves in the store one woman to another woman 20s both saying "isn't it funny/horrible how guys respond saying "why aren't you answering" and laughed to themselves"
I felt for those poor guys if only they knew 🤮🤢 those such women clearly weren't there to actually seriously date any man. Any man ♂️

[paledreams]

So yes, yes my answer is Yes 100 percent 💯

[Ladsin2]

Pretty much. The ratios change a bit, but let's say the average woman gets 3 matches per day. That's going to be ~1100/year. Of those she'll only meet up with ~18 or about 1/ month. Of that she'll only have a relationship with ~3. The rest are just fluff.

[razelove]

I think most of the women on there aren't real to begin with, but bots and catfish scams. They're either asking for apple gift cards, redirecting to OF, or "offering" to be a sugar baby. It's about as attractive as putting rat traps in my pants.

[ManInChains]

Yup. That's all they want because they rarely ever want to meet a guy they match with. Let alone start a conversation and keep it going.

[nolabels]

I have no idea, but I did enjoy viewing the bod on the babe in the pic accompanying your question.

[morganherrel]

Not most, but definitely some! I mean, even fat women with grotesque faces and blemished skin receive numerous likes on dating apps. So why wouldn't they enjoy the attention and confidence boost?

[Makeushiver]

I'm not sure what the benefit they receive from being on a site like that. Do they simply want to get men interested to boost their egos?

[LiamJHayden]

Some probably are, but I think most have given up on local guys and are looking outside of the immediate zone. Thirst traps are pretty easy to spot.

[RavVid]

I would expect so even without you outing your girlfriends.

[DrPepper12]

That's very petty, cruel and egotistical!!! She doesn't need a date, she needs a mirror!!

[Anonymous]

Online and offline. I don't think most women in general have any intention of seeking a relationship anymore.

[JoeRob67]

Yes and some are scamming men for money I have been there to my own shame

[spartan55]

'Tire kickers' are pathetic.

[ProbablyClueless]

That seems to be the case...

[Ironco]

Yes, I would have to agree with you

[RedInnocent69]

As opposed to free meals or sex?

[noohair]

It is all about generation ME!

[eagle1951]

maybe, but more likely looking for the one

[nawtee_me]

That or sex…