Advice for going on a first date with his mum too?

[LostandFound__x]

Yes. You read that correctly.

I’m Arab and in our culture it’s normal for aunties to set you up with someone and we’ve been set up lol.

So I’ve seen his photo and he’s alright 😜 but he’s over 6 foot and that sold me lmao.

I thought what could I possibly lose if I give it a chance?

But because we’ve been set up our first date will be with our mums.

Now this is something I will never understand and I’m nervous and I don’t think we’re gonna be able to speak as we should!

I’m planning to ask him if he wants to date/speak alone in the future. If not, then goodbyeeee.

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1 y

Guys I’ve never done this before and I agree it’s awkward af I’ll keep you all updated 😂😂 it’s gonna go either way

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1 y

Guys HAAAAAHAAAAA I got catfished 😭

[KostasKouvalis]

This sounds so incredibly awkward. You're two grown ass people. You don't need a chaperone, especially from your mothers. And not even being able to speak to each other? Why even bother going then? This is the weirdest thing I've ever heard. If I were you, I would cancel it. Tell him he either takes you on a proper date, even if it has to be in secret, or if not, good bye.

It's so weird that is normal, especially since Arab men are considered so manly. In most places if this was even suggested, the girl would think he's a momma's boy and run for her life. This is unthinkable to me

[LostandFound__x]

I don’t understand it either and my family don’t do it this way! But his family approached mine so I have to go with it if I want to speak to him. :( I just thought what’s there to lose

[KostasKouvalis]

Damn. That's messed up

[LostandFound__x]

Looool well you never know

[AviatorTom]

Like any first date, be yourself. Your mums are there as chaperones, not to interfere in your date. Have fun and enjoy the date. After the date is over, you and he will each know if you should meet again... without the mums.

[LostandFound__x]

As if we need chaperones right 😭

[PBandJ_Nerd]

I'm guessing it's a "Meet the parents" date before you go on your real first date, right? All I can say is just try to relax and talk to him, allow yourselves to get to know each other. Even if it's just bits here and there that you're able to speak. While I'm not Arab or anything, I pretty much have to have my parents meet the person I go on a date with before they meet me.

[HawkPerception]

This just shows me what you value in a man is shallow. I have nothing else to say on the matter.

[LostandFound__x]

It’s not shallow. It’s a starting point. I might not like his personality at all and vice versa.

[Tomisworthless]

For a girl to even consider you must be 6 or higher in attractiveness, then height of 6 foot, personality keeps her interested and good\great income makes em want commitment. The whole 666 thing like the bible. Mans number is 6 (imperfection) and 666 is the mark of a man trying to usurp God.

[HawkPerception]

@Tomisworthless So what about all the fathers/husbands under 6 ft?

[Tomisworthless]

its this modern era we are in of which this has become the ideal man aka perfect but we are all imperfect and usually those men have horrible characteristics, selfishness, rude, greedy etc

[blueonblack22]

Is this the first time you have been a date with both the guy and his mom?

One thing that helps with nerves is if they’re some sort of fun game you can play that requires movement (bowling alley, arcade “basketball games”, darts, etc.).

[LostandFound__x]

Yes thanks

[CuriousHubby]

Lol sounds like not matter what... Awkward so just let it be a bad date! Then see if another happens after making the most of it.

Culture comes first and your feelings second with this.

Lmao 6 feet sold me. Girls are as shallow as men are or more.

Talk to your aunt to set up another cause he is 6 feet but probably really 5 6!

[LostandFound__x]

Lmao I’m 5”8

[CuriousHubby]

Ooo big factor for you! Sorry most girls just toss that size around like a joke!

[LostandFound__x]

Lol I need a man who’s taller than me

[CuriousHubby]

True you do someone big to tower over you

[LostandFound__x]

:) :)

[Danny_dan92]

No offense to your culture.




But this is why arrangements don’t work.




Because the person that is bringing the other two together will likely have a different personality. You have to be directly involved to know if there’s compatibility

[LostandFound__x]

Yes I agree with you. My family doesn’t follow this tradition but his does :(

[Danny_dan92]

Well that’s unfortunate lol

[LostandFound__x]

Yeah 😂

[Danny_dan92]

I guess what you could do is find a man that shares the same “values” as you. Lol

[LostandFound__x]

I think I have a thing for Italian men at the moment

[Danny_dan92]

There’s your answer lol

[LostandFound__x]

Hahaaaa

[Danny_dan92]

Everything alright?

[LostandFound__x]

Yeahhh I’m good you?

[Danny_dan92]

I’m very good young lady

[Decoded93]

Show the mom you’d make a good potential daughter in law (because that’s what she’s looking for) and give sly cute looks to the guy when you can sneak them in ;) it’ll drive him wild

[LostandFound__x]

Don’t know about the first idea but the second one lmaoooooo

[Decoded93]

lol I think any dudes mom would be impressed by you tbh! You’re a sweetheart, and you gotta play the cards you’re dealt (in this cause it’s a quadruple date with your moms 🤣)

But yes the second one is great, what really melts a guys heart is you look at him, he catches your eyes, you look down quick and then back up before he can look away, and smile

[LostandFound__x]

Thanks!!

