Do I give up dating if my kitty is loose?

[Anonymous]

I’m only 23 and been sexually active since 15. 4 have been…well hung.
Guy number 5 he was super chatty until he hit, he came back a few times after and would finish twice, even hit when I was on my period and wanted to try a. but I said no. Then he ghosted me and 4 months later is dating someone.

[Crimsyjo]

Don't listen to the rubbish about not being wife material.

Do what you want that feels right for you mentally. I say mentally because if you feel your having too many sexual relationships then choose to stop if that's what you wish. If you are comfortable and happy with what you have had and want to continue that's great too.

Some people will judge. So it's also your perogative who you open up to about it. Men don't generally want to know about your past history. Even if they think they do. Most men are hugely insecure about their penis and performance so if you say you had well hung partners or quite a few it's going to effect them mentally. And because they don't like that feeling of insecurity they will lash out to blame you and say your a hoe or too easy or it's your pussys fault.

I've made this mistake being too open because I value honesty. Not that anyone I slept with ever had issue or called me a hoe. But I am learning there is things you do not need to reveal in detail.

[Asker]

Thank you for your response. Had a bit of a cry reading things men here said. People can be harsh especially if they don’t know everything which is given since it’s online and no one knows me. I’ve never done one night stands or just hookups. 4 people I’ve been with were there for at least a year+ and I was head over heels for them… 5th one was more of a shock from the ghosting and how bad everything was but ANYWAY. I don’t sleep around and not a whore etc, genuinely cared for those I’d been with before. Just worried more about my experience that, like your words, some insecure man will get all pressed about it etc

[Crimsyjo]

Yes haha I got upset too when I first came here and had some very harsh opinions from men. But I've been here long enough now to see it's only a few really with the "your used goods" attitude.
See it as opportunity for growth. You can learn it's OK for people to have an opinion. Doesn't mean they are right. And you learn resilience to let it wash over you eventually. I have had hook ups etc but my view is I'm free and single to do as I wish. I believe strongly in monogamy and detest cheating so I know for a fact I'm excellent girlfriend material.
I think if you really care, your wording could have been about "I've already had 5 relationships at 23" instead of "sexually active and on guy number 5" lol. Tho you still would have got a few here saying more than one or two makes you bad.

Oh and.. just if it interests you.. when I was your age I had 6 sexual partners before I met the man who became my husband and he was then my 7th. And I was 19 then. And our marriage lasted 12 years. My "history" and his never came up.

[4ngelic]

do kegels if you think you're loose. how tight or loose you are is determined by how developped your pelvic muscles are, you can't be stretched out by big dicks (that's a myth)

[OlderAndWiser]

You have diminished value but you may find a guy who accepts you despite your past. You only need to find one guy who can be The One.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

"diminished value" what does that even mean in the context, what are you calculating exactly lol?

[OlderAndWiser]

@Maybe_Maybe_not I have no idea why you don't understand that phrase.

[DrPepper12]

Is that some psychotic purity test? "Diminished value. It's sex not an appraisal!!! Go away.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

No idea you said, then, more precisely: Why would you want to use trigonometry to cook pasta?

[ChicoFromThe305]

Give up isn't the best solution for your situation, closing your legs seems like a more effective way to successfully date, you aren't a deli product, free samples isn't the way to go if you want success in dating considering that people that are good material for relationships seek for the same thing, the tightness of your genitals isn't important in this topic because normally they aren't even suppose to see it until y'all are serious but your behavior can say a lot about you or at the very least give the wrong impressions, from your story it seems you got used which is expected if I were to judge by your behavior.

[Asker]

Never had one night stands or been around heaps. All 4 guys I cared deeply about and two of which I dated for a while. 5th guy recently was someone I’ve known for a few years. So yeah um don’t jump to conclusions lol

[ChicoFromThe305]

I won't lie I was jumping to conclusions with both feet, actually I was dolphin diving to them conclusions but okay, this is new info, so let me ask this, was there commitment from both and were y'all both on the same page about it?

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

With both feet exactly 🤣

[natured]

Loose? So it cannot get loose due to intercourse, it's a flexible organ, it's either loose because that's how it is, or it's not... Visit a gyno so you will have a better Idea of how your kitty works, it's scary to me that you are 23 and you do not know how these things work... PLEASE visit a gyno

[Asker]

Thanks, will go see one.
FYI, I had no parents growing up and no adult guidance and was traumatised so hardly ever listened in school to even learn so… keep in mind some people actually were given shit cards in life and being kind costs you nothing.
I’m asking for help and opinions, not judgement.

[Miristheiss]

Well, you are waaaaaaaaaaay past being wife or long term girlfriend material.

You are hook up only territory. Any good man should flee.

Tons of pathetic simps though. You probably cannot land a high quality guy you want but a simp will take you.

[Asker]

I’ve only ever dated tho and never done hookups. 5th guy wanted a relationship etc and did nice things but then ghosted and came up with a girlfriend a few months later… how is it my fault when I love/care about someone and they either cheat or do wrong by me or like this guy, just ghost me which is a first and I’m so confused why you’d try date but then just not so…

[Miristheiss]

Start screwing at 15?

