Does he just want sex?

[Anonymous]

I matched with a guy on online dating. I haven’t been dating for a year after I came of a really traumatic relationship where I was abused emotionally and sexually and controlled. I’ve been chatting to this guy and he wanted to exchange WhatsApp number pretty soon off the site. He suggested meeting up for a drink at a bar near his place. He states on his online dating profile that he’s looking for a long term relationship but the way he’s texting me suggests otherwise. We’ve been discussing our favourite movies and then he said “we should watch a movie together sometime”. This all feels really forward and I feel like he’s trying to suggest me going over to his place to watch a film together.

Do you think he’s just looking for one thing only? And how can I get myself out of this situation?

[Anonymous]

Avoid men that say they're not looking for anything long term. He's a hoe.

[Anonymous]

Why would you think that a guy pursuing a long term relationship would want to waste days and weeks communicating online instead of meeting in person? It's a genuine question--I really don't understand why you would think that makes sense.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't meet this guy anywhere except a public place until you know him. He sounds like a douche.

[Flower7]

The conversation sounds very normal to me. And maybe he didn't even mean watching the movie at his house, but at a movie theater. You're assuming a bit too much.

[Kaizer000]

You can just not go if you don't want to?