I’ve been talking to my crush and he’s English isn’t so good as English isn’t he’s first language. Judging by these messages do u think he wants to have sex with me? And why is he acting so secretive about it?
It could be either or. And depending on his culture trying to interact with you, the opposite gender and all the social rules involved in that in your culture may be difficult to do for him... He don't want to cross the line and push you away. But he also would like to achieve his goals, whatever that are.
So quite frankly, I suggest that you think about what *you* want and then ask him directly about it if you do want sex with him. And if not then be clear about that too... Communication between you is going to be difficult enough with the linguistic differences if you don't beat around the bush as well...
Yes, and he's secretive about it because he can pretend it was all just a misunderstanding if you say he's trying to fuck you. If you're interested in him then just tell him that so he stops beating around the bush. You will both benefit from this honesty.
And if you just want to be friends with him I wouldn't recommend going to visit him. Even if you tell him you don't want to have sex he will probably still try to charm you. Depending on what kind of a man he is that could mean thoughtful compliments or range to more aggressive tactics. Be cautious if you're not sure what kind of man he is.
How is he your 'crush' when it seems like you've never met him? And if you haven't met him in person before, I advice you not to go to his house. that could be very dangerous. Sorry I'm misjudging it just seems like you two are strangers. Yeah by the sounds of it he just wants sex, do u want to be with someone who just wants to use you?
That seems sketchy to me honestly. I've found that when a guy tries that hard to get you to his house, bad things can happen. I'm pretty sure he wants sex. He basically does everything but spell it out. If that is not something that interests you, keep it in public. I'm not going to lie, he seemed a bit creepy to me.
It's really possible. But I cannot judge him off just that. My suggestion is to ask him to go for dinner or ice cream somewhere and say you would still like to go to his house to cuddle and watch a movie after. If he still puts up a fuss , then don't see him.
Yeah I think it sounds like it wants to sleep with you, especially how he said to stay in his room and he sounds quite persistent for you to go to his house
There are some things that are almost universal. A romantic interest wanting to get you alone at his house almost always means that he wants to get you naked. I have the impression that you have never met him. Are you eager to have sex with him at this point?
Wtf do you think "talking" to someone leads to? Stages he likes you, he's talking to you, you guys hangout and get physical (holding hands kissing etc.) Don't meet first time at his place or yours. Go public. Now if you're not ready or uncomfortable USE YOUR BIG GIRL VOICE AND TELL HIM. Guys are not mind readers damn
Its not that easy to judge since we can't see all the context. He could be shy or afraid to be in public with a girl and wants to just hangout with you. Or just as others say he could just be wanting sex. If you dont trust his intentions, better meet in public or not at all.
I don’t think he’s asking for sex, more just that you can come over and do whatever you wanna do, like when you would go to your friends house without any particular idea as to how to spend your time. Probably better to meet some place public if this is like your first date.
Clearly he wants sex but he is trying to make you feel like it's your idea to have sex so that you're more likely to have sex with him. Clearly he's played this game a lot, so I'm doubtful that this guy is worth your time. Consider that fair warning. Just my opinion not hate.
At this point he might want to have sex but he didn't say it straight away because he doesn't want to be put in a situation where he says I want to have sex but you see him awkward because you don't want to have sex this will put him in a position that he doesn't really want
He is not secretive but he not open with you fully. It takes time. May be you are not as well. Else why you guys are beating around Bush. Why you want it explicit clear, what and how you want it. Hangout and see where it goes. If u don't want sex than choose a place where it is not possible to have sex for hanging out
I would say yes he looks like he wants to have sex but you have to ask yourself what you really want. If you want something serious, you should avoid having sex until you know he wants a relationship too. If you do want to have sex with him however, than you go ahead you can after all your the one who know yourself the most. Take Care
He wants to get you to his house for some reason, that much is obvious. At a guess, that reason would be to have sex.
You are right to exercise caution and insist on meeting in a public place. Only go to his place when you feel safe and make sure someone knows where you are
Obviously, it's shown that he wanted sex, he's just your crush, not your boyfriend yet. Except he stay with other family members, or you frequently hang out or dating in other places, then you can tell that he is only want you to becoming more comfortable with him when it's only you and him alone, because you can watch movie, you can play games or you can cook with him, etc
In general, guys want sex. And this guy definitely he want sex. Why he is acting secretive about it? I do believe he is coming from eastern culture, like Arab culture, which talking about sex or ask for sex is taboo. Just be careful. Meet him in public first, if he is Ok, do it. Don't go to his home for the first time like this. Test him first.
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If what you have to offer is more than sex, then he probably wants that. If all you have to offer is sex, then he probably wants that.
Think of it this way. If you met a really attractive guy that had so much to offer, was really interesting, you learned something new, exciting, thought provoking and unique every single time you talked and you went to see him, would sex be your primary motivation?
1. He is shy and awkward kind of guy. 2. He may want sex or maybe just a kiss and cuddle
Now What you should do.. Ask him for if you guys can go for a dinner or a movie. If he is OK to go , you will figure it out what he wants and if not then he just wanna slip it in!
Julie, ur azamption about ur crush is definitely right. Sex is a part of our life, where both have grown the same interests and it spices up the relationship. But there shouldn't be any hide and seek in saying love making. The man who is not capable to say, in future how will he will be able to maintain the responsibilities. Over the world nothing can be a barrier of exposing love and language... of course not... dear.