I guess I wanna be able to get to know him as you do on a first date. I wonder how this is gonna happen looool

[Decoded93]

Yes and no, you’ll see PART of him, but you won’t see what he’s like when his mom isn’t around, he could be completely different, maybe even immature, or maybe pushy, or maybe he’ll be exactly the same, but you won’t know until it’s just you two getting dinner alone

[LostandFound__x]

Sigh I mean I don’t even have his number we should at least be able to call first right

[Decoded93]

Yes you should, you know what you could do? Write your number down and sneak it to him if you have a chance

[LostandFound__x]

Im definitely leaving that date with some way of speaking/seeing him privately lol

[Decoded93]

You got this lmao he’s gonna go crazy over you

[LostandFound__x]

Imagine he’s a mamas boy 😂

[Decoded93]

Become his new mama then ;)

[LostandFound__x]

Haha I can do that

[Decoded93]

That’s incredible!!

[LostandFound__x]

Haha

[Decoded93]

Haha he’ll be super impressed

[LostandFound__x]

😂😂😂

[Decoded93]

I don’t think it’s bad having a mommy 🤣🤣🤣

[LostandFound__x]

Oh 🤣

[Decoded93]

Ahahaha 😛

[Decoded93]

Oh man you got catfished? What happened?

[LostandFound__x]

It wasn’t the same guy in the photo 😂😂

[Decoded93]

Lmao why do people do that? It’s so creepy! I’ve been catfished but just had the lady look completely different

[LostandFound__x]

Why do people catfish even 😭

[Decoded93]

Haha my dating profile is old, I haven’t updated it in forever, and I look totally different, but I don’t use it unless I get a notification from someone and then I explain I don’t look like that anymore

It’s so easy to explain that situation

But purposefully using the wrong profile pics? That’s so creepy

[LostandFound__x]

Very misleading! I was expecting someone else lol

[Decoded93]

How drastic was the difference?

[FunkyMonkee]

I'm over 6' tall, come over and you can date me without mums involved.

[LostandFound__x]

Without mums involved 😂😂

[FunkyMonkee]

I don't know about yours but, mine's dead.

[LostandFound__x]

Ah sorry!

[FunkyMonkee]

Thanks. It's okay. She held on as long as she could and made it to 81.

[LostandFound__x]

🙏🏻🙏🏻

[MicahRaine]

Sounds awkward but hey awkwardness can breed comradery

[LostandFound__x]

Very awkward right

[MicahRaine]

Well good luck lol

[LostandFound__x]

Thanks

[LostandFound__x]

😂😂😂

[MicahRaine]

When is the fated day?

[MicahRaine]

Fated? Fateful? whichever. . .

[LostandFound__x]

This weekend 😜

[MicahRaine]

lol welp good luck again

[LostandFound__x]

🤣🤣🤣 ah sigh

[MicahRaine]

Keep us updated

[LostandFound__x]

I definitely will hahaaaa

[MicahRaine]

Damn rest in peace 💀

[LiamJHayden]

Be completely respectful, especially of his mother.

[LostandFound__x]

Omg true!! I have a habit of speaking too much

[TallAnon]

Advise; Better not 🤣
If you just want someone over 6 feet, that's really easy

[NathanDavis]

that...

is

weird... lol

[LostandFound__x]

Very weird and I’m never doing that again!

[NathanDavis]

but, catfished? how exactly

[LostandFound__x]

He looked nothing like his photo!

[NathanDavis]

what about the mom? lmao...

[LostandFound__x]

Haha she was actually such a nice lady!

[NathanDavis]

no shame on that guy... lol

[LostandFound__x]

Right it was so awkward

[PeterLegg91]

I don't believe in arranged dates and marriages, Islam has some messed up believes

[LostandFound__x]

This isn’t Islamic practice lol it’s culture

[PeterLegg91]

Still messed up

[PeterLegg91]

It's a very Islamic thing arranged relationships, and Muslim women Want leave their husbands they forced stay with them :(

[LostandFound__x]

If only my muslim ex didn’t ditch me

[LostandFound__x]

Then that would be true lol but he ditched meeeee

[PeterLegg91]

Your lucky then

[LostandFound__x]

Haha I don't know :( I miss him

[PeterLegg91]

Did you have sex?

[LostandFound__x]

No but we did other stuff

[PeterLegg91]

You naughty girl :)

[PeterLegg91]

How were you catfished?

[LostandFound__x]

He looked nothing like his photos

[PeterLegg91]

Omg 😆 would you date an white English man?

[LostandFound__x]

Maybe lol

[MrGSpotHer]

Id never even consider it at all 😂

[LostandFound__x]

Right 😭 but he looked cute in his photo so I don't know

[MrGSpotHer]

But he needs his mamma to help him, what's your first night together going to be like hmm 🧐

[LostandFound__x]

Omg don’t say that I get nightmares. One of my exes said he wanted his mum to come on our honeymoon in the future 😂😂😂

[MrGSpotHer]

You might hear voices telling you how he likes it from outside the door probably followed by you better give me a grandchild 😜

[LostandFound__x]

HAHA EW 😭

[MrGSpotHer]

The saying mamma knows best isn't a good one to hear this time, sorry...

[LostandFound__x]

😭😭😭 it’s so weird genuinely like I love my mum too and all but come on

[MrGSpotHer]

I couldn't do it 😭

[LostandFound__x]

Right 😭😭😭

[MrGSpotHer]

Catfished?

[LostandFound__x]

Wasn’t the same guy in the photo lol

[MrGSpotHer]

What photo and what's catfished

[LostandFound__x]

I saw a photo of him beforehand and then I saw him in person and he looked completely different

[Tomisworthless]

This is more like a statement

[Anonymous]

What country?