"How is that my fault"... the inability to accept responsibility for one's own actions is off the wall. Hey, the catches, the girls you want to marry... they weren't F-ing in high school at age 15. The tramps and sluts were doing that. At least you made it past age 14 before you engaged in an act that adults do, can make a baby, can transmit diseases.

[Asker]

At 15 I had no parents or any sort of adult guidance and my boyfriend at the time, who I loved dearly, told me if I didn’t sleep with him then I didn’t love him and he couldn’t be with me🙂 I was 15, a child who felt too bad to say no and had no adult guidance. I didn’t sleep around at 15. I dated him for two years too might I add.

[slatyb]

Have you tried going outside and calling for it?

Your kitty isn't loose. It's not made of rubber. It's a cavity in the abdomen surrounded by muscle. The tightness depends on the muscle tone. Strengthen your core and it will be as tight as you want it to be.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

"Loose" is subjective until some physician can say it is objective, then I think it's just in your head. Also, there is no relation at all between vagina and dating :)

[boggboss]

Or do some basic pelvic floor exercises or have the cocks that have been in you bigger then other women pushing babies out

[avery58]

If you don't want to feel used and ghosted then don't give them the option to treat you that way in the first place.

[Asker]

Yes because I totally know they’re going to do this to me when they from the beginning tell me they want to date and out in all this effort and then bam one random day it’s done. Yes cause I can totally tell it’s going to happen! Silly me😊

[avery58]

For me I don't let people that I'm just getting to know fuck me even if they say they want to date and looking for something serious. And yeah I got my heart broken by someone too, and trust me it was even worse because he was an ex boyfriend and someone close to me for years, but I don't regret not sleeping with him because I wanted to see real commitment from his side. I think I would have been feeling worse if I had fucked him.

That's just me, you do you. But I'm just sharing what has helped me

[DrPepper12]

What do you think you're going to wear it out? You can pass a BABY through there!! A FUCKING BABY!! It's the most flexible, robust bodily system you have!! You can't become "loose" in your vag... Anal on the other hand... 💩

[onedarkcloud]

Before you do anything see an OB/GNYN for a knowledgeable diagnosis as to what can be done to help your problem.

[jahaims]

You fuck guys because it gets you attention so you can feel good. You have to respect yourself before any guys will respect you. Otherwise guys will keep using you like that.

[Asker]

I do have respect for myself 😊 4 guys over the last 8 years, each who I cared deeply for and wanted nothing but a future with etc. I don’t hookup with randoms and the 5th guy from 4/5 months ago, known him for 2 years and I did very much so want to date etc. Matter of fact, I respect myself so much that I called every one of these guys out for how horrible they treated me when I wanted nothing but love and gave nothing but love. Go ahead tho and speak on how I need to respect myself ect… lol maybe don’t jump to conclusions

[Asker]

So no I didn’t fuck these guys cause of the attention and I felt good, I genuinely loved these people and did nothing but good by them.

[Anonymous]

You are obviously male.

Troll harder.

[Asker]

Your mistake babe x but sure! Next.

[DextroShade]

She belongs to the streets!

[Wiredone]

Take a little break but don't give up. Let your "kitty" relax and contract back

[Nerdvana]

I say you get a dog and you won't have to give up dating.

[OddBeMe]

I think you can find your cat in time.. oh. Wait I get it. Whats “hung” to you?

[LiamJHayden]

Do what @4ngelic said.

[Anonymous]

Either you're stupid or a guy on some fetish trip.

[Asker]

How am I stupid?

[Asker]

I’d actually love opinions on what to do… I’m stoned rn so I didn’t think about the “men acting as women” thing and how my post would seem but nah my post is fr. Curious why you’d think I’m stupid tho?

[Opinion Owner]

Asking about a loose vagina (never heard of that happening irl) and then rambling about something completly different about some guy ghosting you in the description

[Opinion Owner]

Maybe you beeing stoned is the problem haha come back when you cleared up

[Asker]

I only ask cause I’ve never had this happen. Like it’s on my mind bad… the sex was so bad like he was going at it and it just felt like I was being poked😣 idek how to explain it. Usually you get this filling of being filled and i just wasn’t. Not sure if it was a him problem or me cause he asked to put it in my ass and at that point I just died inside

[Asker]

Feeling of being filled*

[Opinion Owner]

Well then it just wasn't for you. Sex compatibility is important aswell in a relationship. He ghosted you anyway so just move on

[Asker]

Oh I’ve moved on for sure haha… just the whole situation has me anxious and feeling embarrassed

[Opinion Owner]

It sure must have been a weird situation, I am sure he felt it too otherwise he wouldn't have ghosted.

Might sound strange but dont worry about beeing "loose". Vaginas come in different sizes aswell inside and its normal to have different preferences of a mans size. Having sex with hung guys won't make you loose either or women would be running around with a big hole after giving birth.

[nawtee_me]

How loose? If you don’t mind me asking…

[gatixek710]

fake and gay