Not to sure who messages are his but if you are serious about each other you should be able to talk to each other communication is important. If he's a virgin he might feel scared or if might want to marry you first.
Yea duh, house and just me and girlfriend gonna end in sex 80% of the time unless we both go for movie or some other thing. Also why is he secretive fuck if i know, to me it looks like a cringy try at hinting "hey wanna get laid" More questions tho "my one"? The hells with that even if he ain't got at English
Clearly, he can't give you an exact agenda of what he has planned, whether to watch a movie, study, get ready to go out together and the second give away is that he's literally asking you to come to his house.
Gosh, so confusing... I think it's important you take the lead in planning the thing. Clear communication is certainly not a strong point of him! Let's hope he's a really sweet guy that you'll enjoy meeting :D
he sounds like he wants sex, though it could also be what my girlfriend did, at the beginning of our relationship (because we are quite far apart 40min) where she wanted to see what i was like when we werent out dating
Yeah he wants sex but is carefull he doesn't want to say it out loud because he is affraid that you would say something like "what? You pig!" and never talked to him again. So he just kinda hopes that you will confirm that you want sex too.
By the sounds of it. Just sounds shy. Doesn't know what to say or is worried something will cause offence or sound disgusting. But by the sounds he's interested.
Meet a few times in public, it seems he already is calling you his by the phrase "my One". It could sound like wanting sex, but I'd say to be safe date for a bit of you are interested, but don't stay over his house til you are sure of his motives.
He did say yeah on Monday you can come my one more than once, he also said yeah when you free? or do you can meet me at my hose anytime. I'd go with yes he wants sex, after all he's a guy.
Your answer dont make that much sense because not every guy is like you said and search a girl just for sex it could be that he thinks you are pretty or cute or something like that and he first like to met you befor you have sex together.
@Rattyworm You're right it's people with opinions, the messages the OP posted and asked if we thought he wanted to have sex with her. I realize English is not the language he's accustomed to, that said, I really couldn't say if he wants sex with her or not, they are difficult to understand what he wants.
@FilipPapez I don't know why I gave an opinion to begin with, on a question with one sided text messages only from someone I couldn't understand. If you were to write in German I wouldn't understand anymore than the one sided text messages, what I would like is to remove myself from this question.
I don't think he wants to swap baseball cards or watch re-runs of Pawn Stars. If he's not after sex then i can't imagine why else he would be offering you the opportunity to stay with him in his room!!!
Yes if he's planning to share bed with you yes he may not ask for it but it's definitely what he wants. So he may try or may not try but hope you can try. But I definitely believe this guy wants sex
Sounds like sex. I'd say ask him. If he doesn't flat out say it, then pressure him to. If he still doesn't tell him how you feel. A simply " Are you asking for sex" will clear it all up.
As I guy who has been falsely accused of gender violence I can relate to the fellow. Nowadays with feminist laws if you are a man you are guilty until poven inoccent and not the other way arround. Its your responsability to be carefull and take care of your self, so I completly understand why he wants to meet in public (witnesses/saveguard) and not in private
I think he's having some misconceptions about u. Probably he thinks u r intrested in physical stuff so is he.. He sounds little desperate but that coz he perceived u wrong... Or may b his last experiences are trying to woo him.. Talk to him about ur feelings and ask him to take things slow nd in a meaningful ways...
He's probably some 40 year old man. Honestly... Of course he wants to screw you.. he's a guy. Why else would he say everything you want. You should know just because he's a crush does not mean you trust him implicitly. Practice due diligence.
To me it just seems like he's down for whatever. Sex. Watching TV. Eating. Whatever you wanna do. That's all he's saying. If you don't want to have sex with him then don't.
It could be either yes or no. It could be manipulation for sex or inexperience to just hang out. Based on what you know of him, you're the best judge of which is more likely.
Just because a guy is looking to have sex doesn't mean he will throw you away afterwards. Its a myth... and women are more likely to buy these myths and beliefs than men.
I have seen many female bloggers writing stuffs like having sex at the beginning of sexual relationship is bad. They say that men are not polygamous and monogamy is just imposed on them through marriages. They argue that men don't value women who are easy to get as long term partners because they fear losing them to someone who is sexier than them. Also men wants sex more than women and when you are not able to give him what he wants he will look for alternative ways to get it. For men mental connection is not necessary to have sex, a woman just have to be physically appealing.
Likely, but for sure he wants some he can't say, weather he can't due to inappropriateness or due to a lack of words is the only question. All things given i would however lean towards sex
Break his heart before he breaks yours Lool but it kinda sounds like he trying to sleep with you but at the same time his English isn’t that great, if I were you don’t expect he’s a type of a way just sit back and watch
He wants to fuck he has an erection i bet when i invit girls over to my hpuse it was ONLY AND RESTRICTLY for SEX!! I didn't invite them to show my show my doll collection.. Try to make your move if he seems timid.. Kk
I think he wants to know you more but his the shy type and he will do what ever you ask of him he will be a gentle type of character just his English that is not well but I don't think he wants to have sex
Sounds pretty blatant to me doesn't sound hidden at all because it would be less totally obvious that's he's beating around the Bush basically I think he wants you to say it for him
Definitely sounds like a sex invitation, especially since he seems to really want u alone at his house. My question is if he is really English... Why would English be hard for him?
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